DDLG/Agere

[PrincessKittyx]

Hello everyone!
 

I'm new here to this forum but wanted to get some outside opinions on a lot of questions I've been having regarding DDLG and Agere. I feel like this would be a great place to ask since a lot of you can probably help and have a lot more experience in these communities in comparison to myself. So for some context, my Daddy and I originally were in a dom/sub dynamic but I didn't care for it TOO much because it felt like too big of a power dynamic considering we were just starting out. As we got further into it, we both kind of noticed that I had more "little" characteristics, such as loving stuffed animals, bed time stories, cute nicknames and overall I go into a different headspace that is really "little". On occasion it's involuntary and other times, it is voluntary. 

 

I always thought us to be more a DDLG type couple until recently making a social media account. Now I'm getting perplexed between DDLG and Age regression as both are similar as far as being a "little" goes. I know there's a difference and that DDLg is often associated with age play, however I am absolutely NOT into AGE PLAY. Our dynamic has always been NON SEXUAL and maintaining a caregiver type of role, however he still acts like a "daddy." So far the difference I have heard between the communities is that ddlg is associated with age play, while age regression is non sexual and has a caregiver type of role that does things like reminding you to drink water, eat food, and things like that and NOT a mommy/daddy dom aspect.

 

This is where I'm getting perplexed because I view my partner as a caregiver but also as a soft daddy dom though our dynamic is entirely not sexual and I do feel like I age-regress. Is it possible to be just a ddlg age-regressor? 

 

I don't really know where we fit here considering I know both communities HATE to be associated with eachother, as far as I've seen. Ever since creating my social media page, I've noticed the agere community automatically putting any ddlg accounts down over the automatic assumption that it is sexual. I don't like sexual content or post any, but I do want to have a safe space to feel like I can explore both of these without being a target of hate. 

 

 

[xBabydollx]

Age play is a kink/fetish like a bunch of other things. Ddlg and age play are not a 2-for-1 thing. They are not exclusive to each other or linked. Many littles and caregivers have an age play fetish, but many don't (like with any other fetish). Age play can also be sexual or nonsexual. As for DD/lg, even tho it is a kink since it is a part of BDSM, it can also be sexual or nonsexual. It can even be both. Many littles have a sexual dynamic with their Daddy/Mommy, but when in littlespace, it may not be sexual anymore. It is also possible to be into DD/lg and the age regression community. As for Daddy/Mommy's not being caring, I'm kinda shocked you've heard that. A Daddy Dom is merely a Dom with caregiving tendencies. Most Daddy Dom's love dressing, bathing, playing with, reading bedtime stories to their little etc. It's why the Daddy likes littles in the first place, the 'young' personality they have. Every Daddy/Mommy specifically likes different things tho. In the end, DD/LG means different things to different ppl. The thought of it can even change depending on what community you're in. For example, many ppl here are into Cg/l but I am not. I am specifically into DD/LG. Many ppl here don't see a difference between Cg/l and DD/LG, but I do. DD/LG has a power exchange and part of BDSM, while Cg/l is not. To me, caregiver/little is just that...caregiving. My point is, take everything with a grain of salt. Find whatever fits for u/works for u, and fly with it. There is lots of hate from the age regression community, I would just go there for littlespace and not mention any Ddlg related stuff to avoid any drama.

[Penny_June]

Age play is a kink/fetish like a bunch of other things. Ddlg and age play are not a 2-for-1 thing. They are not exclusive to each other or linked. Many littles and caregivers have an age play fetish, but many don't (like with any other fetish). Age play can also be sexual or nonsexual. As for DD/lg, even tho it is a kink since it is a part of BDSM, it can also be sexual or nonsexual. It can even be both. Many littles have a sexual dynamic with their Daddy/Mommy, but when in littlespace, it may not be sexual anymore. It is also possible to be into DD/lg and the age regression community. As for Daddy/Mommy's not being caring, I'm kinda shocked you've heard that. A Daddy Dom is merely a Dom with caregiving tendencies. Most Daddy Dom's love dressing, bathing, playing with, reading bedtime stories to their little etc. It's why the Daddy likes littles in the first place, the 'young' personality they have. Every Daddy/Mommy specifically likes different things tho. In the end, DD/LG means different things to different ppl. The thought of it can even change depending on what community you're in. For example, many ppl here are into Cg/l but I am not. I am specifically into DD/LG. Many ppl here don't see a difference between Cg/l and DD/LG, but I do. DD/LG has a power exchange and part of BDSM, while Cg/l is not. To me, caregiver/little is just that...caregiving. My point is, take everything with a grain of salt. Find whatever fits for u/works for u, and fly with it. There is lots of hate from the age regression community, I would just go there for littlespace and not mention any Ddlg related stuff to avoid any drama.

 

What a brilliant answer. You answered the OP's queries, and sorted out a few of my own... thank you

[xBabydollx]

Thank u kindly. Glad u found my opinions and thoughts to be useful to u.

