Little Space on Skype?

[SpidermanBear]

I am a very new and very bad daddy. I have a lot to learn but my main issue is that I have a bad tendency to take my princess out of little space. We call on skype a lot but I rarely see her in person. She's complained that I don't know how to keep her in little space, I always pull her out. I don't mean to, but I never know what to say/do and when she's tired of me being quiet I speak up and say something stupid that pulls her out. It's not fair to her, she's said it's very emotionally draining. But what do I do? In real life I could lay down with her, snuggle her, play with her plushies. But over skype, I can offer to watch a movie which we do a lot, but that's it. I thought about downloading one of those couple apps so we can play games with each other. But besides those things, do you all have any more suggestions?

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

If you know her well enough, then you should know what little activities she prefers. If you don't, then I suggest that you ask her what makes her feel little. You can give her certain tasks and give her rewards through an app. Maybe send her a care package and leave cute little notes :3

[DaddyJ]

Hi SpidermanBear,

 

I have also had the thought that it would be much easier in real-life than over skype, I could cuddle, make snacks, play with stuffies, go for a walk together etc ...the whole world of non-verbal communication. Especially if the little doesn't like to use words much in little space. Over skype I feel like I talk way more than I would if we were in the same physical place.

 

I agree with pouty kitten that solutions can come from which activities the little prefers. For general ideas, there have been quite a few posts on these forums of things to do which take the pressure off talking all the time (and thank you to original posters for these ideas!):

 

- Online apps for collaborative drawing (flockdraw.com etc)

- Playing board games (en.boardgamearena.com) and other online games

- Making task lists with rewards (choremonster.com or habitica.com)

- Making youtube or music playlists for each other

 

I also like having storytime where we make a story together, but that's more talking I suppose!

 

I'd be interested in learning others suggestions?

[Chelly]

my daddy and i have netflix nights where we'll get in a skype call and watch cartoons or disney movies, so you can maybe have special nights like that once a week or so?

 

drawing/coloring things for each other (or asking her to color something for you then take a picture and send it) but not too often, just enough so she has something to do and can feel proud of when you compliment her

 

We also use couple app which has the shared drawing option so you both can participate

 

Also, referring to her has being little, being your _____ (like I'm daddy's princess and angel and kitten), treating her like you would more like a kid sometimes and other times being more like those super sweet, annoyingly cute couples ("you're so adorable" "no I'm not" "yes, the most adorablest kitten ever" etc. as an example)

 

I hope these help

[Darkling]

Don't be so hard on yourself !! 

 

We all have to learn. It sometimes pulls me out when i can't answer a question in little space. I play WoW a lot... and when i'm in little space i can't remember my specs or numbers or stat priority.... that is stored in the 'grown up' brain. 

 

Daddy played a board game over skype with me once. It was so amazing... we smushed a castle together

 

It's not about 'keeping her in'... it's about not pulling her out. Things that littles don't think of as little are hard to process.

[BodicainDaddy]

Here's an idea: make one of your Skype calls *entirely* little-space by ringing her, telling her just to sit quietly with her stuffies and listen, like a good girl, then reading her a fairy story (funny voices? You know you want to give it a try...) and then at the end wishing her a good night and that you love her and end the call - then she's got an entirely "little memory" of you. And you'll feel good knowing you managed to keep her entirely in little space - that'll up your confidence.