HOW DO I KEEP UP WITH EVERYTHING??

[SpaceDoll]

I've been on this site for less than 24 hours and i feel overwhelmed with the amount of friend requests and messages i am receiving. It's getting so hard for me to not respond to everyone, and I feel so bad.. What advice can you give me?

[Guest Mr.Stuffykins]

Try and focus on each message individually instead of looking at the big picture. You're getting overwhelmed because you are thinking about everything you have left to do. Simply take each message at a time. Don't stress and don't worry. You'll respond to them when you're able to. If it bothers you too much then just let them know the situation you're in. Prioritize those you actually want to talk to. Don't feel the need to automatically accept everyone that sends a FR either.

 

At the end of the day talking to people is supposed to be enjoyable - if you aren't enjoying it then just take a break and come back when you feel a little more relaxed(: Your feelings are the priority so don't be afraid to leave em waiting!

Edited July 7, 2019 by Mr.Stuffykins

[SpaceDoll]

Try and focus on each message individually instead of looking at the big picture. You're getting overwhelmed because you are thinking about everything you have left to do. Simply take each message at a time. Don't stress and don't worry. You'll respond to them when you're able to. If it bothers you too much then just let them know the situation you're in. Prioritize those you actually want to talk to. Don't feel the need to automatically accept everyone that sends a FR either.

 

At the end of the day talking to people is supposed to be enjoyable - if you aren't enjoying it then just take a break and come back when you feel a little more relaxed(: Your feelings are the priority so don't be afraid to leave em waiting!

thank you so much! (:

[Guest littlebabyslittlespace]

I had that when I first joined a few months ago, but now the messages and requests have calmed right down because the regular uses already know me. Hopefully this happens to you too!

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

I know we are PM'ing but I'll say here that when I first joined I was surprised by the number of requests, especially since men don't get that many on say, dating sites. I can only imagine how many you have... My advice is weed out people who act indignant or mad if you take a little while to answer. This should reduce the load somewhat lol

[hurtnolivingthing]

Hi SpaceDoll

 

It's tough and stresses you out I'm sure.

Hopefully things will calm down before too much longer as Tilly said above.

 

The only new comments I'd make is.. in all likelihood, you will be receiving requests & messages

from some people, who won't suit you. Sometimes you can tell from messages, where it's

clear that they haven't even taken the time to read your profile.

 

One thing I tend to do when I get a friend request, is to read the profile of the sender &

any posts they have left on the Forum. That gives me an idea of whether or not, I'm likely

to get along with them, and if we're on the same page.

 

Don't be afraid to deny friend requests. You are not obliged to accept them all.

 

Perhaps also consider limiting how many friends you have at any one time.

It's easy to have so many, that you just won't have time to keep regular contact with them all.

 

If things do get too stressful for you, don't be afraid to take some time away from the site.

Coming here should be nice, not a pressure.

 

Best wishes and good luck with everything

[LittleTeacup]

When I first joined this site, I got so many friend requests too. But, the majority seemed to be people with no posts and no profile and no icon. I denied all of them because I wanted to acclimate myself to the site before making friends (and tbh some of those friend requests seemed to come from creeps). I now accept everybody because they're coming at a much slower pace and I have a handle on how the site works.

 

I also reply to pms slowly. I always let people know that and then I don't feel bad for leaving a message I received in the morning until nighttime to reply. I could never keep up with 10 conversations at once and I don't. I don't think I could even keep up with 5.

[Little kaiya]

I echo LittleTeaCup's experience, when I first joined I got a number of friend requests but my Daddy and I refused quite a few of them, especially any that had no profile pic or posting history.

 

We are very careful with which friend requests we accept as we aren't looking for play partners. We mostly accept friend requests from people who have demonstrated thoughtful and interesting posting histories.

 

Things do settle down and definitely don't be shy to refuse requests if it's obvious to you that there really isn't much in common. Above all, have fun, find people you're compatible with, either for friendship or a relationship, depending on what you're looking to find.

 

Little kaiya

[Guest Babykiwi]

It can definitely be overwhelming at first, but others have replied with some of the best advice on how to deal with it. Not to add to overwhelming you: but I sent a friend request, saw that you accepted it but it still won't let me message you! Could you maybe resend it? Would love to chat!

[Ikneelonly4Daddy]

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

[Ikneelonly4Daddy]

Probably cuz you have a daddy

People mostly get friend requests by those looking for a partner?

 

Sheesh.

 

Thanks for letting me know!

Edited July 8, 2019 by Ikneelonly4Daddy

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

People mostly get friend requests by those looking for a partner?

 

Sheesh.

 

Thanks for letting me know!

It seems that way for the most part