Little space and new daddies.

[Guest JemaJazzy]

So it’s been about 6 months now since I’ve been a little. I had always known that I was little kiddish at heart, and had moments when I would regress, but I didn’t really identify with anything. Then, I came into contact with this community,. At the time, my then boyfriend acted a little like a caregiver naturally, and it really felt like a natural connection. So, I sat down with him and told him about how I had been feeling and tried to have an as open conversation as I could.. He rejected the idea completely, and we soon broke up. After this, I have begun to be more open to seeking an actual daddy, and letting things flow more naturally.

Since then, I have also found that my anxiety towards being in little space has disappeared little by little. It’s getting easier adjusting to feeling little and accepting this part of myself now! I think the question I have is, how should I go about talking to potential daddies, and getting to know them? I’m afraid about how to initiate it... which is how I ended up on this site.

 

Also- any tips and tricks for adjusting would be helpful ❤️ Wanting to be of service has always come naturally to me. I just want someone who I can give that to.

[NJDD]

I think you already found what can happen when you look outside of people in this community.  There are a lot of guys out there who are very nurturing, protective and may naturally have some "daddy" qualities to them but it's a HUGE leap to expect most people to be into this or want to accommodate it in a relationship.  So trying to find guys who already identify as daddies on sites like this is probably a good way to start, because you can communicate with different people and get to learn what a genuine daddy acts like and what the "Fake" ones act like before you get hurt in an actual relationship.

 

Unfortunately there are a lot of predatory idiots out there attracted to this lifestyle.  It's sad to say it, but it's also just being realistic that many Littles have histories of abuse and neglect and trauma and there are all too many jerks ready to swoop in to take advantage.  Fet is a bad place to be in my opinion.  Really bad.  On sites like this you can meet some genuinely nice and caring guys.  And you can start off slowly maybe with a long distance thing. Watch out for guys who immediately assume they are your daddy because you said hello to them, ones that put you down or demand nude pics or stuff like that. 

 

There isn't too much difference in finding a daddy as there is in finding a regular boyfriend so use your intuition on who is a genuine person, take things slowly, get to know each other, don't rush anything and build some trust.  With sharing this side of your personality there needs to be a lot of communication and trust so when you find someone good you'll know.  Also in my opinion, being able to have a lot of common interests outside of the ddlg relationship is key.  Being able to be with someone and turn that off when you both want and hang out as adults is also going to help make it last.

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

That's really unlucky that your previous partner was put off so heavily by this lifestyle you wanted.  Sorry to hear that!

As for looking for someone new, I'd recommend just focusing on finding someone else you have that same natural connection with.  Wanting to be of service to people is really sweet of you, so make sure that you take your time and make damn sure the person you give that to is also kind and deserving.  I always believe it's better to suffer a bit more loneliness and try to find someone right, rather than jump into a relationship with someone who may not be suitable.

[Guest ConsiderateDaddy]

JJ I think NJDD has given you great advice. The only thing I would add is to create your own Littlespace at home so you know what age(s) you want to be and your likes and dislikes. This will be helpful for any Daddy you meet. If you do meet someone after a while ask him to call you Princess. If he is switch on that should be a good clue. Good luck