Advice - Talking to daddy

[Sparks]

My first/new/only daddy is really loving and amazing, and treats me really really nice. He makes me so happy. 

 

I'm just having a little problem that maybe someone here can help with. He doesn't really talk much about himself but he asks me stuff about me all the time. When we're together I just feel like he wants to know everything about me and he'll let me rattle on for ages about this and that. Then I ask him stuff about him and he gives me really short answers and we go back to talking about me. 

 

I really don't like talking about myself all the time 

It feels so self centered. And I want him to feel loved and appreciated too, and to get to know him better. 

 

It's not like I don't know anything about him...I know where he lives, family situation, job, hobbies, friends, likes/dislikes etc. But I'm just getting a bit overwhelmed and annoyed with myself that I can't make our together time more balanced and our conversations more about him too. 

 

Any of you daddies/mommies/littles have suggestions for what I can do to help him open up a little more or make everything less about me all the time?

 

*EDITED for inclusiveness <3

Edited July 27, 2019 by Sparks

[Brother Bear]

Do you feel this way only because you feel like its unfair? If so, just consider that he may just not like talking about himself very much. Maybe he feels loved and appreciated when you open up to him about yourself? My Dad was like that. Sweetest guy on earth, super fun to be around, made you feel like the center of the world, but never talked about himself. It was just the way he was.

[Alaskan Daddy]

that is a good question. As a daddy I am always asking any little I might have things about her so I can get to know her

and give the best care I can But what I would do with your daddy is when you ask him a question tell him you want him to

dig into his heart and expound on his thoughts. But if your daddy is like me then I know he loves hearing you talk and

telling him about yourself. He already knows that you love and appreciate him because you talk and open up to him. He

does not think you are self centered. But I also understand your feelings about wanting more about who he is inside his

heart. Think of questions that he has to give more than one word answers. Most important tell him that is what you want

and need from him. I would also do this in baby steps. I hope this helps and good luck

[korilakkuma]

I have the same issue with my Daddy

Most of the time, he wouldn't share until I ask. And when I ask, he would give short answers...

 

I just tell myself that my Daddy doesn't like sharing much or that he's not that talkative. Or in some cases, he doesn't feel comfortable enough to share some things. We are fairly new, after all. We've been together for a year

[lost_signal]

It's possible that he has had a rough time in his life and is unhappy talking openly about it; maybe even embarrassed. Men can be very proud creatures and unwilling to admit mistakes or imperfect existences which are solely based on societal norms. It's in our conditioning to be quiet about things that have made us appear weak in the face of said norms. For instance, a man may have helped raise a child who didn't belong to him or, loved a woman unconditionally who abused him. The list can go on and on but what it comes down to is that men are stereotyped into one role and women are as well. Maybe he broke the stereotype and isn't willing to talk about it. However, that's only a guess.

 

We as humans are confusing creatures, even to ourselves at times. However, when we're ready, we are willing to open up to others and bring them into our deepest depths. Try not to be pushy or, too overbearing in regards to his closed door and eventually it will crack open a bit allowing you to see into the next room of his life. Obviously, if his door stays closed beyond your comfort zone then maybe it's time to leave. It sounds cruel but everything we do as human beings is a lesson not only for you but, for the person you're involved with.

 

Be patient, be kind and, be understanding that we're all different and we're all complex. I trust you will understand, miss.

[Guest Niet meer]

I really think this is something you need to discuss with him. We can all guess what would be the problem, but you will have to work it out together. When you are not happy with the communication within your relationship you have to bring that topic up and work it out together. It will be your task to do so since you have issues with it.

I hope you guys can sort things out

[Guest LittleSnowiii]

That's what people do when they're interested. He's so into you that he is asking things Is totally normal!

Which means if you want him to talk about himself, you'll need to be the one to make questions and start the conversation.

[KittyPrettyKitty]

It might take some time for him to fully open up and be comfortable telling you:) my daddy had a very hard past, so I went through the same thing. But now he trusts me more tgan anyone on this world :3 just be patient, or tell him exactly what you just said here. Trust me, it'll help

[Sparks]

Thanks so much everyone. Good to know my daddy isn't the only one  

 

I think I'll try to ask him more about his interests or ask him to tell him about something he knows a lot about when its sleepy time. Maybe if he's in full daddy mode he'll feel better opening up and stuff.