Boyfriends not a Daddy :(

[Guest PeachyMe]

I have a boyfriend, but hes not a Daddy, I can still be little around him, but its not the same, i'm not sure what to do because I want a Daddy but he just cant do it, and I do love him but I have needs... :$ 

 

 

                                                                                            -PeachyMe

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You need to decide if it's something that you require in a relationship, and if it is then you need to tell him that. If he can't be that then neither of you will be happy in your relationship in the long run.

 

There is the avenue of polyamory to explore though. If your boyfriend would be okay with it then you could always ha e a daddy AND him as well. It all depends on how you view relationships and how you feel about each other really.

 

And for what it's worth I'm sorry you have go through that.

[missmouse]

There's no law saying you can't have a Daddy and a boyfriend. Be honest and direct about your needs and explain to your boyfriend which of your needs he fulfills and which ones he doesn't. Try discussing options and feeling out each other's comfort zones. And don't forget to ask if he has any needs that aren't being fulfilled. Its a two way street. With proper communication you can work toward a mutually beneficial solution

[Guest littlemissragamuffin]

If I was you, I would look long and hard about what he meant to me and how much I cared about him. Put alot of thought into what lifes like with him and what it'd be like without him. How much he cares for me. You said you still get to be you around him(thou I don't know how much or to what extent) He can't be a "Daddy" but he allows you to be ture to yourself. That sounds like he's trying to give you your needs in a way he can (then again you didn't say much) I wouldn't get all wrapped up in an idea and lose something that's good. Have you talked everything out? Does he know you feel that you have wants/needs that he's not meeting? Maybe he also haves wants/needs that feel arnt being met. Alot of people, if not most would already have run from sippy cups, binkies, childishness, ect. It would really suck if you choose to leave him for the idea of having a "Daddy" to later realize you are totally lost and miserable without. Becare, really think about it, and talk. Tell him very little feeling and have him do the same. Then make up your mind. Good luck （＾ｖ＾）

[StrawberryRaven]

This is my conundrum as well. I've been talking to this wonderful individual for some 2 years now, but he is not and never will be a Daddy. He's everything else and hell he means so fucking much to me....but I'm still trying to think if I can be in a relationship with someone that can't give me something I've always craved.

 

Give yourself time to think, don't say anything until you know if he's worth the sacrifice or not.

[Guest ( ಡ ͜ ʖ ಡ ) MrGentle]

Eventually you begin to resent the person. Been there done that, our lifestyle has to be with someone that's interested otherwise you go unfulfilled.