Checking in on your little over text chat?

[SpidermanBear]

Me and my kitten primarily communicate over Skype. We're a pretty new relationship, and neither of us are very experienced. When I'm talking to her, should I just say "Have you had lots of water today? You need to stay hydrated, Kitten"? I just feel a little awkward asking about that out of the blue.

[Lisa]

Wow, this is a strange question. But, I rather like strange things. Say "hello" first. And perhaps, ask what she has eaten for breakfast/lunch/dinner (whichever is relevant for the time of day you're talking). Then... Delve into the hydration, lol.

[Chelly]

Also, depends on what she says... my daddy and I are ldr too. If I say something like I'm hot, he'll ask if I'm staying hydrated cause I can overheat so easily. He'll also mention food a lot which then prompts me to talk about if I've eaten and what. Maybe that would help too, if you talk about weather/temperature and your own well-being throughout the day in general conversation so it's just feeling so awkward.

[Vlad ziva's Owner]

My kitten and I are long distance at the moment. Morning conversations usually go something like...

Good morning, (whatever pet name I feel like calling her). How are you today?

(her answer)

Have you (taken medicine, done whatever you were supposed to do, etc.)

(her answer)

Her answers are usually yes, so she typically gets a "good girl" and :*




Sometimes I will just ask her a random question out of the blue though. Example: Did you order that comforter yet? 

Plus, we're both socially awkward people, so sometimes I just ask her random junk for no reason other than why not?

Best thing is to just do what comes naturally and don't get caught up in thinking that there is a strict, set way of doing things. I have OCD and from reading advice on forums, I've inadvertently gotten stuck adhering to what someone else does and it threw our dynamic off drastically. I'd get caught up in doing things a "certain way" and things just got very weird. They weren't us. So just be yourself. Let your kitten be herself. The longer you are together, the easier it will be to settle into your natural rhythm.

[Guest LaidBackDaddy]

You may feel awkward, but most Littles need these questions, and for more then just to make sure they are done. Most Littles need it because every time you ask, you are ultimately saying "You are worth me taking time out of my day to make sure you are doing wonderful with all the things you stress about. I really care for you." They may say "Yes Daddy, I took my medicine" but what they are really saying is "OMG! My Daddy really does care! They are the best Daddy ever!"

 

Most vanilla relationships don't even get  "How was you day?"

[Chelly]

You may feel awkward, but most Littles need these questions, and for more then just to make sure they are done. Most Littles need it because every time you ask, you are ultimately saying "You are worth me taking time out of my day to make sure you are doing wonderful with all the things you stress about. I really care for you." They may say "Yes Daddy, I took my medicine" but what they are really saying is "OMG! My Daddy really does care! They are the best Daddy ever!"

 

Most vanilla relationships don't even get  "How was you day?"

 

I should add that with my medications, I'm so bad at taking them cause even with an alarm, I'll turn it off if I'm in the middle of something then forget to take them after I finish. My daddy has now set an alarm on his phone to remind me to make sure I don't miss any days or take them hours too late. And when he says "don't forget your pills, kitten" I'm very grateful cause I know he just wants me as healthy as possible and wants to help me since I do have a bad memory.

[MrBonesWildRide]

You may feel awkward, but most Littles need these questions, and for more then just to make sure they are done. Most Littles need it because every time you ask, you are ultimately saying "You are worth me taking time out of my day to make sure you are doing wonderful with all the things you stress about. I really care for you." They may say "Yes Daddy, I took my medicine" but what they are really saying is "OMG! My Daddy really does care! They are the best Daddy ever!"

 

Most vanilla relationships don't even get  "How was you day?"

 

I wholeheartedly agree. By engaging a conversation and making sure that I'm checking up on my little, I'm making sure that they're safe and secure because ultimately I'd like to know that they ARE safe and secure. 

 

The way to go about it is thus: If you've established that being hydrated is important, and you have implemented asking into your conversations before, then asking it out of the blue isn't as random as you may think. It's simply checking up on them during their day. 

[princessbugsie]

You may feel awkward, but most Littles need these questions, and for more then just to make sure they are done. Most Littles need it because every time you ask, you are ultimately saying "You are worth me taking time out of my day to make sure you are doing wonderful with all the things you stress about. I really care for you." They may say "Yes Daddy, I took my medicine" but what they are really saying is "OMG! My Daddy really does care! They are the best Daddy ever!"

 

Most vanilla relationships don't even get  "How was you day?"

This is very true, i enjoy being checked up on and being watched over. It shows not only care but that she means enough to you that you keep track of her health and he day to day life. I agree with lisa that you should start with nasic questions first and then delve into hydration or eating. Finding the baseline of what your little eats and drinks usually should help, that way you can ask and check up but you can also relax a bit that she is taking care of herself as well.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Just be natural. You are her daddy. If you want to know something, ask!

[Axeld408]

this is really good!