What rules have your Daddys or CGs given you that help you best?

[JanieBaby]

I'd love to hear from other little what rules you have that you find most helpful. I think it would be nice to talk about good rules and maybe appreciate that they help!

 

I'm new but actually hoping to find that there are rules out there really helpful.

[LittleTeacup]

I don't have a caregiver yet, but I like being prepared and have some rule ideas ahead of time. I'm not a huge rule person, but a few geared towards my well being and mental health would be helpful.

 

1. Before going to bed, come up with at least one thing I'm grateful for that happened that day. I'd like my caregiver to also abide by that rule and we can share.

2. When I'm frustrated, I should tell my caregiver as soon as I notice (within reason).

3. Eat at least two servings of vegetables every day (exceptions for unusual circumstances)

4. Some sort of bedtime/wakeup time depending on the needs of my schedule

5. Share with my caregiver something new I learned every day. Could be something simple like "I learned where this store is".

6. At least five hugs a day.

 

Everybody has needs for different kinds of rules. Some littles prefer more structure. Sometimes brats want rules for them to break. Some want regular rules and sexual rules. I just want rules that will help me grow and meet my goals. 

[Ikneelonly4Daddy]

I’m a grown woman with my own goals and desires and interests before I’m a little. My hope and desire is that Daddy listens to what’s deep in my heart and makes decisions and rules for me to guide me towards what’s important to me. I also hope that he thinks carefully about what he wants for himself from me and makes rules that supports him and brings him joy and makes him feel at peace.

 

Sooo...the rules that are most helpful to me have to do with my health - the food that I eat and medication, mental health, etc. because that requires an immense amount of trust on my part. When I give that to him and can trust him with it, it gives me the most relief. It’s how I feel truly cared for.

 

I also like the small day to day things that help keep us connected. I like when he picks out my clothes and nail polish colors and which little friend I’m going to sleep with. I like when he wants me to take a picture of something I find interesting - even if it’s a little stone.

 

I like when I get to play - especially when he wants me to. I get to be my little self and that he loves that.

 

I’m not sure if I answered your question.

[Ikneelonly4Daddy]

I don't have a caregiver yet, but I like being prepared and have some rule ideas ahead of time. I'm not a huge rule person, but a few geared towards my well being and mental health would be helpful.

 

 

 

1. Before going to bed, come up with at least one thing I'm grateful for that happened that day. I'd like my caregiver to also abide by that rule and we can share.

2. When I'm frustrated, I should tell my caregiver as soon as I notice (within reason).

3. Eat at least two servings of vegetables every day (exceptions for unusual circumstances)

4. Some sort of bedtime/wakeup time depending on the needs of my schedule

5. Share with my caregiver something new I learned every day. Could be something simple like "I learned where this store is".

6. At least five hugs a day.

 

Everybody has needs for different kinds of rules. Some littles prefer more structure. Sometimes brats want rules for them to break. Some want regular rules and sexual rules. I just want rules that will help me grow and meet my goals.

 

I love your rules!

Edited June 20, 2019 by Ikneelonly4Daddy

[Little_Butterfly]

I love rules and structure in a ddlg dynamic. I also have some rules that I try to follow in all my relationships. That list is constantly evolving, but also hard to stick to sometimes.

The ones that are relevant to ddlg I think include:

- always speak up about something that worries us. And make sure that we are open to the other bringing things up (not trivializing things etc)

- show your good feelings, gratitude, etc.

- don't say you're going to do something and not do it unless for good reason (And explain that reason). This is probably mainly for non-trivial things, remembering that, for a little, everything daddy says be will do is non-trivial

- be present. When you're together, either physically or virtually, be together.

- need I say it.....don't ghost.

 

As for particular ddlg rules, I love the idea of rules for day to day things - clothes, food, sleep, etc. For me, these make me feel nurtured but also a way if staying constantly connected in some way. I also like contact rules like good mornings and good nights, and tasks, both sexual and general. And I guess overall, consistency and follow through are important to make it all fulfil each other's power exchange needs.