Hiding My Little Side

[Guest PrincessSparkles35]

Hi all. I'm an "older" little and love my little side but sometimes I feel like o have to hide my little side. I'm 35, have normal adult responsibilities including raising a child with his father and have a full time job.

 

While I feel like my child's father knows about my little side I also feel like I have to hide it, too. I have my own little space corner in our house and can find time sometimes when j can chill in little space. But if I'm being honest at night when I fall asleep I really wish I could cuddle my stuffier instead of a small pillow. I feel like I overthink a lot of decisions trying to make sure my little side isn't showing.

 

Another thing I deal with now is surrendering all my independence. I mean my child's father does make almost every major decision in our household while I make smaller ones, so why do I have such a hard time asking for help even in little things? Asking for my child's father to put a bandaid on me is embarassing?

 

Does anyone else that are littles and moms have these feelings? How do you deal with these kinds of feelings? Thanks for listening.

[FeistyLittle]

I'm a wife and mother as well and I share a similar experience!

 

The way I have been dealing with it all is just honest, open communication with my husband. It took a long time and a decent amount of courage to tell him, but it was worth it. I would be happy to talk more about it, but I'm actually just going to get my kiddo down for the night. I'll be back!

[Guest PrincessSparkles35]

I'm a wife and mother as well and I share a similar experience!

The way I have been dealing with it all is just honest, open communication with my husband. It took a long time and a decent amount of courage to tell him, but it was worth it. I would be happy to talk more about it, but I'm actually just going to get my kiddo down for the night. I'll be back!

Thank you...I feel a tiny bit better knowing it's a shared experience. I would share with my son's father but I don't think he would be super accepting. I'm lucky cause I have a long distance mummy who's amazing. It's just hard sometimes, ya know. It's like we're balancing two sides of us all the time.

[Guest TheyCallMeLovely]

I’ve spoken with a few people on this topic and the underlying thing I’ve seen is that these older littles integrate their littleness into their every day lives so they don’t have to hide it. I even have a hard time with that integration simply for the fact that I want to keep it separated. If you want more things, make a list and slowly integrate it into your everyday because in small steps, no one would see anything drastic.

[FeistyLittle]

My husband wasn't accepting at first, he reacted very negatively and it was super painful. I am glad I told him because now he understands at least a little bit about what is going on with me.

 

Personally, I want to keep my little side separate from time with my son. I find going in and out of little space particularly jarring and snapping in and out from little to parent makes everything so much harder. So I have found small ways to enjoy some little time every day, and I have discussed with my husband having a few times a week (just a couple hours) to give myself the little time that I need.

[Guest PrincessSparkles35]

My husband wasn't accepting at first, he reacted very negatively and it was super painful. I am glad I told him because now he understands at least a little bit about what is going on with me.

Personally, I want to keep my little side separate from time with my son. I find going in and out of little space particularly jarring and snapping in and out from little to parent makes everything so much harder. So I have found small ways to enjoy some little time every day, and I have discussed with my husband having a few times a week (just a couple hours) to give myself the little time that I need.

What you're saying makes a lot of sense....I have the same feelings. I want to keep my little side from my big (adult/parent) side. I sometimes get a little time by myself but everyday can sometimes get overwhelming. I love my little side. It helps me stay calm, it's just hard to find time sometimes ya know.

 

I feel like I fall into little/middle. I'm not into sippy cups but I love drinking from straws. Thanks for understanding and talking to me. I'm happy I have friends that understand.