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Sorry, this a probably a common topic, and i wasn't sure where too ask it. But first, a little background information. I'm a little, and i'm comfortable being one too. It's been this way for a little over a year now, and I've never had a cg.

 

Well, now I have a boyfriend who isn't abusive garbage and I'd definitely trust him to be my cg but I'm just not sure if he's into that sort of relationship. I'm usually open about things i want in a relationship but for some reason i'm nervous to tell him about me being a little. But i've definitely tried hinting. Like i've told him about aaaallllll my stuffies and i tell him a lot about the little activities i do and he takes it well (saying it's super cute/adorable/etc) and i've accidentally used my little voice around him...oops...but he thought it was 'cute' too. I've called him daddy and he's said on multiple occasions he likes it and it makes him feel (in his words) "blushy and important" and he calls me his pretty princess and little baby. So basically i'm confused and conflicted. I feel like he'd be fine with it, buuuut

 

How do i straight out tell him that i'd want a ddlg relationship? Or what are some some things that could hint to him being into ddlg? Thanks in advance~

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Hi

Your question is a good one and a very common one. What I would do is before you ask him to be a DDLG caregiver I would find out what he knows and understands about DDLG.  A lot of people have a hard time understanding what it is all about. So you don't want to drive him away. If you can get him to understand it, then I would tell him about your little side and ask him how he would feel to be your caregiver. It may take lots of baby steps. I hope this helps.

Good luck with everything

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Sometimes it pays to be blunt, especially if u have hinted at something and they still haven't catched on. You could start by asking have they ever heard about ddlg. That can be a good way to inch into the conversation. If he doesn't know what it is, I would then tell him about it, let him ask questions, and things like that. Ask what he think about it, let him know ur interest in it, and all of that. I personally wouldn't jump to asking him to be my daddy. I would want him to research about it, for us to talk about it, think about it then revisit the topic at a later date etc to see if it actually truly appeals to them vs them wanting to do it only to please me. Also, encourage them to be honest if they aren't interested. Baby steps basically and go in without expectations.
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My suggestion is find some video clips of typical behavior that reminds you of ddlg and show it to him. Gush over it. Or straight out tell him, I really want a boyfriend that, brushes my hair, that we feed each other, whatever. Then ask if he can see himself doing that for you. Don't forget to get his take on something he wants done for himself that he might really like as well. That way you can introduce stuff to him over time. if you want to go a bit faster maybe point out a few things he already does that seem to make him a good Daddy. Then get around to 'hey there's a kink I'm kind of into and after talking to you a bit maybe you want to look into it too'. Remind him that you make up your own rules and take on ddlg. Edited by Ebony Fruit Bat
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