Night Shift - Bed-Time for Littles

[SmolxBunneh]

This is my first day on the site and my very first post so I apologise in advance if this has been posted/answered before.  

​I am a little in a long distance relationship with my Cg.
However we haven't yet discussed a proper bed time schedule.
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As someone who works night shifts and finishes early in the morning I was wondering if there is anyone who could help me with this topic.

​So as mentioned with the hours and such I work I am never home at a set time. Sometimes it's close to 1am in the morning, sometimes It can be 10pm. I was wondering, to all the daddies/mommies/cgs out there how would you go about setting a bed time for your little if they work the night shift hours?

​My bed time is usually whenever I pass out, and sadly my cg is always asleep before me. As a result sometimes I do forget to do things before bed. Like change into my warm pajamas (its winter here and very cold) or I'll drink soda or have a snack before bed >.<

​As stated, I am very forgetful. T^T

​Any advice would be helpful.
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​Bunneh~
 

[zanderandspike]

I don't think you can have a set bed time everyday, you can however set one that's something like:

'As soon as you get home shower and change into warm pj's, then eat a meal, you have thirty minuets after you've eaten of free time before you have to be in bed'

or

'You have an hour each day after you get home to get ready for bed, after that hour you need to be asleep'

 

I'm not sure how stressful your job is so if you'll need more time or not, but you could use that hour to journal a bit, just write about your day if you need but mostly I use mine to track my mood and how many hours I sleep

 

Sorry if that's a but jumbled, hope it helps a little bit at least

[Guest Niet meer]

What I would suggest is that you let your CG write you a schedule you will have to follow when you get home. You will have to follow the schedule which includes all kinds of rules that your CG think are important to follow upon. Then you can even cross them out one by one and sent it in a message while he sleeps, so he can check in the morning of you did your routine the right way.

This way he doesn't have to be there at the time the tasks should be performed, and he can still take control and help you with your routine.

[MysticSand]

My Little lives in a very different time zone than me but he tends to work graveyard shifts. Before I sleep, I remind him the things he needs to do and ask him to repeat them back to me. Sometimes when I know he'll be super tired/busy I'll write a to-do list down for him so he can refer back to it and check that he's done each item. I'll also ask the next time we speak if he did all the things he needed to before sleeping and ask him to repeat to me what he did.

 

Since his schedule is variable (as is yours), I tend to tell him that he needs to get at least 7hrs (ideally I'd want him to get more but he wakes up naturally after 5-7hrs) of sleep, and so he must start his nighttime routine 30-60 minutes from when he needs to be in bed. So essentially we work backwards. For example, if he needs to be awake in time to cook and get ready for work by 2pm, he needs at least 7hrs sleep, meaning by 6am he needs to be in bed - and also meaning that he needs to start his nighttime routine by 5am, or 5:30am the latest.

 

Hope that makes sense and helps!

[Guest Somebody-mew]

For me accountability is a big thing. Sometimes i forget small important things so bc im LDR atm (17hr time diff) i ask my friends to hold me account able. (Like my trainer at the gym. My coworker at work. My bestie on the weekends.) they armt involved in my DDlg life but im still able to reach out and ask “hey. Can you remind me about.” I also set ALOT of reminders on my phone with cute emojis and i make ALOT of lists and when they’re completely done i can show daddy and im rewarded.

 

Also i just sent a friend request bc i HAVE to tell you something uber important ^.^