[PrincessKittyx]

Age play is a kink/fetish like a bunch of other things. Ddlg and age play are not a 2-for-1 thing. They are not exclusive to each other or linked. Many littles and caregivers have an age play fetish, but many don't (like with any other fetish). Age play can also be sexual or nonsexual. As for DD/lg, even tho it is a kink since it is a part of BDSM, it can also be sexual or nonsexual. It can even be both. Many littles have a sexual dynamic with their Daddy/Mommy, but when in littlespace, it may not be sexual anymore. It is also possible to be into DD/lg and the age regression community. As for Daddy/Mommy's not being caring, I'm kinda shocked you've heard that. A Daddy Dom is merely a Dom with caregiving tendencies. Most Daddy Dom's love dressing, bathing, playing with, reading bedtime stories to their little etc. It's why the Daddy likes littles in the first place, the 'young' personality they have. Every Daddy/Mommy specifically likes different things tho. In the end, DD/LG means different things to different ppl. The thought of it can even change depending on what community you're in. For example, many ppl here are into Cg/l but I am not. I am specifically into DD/LG. Many ppl here don't see a difference between Cg/l and DD/LG, but I do. DD/LG has a power exchange and part of BDSM, while Cg/l is not. To me, caregiver/little is just that...caregiving. My point is, take everything with a grain of salt. Find whatever fits for u/works for u, and fly with it. There is lots of hate from the age regression community, I would just go there for littlespace and not mention any Ddlg related stuff to avoid any drama. 

 

Hi! thanks for answering! I guess I'm pretty lost here since I feel kind of like a black sheep in the age-re community even though my ddlg aspects of my relationship are also very SFW and non-sexual. I guess I kind of just feel pressured by people in the age-re community to either be strictly age-re or ddlg instead of being able to be a part of and enjoy BOTH! I've also had people tell me since I'm into non-sexual ddlg that perhaps I should just perhaps go with cglre.

 

All of it is extremely confusing and I feel like people are quite judgmental even though considering my personal relationship with ddlg is actually quite similar to age-re except my daddy is more of a soft dom AND caregiver. Not sure what the big deal is in the community or why people feel the need to shit on someone for it! 

[ForeverFluffy]

I actually made a post about this a few months back. You can be in both communities. A lot of people are. I am, for one. And I know like three other people who are, as well. As far as social media goes, just don't cross-tag or promote NSFW stuff in SFW spaces. As far as your relationship goes, you just gotta make sure your partner knows there is a difference between those two headspaces. Some people would rather not have a relationship with someone who actually regresses mentally, and that's okay. Some people think it's confusing, and it is. Which is why it's important to communicate.

[PrincessKittyx]

I actually made a post about this a few months back. You can be in both communities. A lot of people are. I am, for one. And I know like three other people who are, as well. As far as social media goes, just don't cross-tag or promote NSFW stuff in SFW spaces. As far as your relationship goes, you just gotta make sure your partner knows there is a difference between those two headspaces. Some people would rather not have a relationship with someone who actually regresses mentally, and that's okay. Some people think it's confusing, and it is. Which is why it's important to communicate.

Thank you for your response!

 

I definitely don't post NSFW content because both spaces are strictly non-sexual for me and just a safe space to feel little and have daddy/little time with my partner. I just feel there is adversity as far as social media goes, towards people that are in multiple communities. I've had people all day trying to force me to drop "non-sexual ddlg" and instead only relate to age-regression or "cgl-re". I'm going to keep my tags differentiated per post (I hadn't before, to be fair but I was new to the community and didn't know better. It was an honest mistake.) But even with differentiating tags per post, but I still don't know if that will be enough to stop all of the drama, to be honest. I know simply deleting the account would probably seem like the easiest thing to do, but I made it to begin with so myself and my daddy could have a creative place to look at little things and have fun w/ each other while I was in little space and when I am regressing.

 

I haven't seen any other people AT ALL publicly be into BOTH ddlg and age-re even if it's in a non-sexual way, which is also part of the problem I face because I feel like an anomaly.  I don't want to have to make two separate accounts for both communities just to post the safe content because that would be counterproductive to me since I'm pretty limited when I use social media anyways, I know I wouldn't be able to keep up with running two different accounts. 

[LittleTeacup]

As far as the social media goes, I would very clearly state that you don't want this to be a drama fest and anyone looking to start something will get blocked. And then block the troublemakers. There are still some people out there who believe ddlg is "bad" or that it's for people who are interested in minors, which is not the case at all! So when those involved with cglre have to fend off ignorant comments by those around them, they get very defensive that they are "not like those icky ddlg people" and may believe the ignorant statements. It's sad because the groups should be allied because they're both very misunderstood by the general population.

 

Post what you want, block the haters.

[xBabydollx]

Have u considered joining Tumblr? I've had a NSFW blog on there and reposted Ddlg stuff on to it (some stuff was safe for work, others not so much) and nobody ever bothered me. There was plenty of others with similar blogs to mine as well. u can reblog or post whatever u want. When u are feeling little, u can visit ur blog and simply scroll through it without needing to see anybody else's stuff. Tumblr is pretty SFW now in general, but if ppl attempt to annoy u, I'm fairly certain u can just turn off messages. Like Teacup said, because of assumptions about DDlg, it can be very hard for the two communities to blend, even tho there are plenty of ppl into both communities.