Non Sexual DDLG relationships?

[FeistyLittle]

I'm a new-ish Little and hitting a bit of a wall here in my search for a Daddy. I am married, but this is a role my husband is unable to take on. 

 

I've read in other places that non sexual DDLG relationships exist, but I have been told by a Daddy or two that unless you are willing to put out in that department then I'll be on my own. 

 

Is this a thing? Am I fooling myself? I guess I'm just feeling a bit torn up and alone after a not-so-great experience. 

[LittleCelticLass]

Yes, it's a thing. Many littles are non sexual, and I know of at least two non sexual Daddies here on the Forum. You might try making a personal.

DDlg is wonderful and can be what you want of it. Best of luck to you.

[Alaskan Daddy]

Not to worry. I have been a non-sexual caregiver a few times and I am sure there are others like me. I received a tremendous amout of satisfaction from doing it because the littles gave me lots of appreciation, so I felt I was getting as much as I was giving. At the same time you may have to be ok if the daddy had another little that he was sexual with.

I hope you find what you are looking for.

[FeistyLittle]

Yes, it's a thing. Many littles are non sexual, and I know of at least two non sexual Daddies here on the Forum. You might try making a personal.

DDlg is wonderful and can be what you want of it. Best of luck to you.

Thank you! I was told by someone that "only bad Daddies want what's in your pants and good Daddies take it too seriously to keep the relationship from going there" (his words, not mine  ) 

 

I guess I just need some reassurance that what I am looking for is out there. Thanks for the advice, I'll consider a personal!

[FeistyLittle]

Not to worry. I have been a non-sexual caregiver a few times and I am sure there are others like me. I received a tremendous amout of satisfaction from doing it because the littles gave me lots of appreciation, so I felt I was getting as much as I was giving. At the same time you may have to be ok if the daddy had another little that he was sexual with.

I hope you find what you are looking for.

Thank you Definitely okay with a Daddy having other littles and relationships where the dynamic looks different than the one they would have with me! I'm in a bit of a poly-esque situation anyway ha ha. 

[Guest Looby-Lou]

Thank you! I was told by someone that "only bad Daddies want what's in your pants and good Daddies take it too seriously to keep the relationship from going there" (his words, not mine  ) 

 

I guess I just need some reassurance that what I am looking for is out there. Thanks for the advice, I'll consider a personal!

 

 That first part is offensive to both Daddies AND littles who are sexual. I'm a sexual little and most definitely do NOT consider it a bad thing. It works both ways...i'd be totally incompatible with a DD who didn't want sex as part of the DDlg dynamic. For me it's no different than being a sexual adult. It's just part of who i am.

 

The 2nd part - yes what you're looking for definitely exists. And I hope you find what you want and need! I always think it's good to be clear from the start about your situation & what your needs are, including the non-sexual part, then you're more likely to find a good match.  Good luck

 

Looby 

[Guest TDaddy]

Everyone has their needs, and wants. You just need to find the right Daddy for you! They are out there! I wish you luck!  

[Guest Littlebabyunicornx]

Yeah it is a thing my ddlg dynamic is completely non-sexual I don't feel comfortable. It's totally fine if you do want it to be sexual

[LittleGirlEmilia]

but I have been told by a Daddy or two that unless you are willing to put out in that department then I'll be on my own. 

 

Sounds like you've met a couple of daddies that are new to the lifestyle and may need to do their research before giving new littles advice. But yeah, hell to the no, you don't have to 'put out' at all.

 

There are many other littles in your position seeking out a platonic daddy. As long as you communicate with your husband and set boundaries, it usually works out. Just be careful who you choose and make sure you're compatible with them.

[FeistyLittle]

Everyone has their needs, and wants. You just need to find the right Daddy for you! They are out there! I wish you luck!

 

Thank you!

[FeistyLittle]

Yeah it is a thing my ddlg dynamic is completely non-sexual I don't feel comfortable. It's totally fine if you do want it to be sexual

Thank you for sharing! I'm so glad I found this forum!

[FeistyLittle]

Sounds like you've met a couple of daddies that are new to the lifestyle and may need to do their research before giving new littles advice. But yeah, hell to the no, you don't have to 'put out' at all.

 

There are many other littles in your position seeking out a platonic daddy. As long as you communicate with your husband and set boundaries, it usually works out. Just be careful who you choose and make sure you're compatible with them.

It's all about communication! My husband has been so supportive of me on this journey so far. I know exactly what I want from a relationship, it's just going to take time to find it. And weeding out the people who think they can change my mind about the sexual aspects

 

Thank you for your response!

[Guest Voidart]

Well, there are relationships that are non-sexual as well. 
It depends what you and your partner feel comfortable with and how willing you are to communicate and compromise for one another, indirectly speaking. 

However, I would like to encourage having sex as it is (or should be) a mutual feeling where you focus on feeling good with the one you love, your partner to those of you who are capable of lovemaking.

Listen to yourself and you'll get the right answer. You know yourself best. 
Best of luck!
 

[FeistyLittle]

Well, there are relationships that are non-sexual as well. 

It depends what you and your partner feel comfortable with and how willing you are to communicate and compromise for one another, indirectly speaking. 

 

However, I would like to encourage having sex as it is (or should be) a mutual feeling where you focus on feeling good with the one you love, your partner to those of you who are capable of lovemaking.

Listen to yourself and you'll get the right answer. You know yourself best. 

Best of luck!

 

Sex isn't an issue with my husband, it's the idea that you "can't have a DDLG relationship without sex" that I am running up against. But hearing from other people here it sounds like you can enjoy a DDLG relationship with someone as friends just as easily as you would any vanilla relationship that doesn't involve sex.

[Little kaiya]

You certainly can have a DDlg relationship without physical intimacy manifesting as sex, if that's what both parties want.

 

What can be more challenging sometimes is having a DDlg relationship without forming an emotionally intimate connection. Again, I'm not going to say it's there for every couple but it is certainly a key and integral component for I would say most.

 

The emotional connection can sometimes become an issue for people who are married but looking for a Ddlg partner outside if their marriage. Sometimes partners feel threatened by that emotional intimacy that their spouse is having with someone else.

 

So, is it possible to have a DDlg relationship without sex, sure. Without some form of intimacy, well, for that I would say, no.

 

Little kaiya

[FeistyLittle]

You certainly can have a DDlg relationship without physical intimacy manifesting as sex, if that's what both parties want.

What can be more challenging sometimes is having a DDlg relationship without forming an emotionally intimate connection. Again, I'm not going to say it's there for every couple but it is certainly a key and integral component for I would say most.

The emotional connection can sometimes become an issue for people who are married but looking for a Ddlg partner outside if their marriage. Sometimes partners feel threatened by that emotional intimacy that their spouse is having with someone else.

So, is it possible to have a DDlg relationship without sex, sure. Without some form of intimacy, well, for that I would say, no.

Little kaiya

It's the emotional intimacy of that platonic relationship that I am more focused on! I believe you can cultivate an emotionally intimate and affectionate relationship with someone without it being sexual, and that's what I am looking for. It's just that I've been told otherwise by a few Daddies and that I'm going to have to let it become a sexual relationship if I want to be taken seriously. Which, luckily since asking here, it looks like that's just not true.

[Little kaiya]

From observing the forum I would suggest you're probably more likely to find a non-sexual relationship with an older Daddy.

 

A lot of younger Daddies, certainly not all though, seem to want to a DDlg relationship that includes a sexual element.

 

Be upfront, honest and stand your ground and you will find what your looking for in time.

 

Little kaiya