Advice needed!

[Guest Little_princess18]

Hello! I've been seeing this guy for about 5 months now and things are getting kind of iffy. I dunno if it's just in my head or something to take seriously? That's why I came here! So to start off the biggest thing I've noticed is he makes a big deal if I don't ask him about his day or show little interest in what he's saying (which is only if I have something that is upsetting me) but yet if I tell him a story he just says wow, interrupts me or just completely changes the topic to something about him. Which I get could be just a personality trait or whatever but it upsets me how if I do that to him he gets upset with me about it. Also another thing, we used to talk every night (he would get upset if we missed one night) but the past month or so I haven't been able to talk much because I've had two family members in the hospital so I've been watching kids and going back and forth between houses and hospitals constantly so there was quite a bit of time where we couldn't talk and he always through it in my face. I explained everything to him but every single conversation was how we couldn't keep going on like that and that I needed to make time for him. The last thing I wanna mention (even though there's a lot more) is that there was a point where I tried breaking up with him because I was not happy in the relationship and he would blow my phone up, threaten to commit suicide, he even made like 3 other snapchats when I blocked him. I just wanna know if I'm being too dramatic about all of this? 

[Baby Bunny Boo]

The moment he threatened to kill himself should be a deal breaker, you're better off without him. Edited June 24, 2019 by Baby Bunny Boo

[Alaskan Daddy]

Here are 3 thinks I would tell you. It appears that you and him are not compatible and your feelings matter and if you read your message with a very open mind you will find the answer of what you need to do. If you break it off don't tell him you are blocking him, just do it.

[PrincessVanellope]

It doesn't like he's very supportive or caring. I would end my relationship with him. With the health situations your family is facing, he should be more than understanding that he cannot have all of your attention all of the time. 

Threatening suicide is just that - a threat. If he was going to do so, he wouldn't tell you, he would just do it. He's using it to emotionally manipulate you so that you'll stay.

If it were me, I would end my relationship with him. 

[Little kaiya]

The fact that he would threaten to commit suicide because you want to break up with him is a MAJOR red flag to me. I say this as a crisis counselor, specializing in suicide, for over a decade, suicide is serious and is not something to be used to manipulate others. The fact he would use such a serious issue in this way is just unacceptable at best and unconscionable at worst.

 

There are tons of other red flags like creating false accounts once you blocked him, making everything about him, etc. Honestly, this isn't an "iffy" situation, this is a full on, giant red flag, full stop, get out situation.

 

Little kaiya

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

You should run far, FAR away imo

[Guest Teasing Tink]

Well there are two sides to every story and I'm only hearing your side. However, just based on the things you shared, it sounds like he could possibly have borderline (BPD) so is more delicate for that reason. It's not an excuse to mistreat someone though and if you're unhappy and feel the dynamic has become toxic, that tells you all you need to know. It doesn't sound like youre being dramatic to me -- just responding to an intense/dramatic situation.