(Trigger warning) worried about mental health

[Kaeporahh]

Hi,

 

I'm new to this community,

 

I don't know if I can ask this..

 

There's someone I care about who I think is a little. I was curious and worried about his mental health so I googled ''age regression'' or something like that and it said that people who age regress have DID and that people with DID often experienced sexual trauma as a child. I just think this is really sad and I don't want this person to have lived that. Obviously I'll still like him no mather what. 

 

So I wondered,

 

1. Is it possible to constantly be little and not 'age regress' but instead force yourself to act like an adult (and without experiencing amnesia)

2. Is it possible to be little (without faking it(sorry)) without having experienced sexual trauma? And slip into little space sometimes by inatention because of something cute you see. Is it the case for any of you?

 

Sorry if my english is bad

[Guest Niet meer]

Age regression can have its origine in early childhood. It can be attachment issues in babyhood or mental or fysical abuse.  Never the less the need to regress is real and is a way to cope with every day life. 

On the other hand there is age play, which is a form of role play. I don't consider it as fake, but as just another way of being into ddlg. I dislike the word fake, because it has a judgy edge and I think there are many ways in which we all live this lifestyle, and no Daddy, nor little is the same in terms of living  BDSM lifestyle

[Little kaiya]

I'm not exactly sure where you got your information but whatever the website or source I dont think it was a very good one to be honest.

 

There are a lot of littles who age regress and I'm going to suggest to you that the majority of them dont have dissociative identity disorder. That particular diagnosis is in fact fairly rare, certainly compared to the number of people in the DDlg community. Secondly, yes, there arevlittlesxwho had sexual trauma in their childhood but there are also quite a few who didn't. Rather than assuming your friend has based on an internet search it might be more prudent to actually talk to them. Heck, you've even said you "think" they're a little so you arent even sure of that very important element.

 

As for your questions,

 

1.there are quite a few littles that have little tendencies as part of their personalities all the time but don't age regress and it has nothing to do with "forcing" themselves to be adult, it's just part if their personality.

 

2. I'm not sure what site you read that says littles have amnesiac episodes. I think if you talked to people in the community you'd find that's a rarity.

 

3. ABSOLUTELY! I had good parents, a good childhood and was never sexually abused and I'm a little. I have a loving Daddy, no amnesia, no dissociation and am quite happy and "real" (to respond to your terminology). I slip into littlespace space when I'm in my Daddy's loving embrace, when he gives me a stuffie, when I'm loved and safe or see something super cute. And yes, I remember every second of it.

 

Frankly, whatever sources of information you found seem to push an agenda that DDlg and littles are based in trauma, mental illness and negativity and that's just such an inaccurate portrayal.

 

So, honestly, talk to your friend if you want to know if they're a little and talk to community members to get a better picture of that the community is because right now the Information you have seems very biased and skewed.

 

Little kaiya