Long Distance

[012415]

Hey there!

 

I'm new to this forum and the whole DDLG idea, my girlfriend told me and explained this to me, now, we're a long distance couple and i wanted to know if you guys have any advice for someone new and someone who's in a long distance situation?

 

we spoke about rules but with me being so far away from her, its very hard for me to punish her if she acts out, which she's been doing a lot since i recently returned from visiting her, so i don't know how to control her.

 

but.. yeah that's about it, thanks in advance!

[Mari11]

Me and my fiancé are in a long distance relationship too and it's hard to follow the rules but he is stern and lays out the rules and punishments the punishments very on what rules I broke

[Guest Lilkittygirl]

There are lots of punishments you can have in ldr. You just need to find out what works.

[Daddys__kitten]

Making her write lines, write an essay about why she behaved badly, standing in a corner for x amount of time, kneeling on rice for x amount of time etc.

[Daddys__kitten]

And of course, giving her lectures with a stern voice ♡

[Guest New Kitten]

I'm in a long distance relationship as well which is hard enough. But we're also both new to the DDLG lifestyle which does make it even harder. I think I can safely say most Littles want their Daddy to punish or command them without them having to ask for it. Which is frustrating to new Daddys because they're unsure when it's okay and when it's not (even experienced Daddys too!)

The biggest thing is just communication. While it's somewhat awkward both parties just need to explain clearly what they want.

Example:

Little: "When I talk back I do it on purpose so you'll punish me"

Daddy: "You're never allowed to slap me"

And so on and so forth. You need to try to lay everything out. For long distance, you can try making a list of rules with set punishments for your Little.

Example: If you talk back to me, you will spank yourself until you're red and then show me your red bum.

Yes, it's unfortunate you're unable to spank your Little yourself but in this way she is being punished and you're in charge. And in long distance I think Littles need to go a little out of their way to be submissive. Most DDLG relationships I've encountered have the rule "you're not allowed to touch yourself without my permission". Since you're not there, it's easy for your Little to just have a quick masturbation before bed and not tell. I've done it (not proud of it). So, in long distance both parties have to try extra hard. Get very involved. Pick out her panties and outfits, ask what she eats and suggest healthier options, make sure she brushes her teeth, mail her things. But overall the best thing to do is talk. If she acts out, punish her, if she still acts out, just sit down and talk with her.

Best of luck!

[Krasus]

Naturally shes acting out more, especially when she sees you and then you have to leave again. Im use to having to leave. I leave every couple weeks for different amounts of time, its not easy and every time i come home its extra cuddles and lovins for days (Which i will never complain about) but when i leave the first few days are non stop acting out. It comes with the territory, either it will work or it wont but as New Kitten said, tons of work on both sides.

[Basileus]

I am in the similar situation and also finding it hard to punish my baby girl 10hrs away. I haven't had to many issues where I've needed to as we are both fairly new to this but are both enjoying it. Finding things to do while not being with her is very difficult but she loves hearing the things I am going to do and bring when I come see her next month. I liked the idea of having her spank herself and showing me if she's been bad and I will likely have her do so if it comes down to it. So far she has done everything I've asked very well and we are working on a rule list today.

[Guest XxRWBYxX]

well long distance is hard in of it self, but it doesnt mean it cant be conquered either, just need alittle more work from both sides. I mean if ur little act out theres plenty of ways to punish ur little, theres the ones that has already been posted but then theres the award system or the no reading time before sleepy time or theres no cuddles for a hour, and it probably many more im just bad at thinking of punishments.  

[Guest Daddy's☆treasure]

LDR's are hard and i was in one with my last Daddy. The time that i did get punished i was asked to self spank and i got corner time and had to write an essay. Not fun. When Daddy and i would do our bedtime ritual he would always tell me to get my favourite stuffie ready for bedtime cuddles and sleepy time and i think it would have been horrible if he had told me one night that i couldn't have my stuffie to sleep with. So maybe that's one you could do? Or tell her that she can't play with her favourite stuffie or have them around for x amount of time? The essay (as much as I didn't want to have to write it) did make me see where i had gone wrong as i was in the mindset of "i didn't do anything wrong!" But as always Daddy was right.

[HattyBoo]

I'm a little in an online ddlg relationship and my daddy has asked me to try and be more needy. I'm pretty new to all this and am seeking some advice on how to be more needy for my daddy