I need some help please.

[Hey_Its_Me]

I brought up this topic to my boyfriend abd ge was completely closed minded. He started calling it weird when I told him this might be a part of me and told me he really hopes I'm not. I don't know what to do

[Guest BigDaddyP]

That’s a really tough place to be. I’m sorry you’ve encountered such a difficult situation.

 

Some people can’t get their heads around the lifestyle, thinking it’s an unnatural kink or just wrong. Passing it off as just being childish or perverted.

 

The hard part is trying to work out what to do next.

 

Do you hide it from the world and explore it in private to find out if it’s what you want?

 

Do you ignore it and hope it goes away?

 

Or find someone more understanding and explore this side of you comfortably?

 

So many deductions to be made and many more than just the above.

 

I hope this helps a little and if you want to talk more, feel free to message me.

 

Good luck! *big squishy hugs*

 

BDP

[Big_daddy]

Give him time to mentally process what you told him.  He might do research on his own.

He might bring it up soon, or maybe not.  If he doesn't then one day maybe try just calling him "daddy" and see how he responds.

[Alaskan Daddy]

first of all you can help who you are and how you feel. Also your BF can not helps how he feels. What I would do is to let

him cool off and ask him to share what he feels in a calm manner about DDLG. But you need to respect his feelings

as his feelings and not get upset with what he may tell you. I would then ask him to listen to your feelings in a calm

manner. But you need to realize he may never understand or accept anything about DDLG. It does not make him a bad guy,

it just means he wants no part of it.

I hope this works out for you and I wish you the best of luck

[Alaskan Daddy]

sorry my first sentence should have said 'you cannot help how you feel'

[Guest Aetherr]

Give him time to mentally process what you told him.  He might do research on his own.

He might bring it up soon, or maybe not.  If he doesn't then one day maybe try just calling him "daddy" and see how he responds.

 

thats a pretty shitty thing to do to a guy without consent

 

regardless of what he may have said or done

 

op let him process it then bring it up if his answer has not changed then its upto you to decide if you love him enough to go without but his reaction tells me he may not be worth that but hey im a random on the internet so i cant say anything definite either way

[Little kaiya]

I really wouldn't recommend just calling him Daddy out of the blue to see how he responds. He's told you he finds it weird so calling him Daddy out of the blue doesn't respect his feelings and to me feels like trying to force it on him which isn't ok.

 

If he had said he was unsure or neutral or tells you he's changed his mind then giving it a try might be more ok but from what you described it just sounds like for now or unless he indicates differently that doing it would be a really disrespectful and selfish thing to consider doing.

 

Little kaiya

Edited July 25, 2019 by Little kaiya

[Guest littlebabyslittlespace]

Don't call him daddy out of the blue. He clearly doesn't like the ides of this so please don't force it upon him. If you feel this is a big part of you then in all honesty I'd leave him especially if you feel you'd he unhappy without this. It won't be you choosing this lifestyle over him, it'll be you choosing what makes you happy. It was so disrespectful of him to treat you that way over it, I'd have left already

[Guest smitten]

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[Guest LittleSnowiii]

I'll be totally honest. 

What I'm about to say it doesn't excuse the way he said you're "weird" though. Everyone has kinks, rude af to judge you.

BUT everyone has preferences. You can't force him to like what you like. So if he doesn't seem interested, it is what it is. Just explore other kinks with him 

[Breakingrules]

Pff, this is hard. Must be hard for you too.

Just try it for a bit for a little while, ask him to do certain stuff for you, show him a stuffie that you like, sit on his lap, give him the control in the bedroom (if you want to make it sexual) and just see how he reacts.

Sometimes people are a bit close-minded and maybe he'll like it... 

 

But on the other hand, not everything is for anyone. Maybe he just isnt a Daddy, he doesnt like the term or the lifestyle. 

 

but I'm proud of you for telling this to him  

[BakedPotato]

It is what it is. I would say that if its a serious relationship, to sit down with him. Tell him look, i know this isnt an easy conversation, but if you really love me, you would at least sit here calmly with me and listen. Then explain that youve been trying to understand yourself better, and this makes the most sense to you. It sounds weird because of a lable. But the lable probably isnt what makes you feel connected to this group. So tell him that if you take the labels off, its just a classy 50s style relationship. In my opinion of course. You just mix in a little- who is just an adult with a childlike mind who wants to be free to not be judged for having a child like mind. And a daddy- who understands those minds exists, and wants them to exist freely, and tobe able to do so safely.

 

At the end of the day, him wanting or not wanting to sit down and talk about this will be very telling.

 

Dont let your heart get in the way of what will make you feel respected and loved.

[Big_daddy]

I really wouldn't recommend just calling him Daddy out of the blue to see how he responds. He's told you he finds it weird so calling him Daddy out of the blue doesn't respect his feelings and to me feels like trying to force it on him which isn't ok.

 

Being direct can get you the answer you desire quickly.  Life is short.  No point in wasting more time than necessary.

If OP waits a couple of months to let her boyfriend mentally process the whole Daddy thing then maybe when she calls him "daddy" he will have been lowkey waiting for it and he will like it. If he still doesn't like it at that point then OP can move on and find some one else who suits her better.

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

Don't try to make someone something they're not. If he doesn't want to be your Daddy, ask if you can have a platonic caregiver. If not, decide whether you can be little without one