MDLB/MDLG discussion/talk (no ddlb/Ddlg)

[Guest BabyBoyforMommy]

Any little boys?

Little girls?

Mommies?

Straight, lesbian, Pan, bi , etc littles/mommies?

 

This is a talk/discussion about MDLG/MDLB

Why is it not so common?

What are the best ways to find MDLB/MDLG relationships?

Do you think this is “rare?” And why?

 

I’m a straight little boy in MDLB and I thought I’d start this discussion for myself and others to talk and give advice/discuss MDLB/MDLG for those that need it.

 

Welcome!!

[Guest PrincessSparkles35]

Hi I'm a little girl in mdlg and have a mummy. Nice to meet you. I'm glad you made this safe space. I don't have many little friends that are boys. Wanna be friends?

[LittleTeacup]

I'm a little girl, and even though I don't like to define my sexuality, I have crushed on both men and women before. I'd be happy with a female caregiver.

 

I think it's just that there are fewer mommies than daddies out there. In our culture, men are expected to be the dominant ones, so it's easier for a man to realize he likes being dominant and admitting it than for a woman to do the same. I hope this will change in the future.

 

I think the best way to finding a mdlb or mdlg relationship is just being yourself and being visible to any mommies out there. Look for mommies you like and ask them.

 

I don't think it's particularly rare. And it will keep increasing as time goes on I think.

[Daxter]

I am a little boy, only had mommies (and still looking for).

They aren't rare, they are just harder to find, specially since a lot of them never try it and are potentially switch.

[Guest Daizy]

I'm a Mommy Domme and pansexual. 

 

I don't think Mommies are very rare. Perhaps slightly more unusual, but still not rare, because of the reasons LittleTeacup pointed out. In many cultures, women are expected to take the submissive role and men the dominant. I think the women and men that subvert those expectations can be shyer about admitting it in any sort of public sphere - including the internet. 

 

I think the best way to find a MD/lg or MD/lb relationship is to be relaxed and open to meeting new people, regardless if that's on a specific forum that's dedicated to those sort of relationships (such as this one), or meeting someone in person by chance. 

[Soulmatesearch]

I'd say I'm a masculine babyboy.

 

It's a nightmare finding a genuine mummy. Most are fake or trying to export money. Very sad.

 

I guess it's a more natural dynamic for guys to be dominant and girls to be submissive. Whether we like it or not.

 

I'm in the UK, which is even harder. At least in USA girls seem to be a bit more open about their sexuality

[yxchae]

ive always been open to having a mommy rather than a daddy. i'd actually love it as i've always felt a lean toward dating women in general. 

however, ive never actually found one nor even talked to one.. it seems quite mystical to me when other people talk about having a mommy. i also agree in that i don't think they're rare, but just hard to find. 

[Shy_N_Insecure_Babygirl]

I honestly wouldn't mind having a mommy. I've never had one, but I'm open to it.

[Ilovemypaci]

I’m a little boy this did not come quickly for me. I’ve read other posts on this discussion and people mentioned that men are expected to be dominant, which I agree with. The only reason I know I’m a little is because my EX was the least judgmental person I knew. She helped me accept myself as a little and let me get comfortable being a little boy. It was a long process but so worth it.

 

It’s kind of saddening though. Because I know it is really unlikely I’ll find another mommy because it is indeed rare.

[BabyMattDiapers]

Hi all I am BabyMattDiapers and I live in Belleville, Ontario, Canada. I've really enjoyed reading what others have said with regards to this topic and can say that I do agree that it isn't rare to find a dominant woman it is just really hard. But it is also hard to find one that is not only dominant, but also not just after you because you have some money. I am very new to this site but also fairly new to the lifestyle as I only started embracing the baby Matt inside of me in January of this year but already by late March, early April I had two mommies that I ended relationships with through social media, one I had even spent three nights with in person, because they started soliciting me for money. Yes I want to have a mommy, a woman who will have the dominating role in our relationship, but not at the expense of having all my financial information when we haven't even met or spent significant time together. I know there are really great mommy doms out there, even in my area of Ontario, Canada, they are just hard to find, especially when you are like me and prefer to keep to yourself most of the time. But still hoping to find that woman who will take me in as her baby boy.

[Crybebe]

Hewwo,

 

I’m Bebe or cry. I just joined today. Trying to expand my horizons since fetlife has this issue. I’m not against ddlg/b or poly relationships. But I don’t think I even received an actual message from a domme/mdlg caregiver. I’m always bombarded with daddies and it’s frustrating how uncommon mommies are :,(

[toastyhobbit]

the thing that makes me sad is that i've yet to find any good, current Mommies who talk about what it's like to be a Mommy? which i'm hoping i'll get to see more of here, cuz my experience of the community has been pretty limited so far.  i mostly only know/know of littles and Daddies. that seems to be where a lot of content is coming from still?

 

the whole fact that the kink as a whole seems to be presented most of the time as DDlg (with alternatives) is pretty frustrating.  i wish 'CG/l' would become more of the norm.  my understanding of the community just a few years ago was a very cishet image, and the only time it didn't involve DDlg was when it was middle aged men who were into abdl.  it's probably why it took me so long to figure all this stuff out for myself.

