Lazy daddy

[Guest Babygirlkittenprincess]

Daddy and I are new to all this. I discovered my little first and when I told him about it he was supportive and once he learned how much it meant to me he is really trying. But as much as he likes to pretend he is alpha male, in our 15 years together he usually makes me do everything. I make phone calls, pay bills, clean house, run errands and just everything. He does work 40-74 hours a week. Now when I go to little space he is game as long as he doesn't need to actually do anything. He will cuddle and all that but won't fill my sippy cup or get me a towel after bath or anything like that. He also won't take the lead when I'm in little space and it makes me feel confused having to stay between little and big. I don't know what to do

[zanderandspike]

how would he feel about a sort of point system, where if you're good for a day and do what you need to you get 5 pts, then him filling your sippy is like 3 pts, getting you snacks is another 3, smaller stuff would be one or two(I mean really y'all would have to sit down and talk about the pts, and what they can and can't do) 

 

idk, it's just an idea, hope it helps a little bit

[Guest BigDaddyP]

Discovering where you fit in the lifestyle can be difficult when first exploring it. Introducing an existing partner to a new found aspect of your life can be challenging.

 

Have you spoken about what you hope to discover and what you want from this lifestyle change. Peoples wants and needs change over time and it’s the desire to want to grow together that makes most relationships either sink or swim.

 

Try reading over some of the forum topics together. Find ones that fit with what you hope to achieve. Be open about your wants and grow together. Communication is needed to make any relationship work, even more so with a new lifestyle perspective being added as a new dynamic.

 

I hope this helps and wish you the best of luck in finding a way to make it work for you both.