stupid anxiety over finding a Daddy

[littlesubtigger]

not sure how i should be putting this so Ive been looking for a daddy It can be hard for me as Im trans mtf so I have all the fun that come with dealing with that as well.  so I've set up two meets with possibles recently and been chatting to one of them like every day  for the past week or so n let my self  really open up so its come to the day when Im going to meet one of them I get cancelled on this has happened once to me already I've been sent a legit reason or what I think is a legit reason from the guy I was meeting today.  

 

But my head keeps telling me different I"m finding it hard  to figure out if these guys are genuine or if I'm just being messed around  Im not sure  what i should be doing I don't want to give up but part of my head just said stop its not worth all the heart break.

 

I was in a five year  relationship with a dom this was before i discovered my little side and he really hurt me and betrayed me so I'm feel a little delicate about opening my self up and kind of feel I've been stupid in opening up so quickly I need to be more carefull with my feelings  i think sorry this is a bit of a rant 

I would like advice on how you  have or are  finding some one who genuine.

 

Again sorry about the rant 

 

-Jade-

[hislilbabygirl]

I can't really offer you any advice, but I just wanted to say how sorry I am that you're feeling hurt and sad. I don't know you at all, but I believe anyone can find happiness, but sometimes you have to wait and work for it. If you ever need someone to talk to, my inbox is always open and I promise I will read every word you write. -hugs-

[Sophie]

*hugs*

 

Unfortunately finding a daddy nowadays means having to deal with lots of posers and time wasters. While the fact that you're trans might make finding a daddy slightly more difficult; it's definitely not the main reason for your lack of success. It's just that good daddies are hard to find in general. Over time you will get better at figuring out who the genuine people are. But here are some tips that might work for you:

• Avoid opening yourself up too quickly. I know this can be hard to avoid, especially if you really "click" with someone. Just keep in mind that some things can end as quickly as they started -- especially with potential daddies.
• Look through any potential daddy's social media profiles. You can learn a lot about someone's motives based on what they put up on social media. In this day and age, I don't really consider this stalking.
• Ask them specific questions about what they're looking for from a DDLG relationship. A genuine daddy will answer questions like these with a well thought out and detailed response.

Trust me, you'll be glad you never gave up looking when you eventually do meet your perfect daddy. Good luck. <3

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

It's terrible to hear that! My Daddy is Androgynous and sometimes it's hard to get him to feel comfortable about it. Finding a Daddy can be hard for any little, especially since a lot of people just want to hook up, or don't know a single thing about DD/lg. I'm sure you'll find someone, but remember that sometimes there can be a huge red flag about some people. Don't let anyone tear you down or make you feel bad about yourself especially. I'm sure your perfect Daddy is out there and we are all here to support you! 

[ashwee]

I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling that way.  I think Sophie has some great tips.  The number one thing I would suggest is to try to take things slowly... doing that usually weeds out the non genuine impatient people.  Oh, and good luck

[littlesubtigger]

thanks ashwee and LavanderRabbit n hislilbabygirl I know I need to slow down a bit  and start to take my time more over it 

 

and Sophie your soo right on all points  thanks 

[Guest Sae]

Compared to looking for a daddy, sometimes its better to look for friends first. Then allow a relationship to grow from that.  It's hard to be single but it's  better not to put yourself in stress because you want to be with someone. Relationships sometimes also aren't that great if you force yourself into having one. 

[special-blackbitkitten]

Compared to looking for a daddy, sometimes its better to look for friends first. Then allow a relationship to grow from that.  It's hard to be single but it's  better not to put yourself in stress because you want to be with someone. Relationships sometimes also aren't that great if you force yourself into having one. 

 

I think this is really good advice! You get to know people so much better without the pressure that can sometimes come with a new relationship and plus you'll meet some really great friends too

[SargeantCuddles]

I felt the same way too. i just tried keeping myself busy with cooking and helping with tasks that didn't involve me sitting around. It helped some until I got a bit jelly of the other kids because they got to easter egg hunt. heh

[Guest DominantBlogger]

Just take your time.  Don't rush anything and if something feels wrong, it probably is.  Also...  Remember that just because someone is wrong for you doesn't mean they are wrong period.  We all have different needs and sometimes it is better to look at someone and say, "we just aren't compatible" than it is to try and figure out who is to blame.

[littlesubtigger]

thanks every one yeah I'm taking it slowly but still hate that bit of not having some one to turn too when I feel lost and insecure about myself