just need to vent

[Guest Kittenprincessxo]

I know there's no "wrong way" of being little or middle (idk, I'm not sure what I am).

But I just always have felt like I'm not enough. This has nothing to do with my caregiver. He tries so hard to convince me that I am enough, but I can never believe it myself.

I've always struggled with low self esteem. I don't think there's ever been a time in my life when I have felt okay with myself.

I can never see myself as enough and I don't think I will. It scares me, but I don't think I'll ever be comfortable with myself

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

Have you sought professional help?

[LittleTeacup]

To go along with professional help, or if you can't afford it, two recommendations:

 

Say "no matter what, I wholeheartedly love and accept myself" several times a day, facing a mirror if possible. 

Before you go to bed, write down (maybe with your caregiver) at least 3 things you're grateful for that day.

 

We support you here.

[Guest LittleSnowiii]

This isn't a little problem. Is an overal problem.

Until you fix your self esteem, your little self won't be what you want. And that's ok! Because these things take time

The first thing you can do is talk to yourself , like you would do your best friend. Be your bestie, you know? Alot of positive self talk, self love. 

Be yourself 100%. 

From there baby steps, and if possible some therapy. 

Wish you the best of luck!

[Guest brattynsweet]

I know there's no "wrong way" of being little or middle (idk, I'm not sure what I am).

But I just always have felt like I'm not enough. This has nothing to do with my caregiver. He tries so hard to convince me that I am enough, but I can never believe it myself.

I've always struggled with low self esteem. I don't think there's ever been a time in my life when I have felt okay with myself.

I can never see myself as enough and I don't think I will. It scares me, but I don't think I'll ever be comfortable with myself

I feel exactly the same. I wish I could give you advice, but I'm also struggling.

[Nymph]

Hmm the tricky part of this is that if your CG tries to hard to help you, if you are not ready for it it will just feel like a slap to the face reminding you how "lacking" you are. Praise such as saying you are beautiful translates to "you are just taking pity because I am so ugly and you are trying to be nice".

 

At least you are aware this is not your CG problem and you do realize it is low self esteem and not this absolute truth that you can't do anything about.

 

Perhaps a good step would be to pay more attention who exactly are you comparing yourself with. Ask yourself what, in your view is actually enough and why can't you never get there?

 

Sometimes it's good to not feel too comfortable with who you are because it pushes you to work harder and better yourself, but if you are just drowning in self pity then it's stopping you from enjoying life and that is a serious problem.