"Friend" acts like my cg, but isn't..

[yxchae]

Hey. So, this is going to be rambly and I'm trying to understand my feelings/emotions and, well, figure all of this out without having to talk to my friend about it. 

 

I met this person, I'll call them R, about a month and a half ago. We started out barely talking but communicating a little (due to a group we were in), all online etc. Half a month in, we started talking properly - moved to another platform, talked a lot more about random stuff - and now we talk almost constantly whenever we are free. 

 

But I'm getting so many mixed signals.

They're (seemingly) naturally more... I don't know how to explain it. They seem more naturally suited to a caregiving-type role, and every other thing they say pushes me into little space (happily). We have normal conversations but then we also have conversations where they take on this role and react to my behaviour/actions as though they were my cg.. but they're not. 

 

Its just.. little things in the conversations we have; pet names they use for me and ones they want me to use, telling me to eat and basic stuff like that and then just... general semi-flirty stuff. 

 

I don't know if I'm reading too much in to it or not.. I kind of just want to not say anything because I'm too scared of it ruining what we have right now. 

 

Does anyone have any advice? Or experience of similar things - being around/friends/talking to people who put you in little space/act like your cg without realising it? 

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

Sounds like they wanna be your cg and if you are not interested in that then let them know but if you are then roll with it

[yxchae]

Sounds like they wanna be your cg and if you are not interested in that then let them know but if you are then roll with it

 

How do I know they even know about ddlg stuff, or want to be my cg? They don't even know about me being little etc.. 

[KittenWhispers92]

Communication is the most important thing ever.

[Guest littlebabyslittlespace]

Honestly, just ask them!

[Alaskan Daddy]

What I would do is tell your friend how the conversations you have make you feel and he may tell you how they make him

feel, or you can ask him how they make him feel. In my opinion that is a very non-threating way for you to understand how

he feels towards you with out asking.

I hope this helps and good luck

[Guest LittleSnowiii]

Seems like they want to be a cg. But you will only know for sure if you ask. You have nothing to lose ^^ 

[BigNutBrownHare]

You sound like a Little who knows their own mind, and may have found a Daddy who doesn't know it yet (or is equally shy about saying it).  Its early days.  Don't be too quick to put a label on the relationship between you and your friend. You are naturally cautious, partly because you don't want to lose them and you know DDLG is easy to misread from the outside.  Although communication is king, it doesnt mean you blurt out without thinking. Self-protection has to play a big part.  Given that you DO know what you want, you can help your prospective CG find their feet.  Focus on the fact that you like each other, and build the trust through simply enjoying each others company.  If you gradually introduce phrases that point more clearly to where you are coming from ("You make me feel safe - you are almost like my Daddy - can I call you that??") You will rapidly become clear on what they are comfortable with, without waving a flag.  If you know they feel the same as you (and no - it may not be black and white), you can move on to the bigger conversations to ensure you are both getting what you need from the relationship longer term.

 

Stay safe.

 

BNBH