What do I do when I lose trust

[Ilovemypaci]

I’m a little boy. It is really uncommon from what I can tell, but I can’t help it I love being babied and cuddles and my hair being played with among a lot of other things I enjoy when I’m in little space. I was introduced to DDlg by a girl I was dating. We slowly got into it and I became her daddy and learned a lot about little space and how to be a daddy. After a while I realized I was a little too.

It was hard and new for me to open up to someone like that and be that vulnerable. I’m male and the world tells me that I have to be manly and me being in little space feels the opposite of manly. My mommy made me comfortable, she gained my trust and I could really be myself while I was around her.

She cheated on me, multiple times, after I gave her multiple chances to work on our relationship and fix it. Now I’m thinking to myself “how will I ever find another mommy?” “How will I find someone who when I tell them about my MDlb history won’t laugh at me and think I’m a weirdo”. How do I trust people again when my mommy, the person who I believed cared about me most in this world, cheated so many times?

 

Simply, how do I trust again?

[Brother Bear]

I cant tell you how to trust again, but I wanted to encourage you! I can see that you feel different. This might make you feel alone. I'm a Daddy, but I also have a little side too. I'm not submissive, but I'm still little in my heart sometimes. I generally don't share this publicly, but I wanted you to know that you are not completely alone.

 

The cheating is hard to deal with. Literally every woman I have ever loved has been unfaithful to me. I know how heartbreaking it feels! There is hope though! There are absolutely people in this world that strive to be faithful. You will be loved and cherished! It might take some time to find the right person, but it's going to happen eventually. Until then, your friends will help you get through it. *hugs*

 

PS - Ignore the world's stance on what a man should and should not be. There are many things that I enjoy and do that are considered feminine. This does not make me feel less masculine and it certainly doesn't make me look less manly. Own who you are! Be proud of it! There is nothing more masculine than that.

Edited August 1, 2019 by Brother Bear

[Little kaiya]

Just thought I'd chime in on a couple of points. First there are a TON of little boys out there, in fact probably more than little girls. You are on a DDlg site and although it is inclusive it still is titled DDlg so makes sense more little girls then boys might be here. Other sites are definitely skewed the other way, just something to be aware of really.

 

Second, the world and society can tell you whatever it wants but the only one who decides how much to listen or whether to listen at all is you. I get the perceived social pressure, I'm genderfluid, in a loving polyamorous relationship, committed to someone half my age, collared 24/7 365 and a little at 41. Society isn't exactly kind on one if those things let alone all of the together. That said, my Wife, Daddy, my friends, close family and I don't care and that's what's important. Do you hun and don't let alone else tell you otherwise.

 

Lastly, cheaters will cheat, you can't do anything about that fact. What you can do is put the blame for that squarely where it belongs, on them. Cheating is a choice, regardless of excuses people may give for cheating, e.g. falling out of love, changing, bad relationship, etc., the better answer to all of that is talk it out or leave before cheating. You need to decide if you let, yep it's your choice, their cheating keep you from another relationship or not. Personally, and yes I have been cheated on twice, I refuse to let cheaters win and the best way to do that is go on with your life and find happiness.

 

Little kaiya

[Guest LittleSnowiii]

You will find a new one when your self esteem gets better. I'm saying this because that person took advantage of your kind heart, and you rewarded that feeling multiple times. Of course it wasn't conscious (I've done the same), but you need to realise that to find an amazing partner, it comes from you. You need to put things on the table and be like "ok I need this and this, I'm not ok with this" etc. Establish boundaries for them and for yourself. It will help the other person to know what you need , and if they violate them is a bye bye. 

Our lives are way too short to spend with the wrong people. If you do, you won't have time to find the right one ^^

[Guest AlexaKim]

Time my dear. Time. Giving yourself time. I understand how you feel. Before I was a Mommy, I was a little. I went through a lot being lied to cheated on and the list was endless. Trust became an issue.... I gave myself time and things fell into play. It is not easy to trust again when trust is broken. Give yourself a chance..... the right person will come and deep down you will know she is the one. How you can regain trust, no one can tell you how... its just something that will come to you eventually. Be strong and take courage. It gets better. I wish you the best. Just be yourself and be the good little boy you have been and you will see... take care

[MadelynVictoria]

Try to remember not all people are like her. You'll find someone who isn't a cheating trashheap, and will give you the love and care that you deserve

[Ilovemypaci]

[PiperParadis]

What is manlier that a man admitting what he fears, believes, likes and does that aren't "manly stuff" and to oppose to what society tells? A different kind of courage is needed to admit to be different. Doing as you're told and behaving as you should is not manlier, it's utterly cowardice. Do as you want, feel as you wish. You're a brave person.

 

About the cheating stuff... as Little kaiya said, it's up to them. You should feel good for yourself, you gave her plenty of opportunities. You'll learn in the future how not to get hurt or when you just have to push aside this kind of ppl from your life, but in the meantime, you've proved you're a noble person, somebody who trusts and believes in others. With time, you'll feel better. People come and go, and you've done the toughest thing already, which is to admit what you like and what you want.

 

I hope you find a lovely person soon