Learning to Let Go

[PrincessSnow]

Hi there! I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice please. I am in a loving, amazing relationship with my Daddy and I am very much in love with him, and trust him with my life. But I find it very difficult to express my little side in front of him, and even alone. I have a lot of feelings of shame towards it, though I do think it's the most wonderful thing in the world. I find it difficult to get into a consistent little space, and I often feel like I don't deserve to be little, and that I need to earn it in some way.

 

Has anyone else encountered similar feelings in themselves?

 

Thank you. <3

[Daddys__kitten]

Sweetie! Been there, done that!!! I was exactly like that in the beginning, I felt silly, needy and god knows what.. And even worse, I thought daddy thought that I was silly when I was little. I felt so ashamed that I didn't show daddy my little side as much as I wanted (AND NEEDED!!). So we had a long talk (wine..) and he told me that he absolutely loves my little side, nothing makes him feel more meaningful, poweful and loved then when I'm little. That made the sillyfeeling go away.

[PrincessSnow]

Thank you, Daddys__kitten! It sucks so much to feel like this, but it's helpful to hear others have gone through it and got over it. Thank you for your reply, sweetie. <3

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

If you are happy and healthy, then there is no reason to feel shame in being a little! Your Daddy loves you for who you are and that in itself is amazing. Just remember that you are doing no harm to yourself or others by being a little. Good luck!

[SparklyKittens]

Of course you deserve to feel little! It's who you are! And you should feel more comfortable to be little in front of your Daddy! At least I do. Never ever EVER let yourself feel ashamed of being who you are! EVER!

[PrincessSnow]

Thank you so much pouty kitten and SparklyKittens! It's so nice to have your support. Kisses to you all! <3

[Papa James]

Shame voices

 

Listen closely to the things going on in your head, the shame voices, that lead you into feeling shame over your littleness. There may be subtle background voices that shame you, repeating over and over in your head, like a tape loop. These voices are often associated with an overly critical parent or authority figure in your youth. If you notice these messages or shame voices, then first acknowledge them. Next, talk back to them in your mind. Be serious and protective of yourself by telling the shame voices they are no longer welcome. Tell them to depart immediately. Repeat this procedure every time they try to shame you.

[Magi]

I have the same problem. I feel shame some for wanting to be little.

[Daddys__kitten]