Question for Caregivers (Littles can share their experience too!)

[Guest Acenya]

Are you always in daddy/mommy/caregiver space? 

 

I know I'm not 24/7 in little space so I couldn't expect my future daddy to be either.

I'm wondering how do you resolve situations if only one is in the "right" space?

 

For instance - what would you do if you had a day that you weren't in caregiver spirits

but your little really needs it specifically that day for whatever reason? Or the other way around?

 

There are no right or wrong answers, I'm just curious to know about your experience.

[SparkyShark]

I'm not always in caregiver space, though i think it's always floating around somewhere back there in my brain because I naturally have a "protector" type personality. The protecting just might not always be the soft, nurturing type 24/7 that littles need a lot of the time.

 

If I'm not in that headspace while my little needs it, I'll try to do my best to fill that role for them, regardless of how i feel. The attempt may not be 100% successful, but i would certainly try.

 

Hopefully the little would understand, seeing that their caregiver doesn't seem 100% there, that caregivers need time for themselves as well.

[Guest Niet meer]

One thing is clear. Daddy-space cannot be achieved without a little to care for. So this past year I have not been in Daddy-space a lot, only in short role plays.

So to answer your question: I can only be in Daddy-space when I have a little.

90% of the time my little knows what to say or how to behave to trigger Daddy-space, so I will not be in it the first moment but be deeply swung into it by my little triggering it.

I have never experienced a lack of Daddy-space when a little needed it.

[Alaskan Daddy]

as a daddy I am always in caregiver space, I just have different levels of caregiving. They are from Adult caregiving,

little space caregiving and then the sexual caregiving. There are just somedays the energy for those spaces is higher than

other days. Every little I have had as been a match to the kind of care she needed to the kind of care I give out.

And sometimes I needed to adjust. I hope this makes sense.

[Brother Bear]

A poster above said that Daddy-space cannot be achieved without a little to care for. I don't relate to that experience. Everyone is different so I am not saying he is wrong, just that for me it works differently. I am a Daddy because I love people. When I go to the grocery store I am Daddy to the cashier when I am checking out. I ask her about her day and how she is doing. I tell her that her earrings look nice or her nails are done really well. I give her a chance to talk about what is bothering her if she needs to vent (most people working in retail or a service role do!). The same thing happens when I go out for lunch. I talk to my waiter in the same way and try to care for him as best as I can in the short amount of time I have with him.

 

If there is no one else around, then I care for myself. I am my own Daddy in those moments. Haha.

 

Summary: It's 24/7 for me.

[zanderandspike]

hm, for me, cg space is really about who I'm around, in the same way a friend can sometimes trigger little space someone may trigger cg space, but mostly cg space is just a way of responding to a situation, if I'm little I may pout where as if I'm big I may sigh and get it done, but if I'm cg I can coach myself though it

 

I agree with both MeneerM and Brother Bear actually lol, it's easier to slide into cg space with a little, but there are things people may do accidentally or on purpose that bring it out

 

Usually if someone wants to be little and I'm not feeling it, I will act as if I am until I am, it's not hard to bring out cg me, and I've never been in the reverse situation 

 

for me being a cg is pretty natural, and it's kinda easier to be a cg then to be little with someone else if that makes sence

~a switch

[junebug0325]

as a daddy I am always in caregiver space, I just have different levels of caregiving. They are from Adult caregiving,

little space caregiving and then the sexual caregiving. There are just somedays the energy for those spaces is higher than

other days. Every little I have had as been a match to the kind of care she needed to the kind of care I give out.

And sometimes I needed to adjust. I hope this makes sense.

 

I agree! My Daddy and I have talked about this many times, actually. He says that he is always in some sort of caregiver space, but the levels of that vary. For example, if he is out shopping by himself or he is at work, he has a low level of "Daddy" (if that makes sense). But when he is with me, his caregiver side comes out more, and is more visible if an outsider were to look in on the situation. Ultimately, he is always in a caregiver space but the energy for that varies based on many different things.

 

Thanks for posting! I hope this comment helps!

 

 

 

Junebug xxx

[Papi.B]

I have been having similar issues related to this recently. I love being a caregiver and Daddy for my baby, but due to stress depression and other outside forces is impossible for me to be in daddy space all the time (which it seems like she wants even when she's not in little space). I feel like I would fall more into the category of "switch" than "Daddy Dom". I don't have a little space Persona myself, but crave the love and attention that I give to her while caregiving. Sorry if this is kind of off topic and more venting than anything.

[neko]

so my daddy and i only refer to each other as Daddy and Baby, never our real name. Its not a protocol thing or an expectation. its just something we've gotten used to. using each others real name almost seems foreign.

 

any way the reason i brought that up is because using those names feels like we're always flowing in and out of daddy/little space. theres no point where its really "turned off" because we dont just say "okay i dont want to be in daddy space any more" or "i dont feel like being a baby right now"

 

we can go from talking about, idk boring taxes to daddy babying me then back to boring taxes, in an instant. if i dont feel like being the baby then i dont act like the baby and thats really it.

 

i cant really say the same for my daddy because its just in him to be daddy. if we're having an adult conversation he'll still tell me i cant do certain things because im too small which i think is adorable

Edited July 30, 2019 by neko

[Little kaiya]

I asked my Daddy your questions and his response was, "I dont have a Daddyspace. Whether you're in littlespace or not you're still always my little and I love you and will care for you no matter what."

 

From my perspective, I'm certainly not always in littlespace but whether I am or not he's still always my Daddy.

 

We are who we are and that caring element, both ways, will always be there. Being a Daddy (for him) or a little (for me) aren't roles that we're in some days and not others. If he's having a rough day then I support him whether in or out of littlespace or whether he's feeling Daddy like or not. In the same way, if I'm having a rough day, little or big, he supports me. For us it's just called having a relationship and that transcends the idea of Daddy or little roles.

 

Maybe it's because we also have a collared D/s relationship but whether I am in "the right space" or not I still listen. How he expresses dominance or how I react may change but since it's about more than just a headspace for us the power exchange dynamic, and thus a huge part if our DDlg relationship, always exists for us no matter what.

 

Little kaiya

Edited July 31, 2019 by Little kaiya