 

but i think the other thing is that there's this image that Daddy means cis man, and i've found that's far from the truth! i've managed to find far more Daddies who were cis women or trans/nb people than i was expecting when i started exploring this.  as much as i'm finding that i enjoy having a platonic Daddy, which i never ever expected, i think i'm always gonna want a Mommy tho.  definitely wouldn't ever want a dude to be my Daddy tho, i just don't swing that way.

[Guest ashybabyxoxo]

Hi,

I was discussing this the other day with someone. I'm straight, but as far as being fulfilled as a little, I don't want a daddy, I want a mommy. I love mommies.

[LittleDuckey06]

I am a newly discovered little boy. I have never experienced MDlb or ever had a Mommy. I wish to learn more and have a Mommy of my own who will teach me.

[LittleRosiePosie]

I'm a little girl and my primary relationship is with a woman, but she's not a Mommy or really much of a Domme either (I guess I'd call myself bi/pansexual, I dunno though). I've personally never found a Mommy who seems genuine, usually littles trying out a switch thing- not that there's anything wrong with that but they usually decide they're just little and then I'm back to square 1- or predatory women who don't understand what the dynamic is about. That said, I don't know if it's a rare thing to be a Mommy Domme, I think that nurturing capacity comes easier to women but I've not been lucky enough to find someone.

[ValesKittenEEvee]

Hi all...

 

I'm new to the "Mommy" role, but I thought I'd throw my "2-cents" in here...

 

I identify as pan myself, (female-bodied, but identify as Bi-gender/Queer) and have had mostly been the "sub" in relationships with women irl, when I have dated women (VERY LONG STORY..if you ever wana hear..just ask).

 

Currently I am a new "Mommy" to a wonderful "little." For us (My Daddy and I) it is about helping our "special little" reach her "highest" potential as person, not just being the "unique little" she is. It was thanks to my wonderful Daddy and one of the Mods on this site I had some questions for that I was able to realize and trust that I would do ok doing this with our Little.

 

Our "little" is an amazing person when she is in her "adult role" taking care of many rl little souls day to day in her work capacity, and it makes me feel wonderful that she has learned to lean on me when she feels like her little self, and now that we have altered our friendship to this dynamic a bit more seriously, I can support her in this way more regularly.

 

To me, (so far) being a "mommy" means just being there for someone else when they are feeling small, or in need of guidance, but the punishment and organizational aspect will come most likely. This is one journey i am looking forward to walking with her in the days to come.

 

-WPP

[Bubbles_and_Feathers]

I'm a little and I want to see more Mommies!!!

[Pupperoo]

Mommies seem to be rare, but I think they are more and more common. In a sense I think women in general don't seek things like this out as much as men does; I base this on years of being on the internet. Generally I find men to be the ones seeking out dynamics within BDSM as the dominants, while female dominants tends to be more quiet and sit in the back if they seek it out at all.

My point is that I just think there is a different exposure level. We see more vocal daddies than we see vocal mommies, but that doesn't mean the mommies are that much rarer. In sense that is also a good thing, because you don't get flooded with nearly as many creeps that just want to ask you for sexual favors under the mask of it being CG/l. 

I could be wrong, of course.

[MommySA23]

Hi guys well I'm a mommy from NY but moved to Capetown for the scholarship I gotten.

I have been a mommy a while now,no I don't have a little but I'm also not looking for one at the moment.I can say I have notice everywhere there aren't a lot of us Mommy's but we are getting there. Only advice I can give is don't give up on finding one it will take time but even if you get one just be careful don't rush things and take time knowing them before you get close and get hurt at the end.

 

Have a lovely day guys and girls

Lots of love

Mommy Jade

[cami25]

hiii. i’m a little boy and my friend is my mommy but we aren’t dating. I have a boy friend and i’m not sure if it’s weird that my friend is my care giver while i’m dating someone

[cami25]

Hi i’m a little boy and i really would like to find a nice mommy or daddy to message. i’ve been a daddy in a relationship for a while but i realized i much prefer being submissive. i’m new to the site and i would love to talk to anyone honestly

[Sexy_Mami]

How do I work a new long distance relationship with an abused little

[SquishyDomme]

Hello! I am a mommy and I have a little boy. I think this pairing is extremely rare. Rarer than MDLG by a long shot. I have joined discords and fetlife groups before finding my own boy, and let me tell you, there are tons of lonely little boys out there. It's sad but I can't do anything about it, obviously.

 

The best place to find a little partner, easy! Reddit, Fetlife, discord, 4chan (if you find a soft domme thread), they are everywhere.

If you are looking for a mommy...Good luck but don't give up. What I do find is that there are more mommies that are switches than there are straight dommes like myself. So your best bet is to talk to a little girl who has a bit of a domme side.

 

I think this is such a rare pair because most men want to be dominate. Just by statistics there are more men who want to puff out their chest and smack you while you call them daddy (regardless of their sub's gender) and that kind of attitude is easy for someone to call for.

 

So if you take the small statistical margin of women who want to be dominant, then take that margin and add the niche kink of adult babies/littles, you'll have a tough time finding each other. Sorry to say

[MamaWash]

Hello everyone. I am a Mommy Domme, that is new to this. Always been curious, but decided that I should just jump on in.

I live in CA for now. I will be moving before the year is over to a city that has a NWSL team. 

I am a lesbian. 

Feel free to message me, or reply to this. Have a great rest of your day!

[LeftyGuitar]

I'm an LB looking for a mommy. Wish there was more mommies in the community.

Edited June 13, 2020 by LeftyGuitar