Accepting your little side without a CG’s validation

[Guest Lambielover]

Hi, hm idk why I’m writing this, maybe to just vent or to see if other littles out there might feel the same way sometimes.

 

I’m not too new to ddlg, I’ve known about it for years, but only started engaging in the dynamic about 2.5 years ago, I recently ended a relationship of 2 years with my first and only daddy. My adult side is fine tbh, but my little side has been feeling a bit off since then.

 

I’ve been trying to focus a lot on regressing by myself, which has been a little challenging since I was so used to only having this side of me brought on by someone else, and I guess this is just something I’ll have to get used to.

 

But I’ve started to realize with this time alone that I’m very ashamed and unsure about my little side, I feel like when I had a caregiver (who I thought I would spend the rest of my life with), I had validation from someone, and therefore it was okay for me to feel small and be the way I am. And now that I am single if I fall way too deep into the ddlg dynamic I’m afraid I won’t find someone who’s also into this, and by then it’ll be too late to get out, I won’t want a vanilla relationship again.

 

And this unconscious thoughts process is making it hard for me to be my little self, to feel at ease in little space, I feel like I should pace myself, and not be “too little” -if that’s even a thing-.

 

Has anyone felt like this? Or have any tips on accepting yourself? I know it’s a long journey but this has been extra hard for me lately ;c

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

You don't have to have a vanilla relationship if you don't want to and you don't have to be afraid of not wanting one

[Little_Butterfly]

Once I recognised them, my little traits hsve been both help and hindrance when I'm single. The hindrance is mainly the way they make me less cautious with potential daddies. But I use my little side to settle myself. I used to feel bad about crying when upset, like it was a bad thing. Now I just distract myself with my favourite little things, and cuddle and cry into my stuffies.

I don't know if that helps you, but I guess I mean that you are who you are and trying to avoid it won't work in the long run.

[LittleTeacup]

It's always ok to be yourself! The type of partner you have or don't have does not define who you are.

 

I am single and have always been due to not being ready to date in high school/college and now it's hard to meet people and I don't want a casual fling. But I've always been little in a way. I always liked things more aimed at people younger than me (except for science-y things where I was ahead) and while I spent a period of time ashamed of it (due to my parents telling me I'm too old for certain things) I eventually just started being myself. Life is more fun that way! I can read children's books like Winnie The Pooh. I can skip down that hill! I can go to the natural history museum and look at dinosaur fossils.

 

I brighten people's days. You can too! Being childlike is no shame. Pretending to be someone you're not is. If you are always yourself, you will attract someone who likes who you are.

[Guest Lambielover]

It's always ok to be yourself! The type of partner you have or don't have does not define who you are.

 

I am single and have always been due to not being ready to date in high school/college and now it's hard to meet people and I don't want a casual fling. But I've always been little in a way. I always liked things more aimed at people younger than me (except for science-y things where I was ahead) and while I spent a period of time ashamed of it (due to my parents telling me I'm too old for certain things) I eventually just started being myself. Life is more fun that way! I can read children's books like Winnie The Pooh. I can skip down that hill! I can go to the natural history museum and look at dinosaur fossils.

 

I brighten people's days. You can too! Being childlike is no shame. Pretending to be someone you're not is. If you are always yourself, you will attract someone who likes who you are.

Thank youu, it's a journey but I know eventually I'll get there