kawasaku Posted June 19, 2019 Report Posted June 19, 2019 (This post is 100% factual and sarcasm and satire is liberally peppered throughout) One study from Dr. Kawa of Los Angeles, CA found that out of 13 individuals, all 13 failed to read some or all of the said personals ad. The personals ad was posted to r/BDSMPersonals and was of sizable length. Candidates that felt they met the personals ad’s requirements were required and instructed to: -Send a photo of themselves (as one was provided of Dr. Kawa in the initial post) -Explain why he believed to be a good candidate for the position of Dr. Kawa’s Daddy -To read the 4th bullet point of the 4th section. -To include the above bullet point’s quote in the message. Within a 6 hour period, 13 of 13 of the test subjects failed to do complete all parts. 4 of 13 did none of said tasks. This study has been brought to you by Dr. Kawa free of charge made available to the public for educational purposes. 3
Guest Looby-Lou Posted June 19, 2019 Report Posted June 19, 2019 (edited) Ha ha! Thanks for making me laugh. I like it Some people who responded to my personal on here obviously hadn’t read it properly or read my profile Claiming to want a “relationship” but don’t bother to check if we’re even basically compatible LOL . Such a waste of time *sigh* Looby Edited June 19, 2019 by Looby-Lou 1
glitterymarshmallow Posted June 19, 2019 Report Posted June 19, 2019 Cx i love your sense of humour despite the poopy outcome, thanks for sharing your findings doctor 1
Guest countlieberkuhn Posted June 19, 2019 Report Posted June 19, 2019 The way I see it, if someone isn't willing to read a longer personal ad then they're just window shopping anyway. A long personal is a good way to filter out the chaff, either because they can't be bothered to read it, simply did not read and its obvious, or they did read it and filtered themselves out if they decided we wouldn't be compatible. Keep up the good work, Dr. Kawa. 1
APTX Posted June 19, 2019 Report Posted June 19, 2019 (edited) The way I see it, if someone isn't willing to read a longer personal ad then they're just window shopping anyway. Truth, but I also believe it doesn't really matter. If you're single and looking, you naturally will attract those type of people (a.k.a. those who don't bother reading or skimming through). It's like people trying to race and "claiming" that person before anyone else, it's even more a common re-occurrence when it comes to the females, they experience it more. That may be why some people who are just looking for a quick fix and short-term arrangements don't bother with a well-detailed personal about themselves and what they are looking for, but to each their own I guess. I do still believe writing a good personal with specifics does help filter out people if you're looking for something more serious, we just don't have the data for it as we simply don't know about those who weren't interested in you upon reading your personal. Edited June 19, 2019 by APTX 1
Guest Looby-Lou Posted June 19, 2019 Report Posted June 19, 2019 I do still believe writing a good personal with specifics does help filter out people if you're looking for something more serious, we just don't have the data for it as we simply don't know about those who weren't interested in you upon reading your personal. I think you're right, it's some kind of filter. A rather porous one though LOL. My experience is that a detailed profile/personal doesn't stop the incompatibles or less serious people trying their luck. But it does hopefully give a compatible or more serious person a fairly good start to understanding who I am. It's true we don't have data for people who did bother to check a profile and then decide they're not interested, but informally there's signs that people do that - I can tell by who has looked at my profile and then not contacted me. Looby
Guest Looby-Lou Posted June 19, 2019 Report Posted June 19, 2019 (edited) ... or they did read it and filtered themselves out if they decided we wouldn't be compatible. If someone reads my profile and filters themselves out because they can see we wouldn't be compatible, I think it's great (and I wish them luck with someone else). I appreciate that they took the time to read my profile and had the strength of character to decide I'm not for them, even if there's let's say 50% of me that they like. I hope that makes sense! I know sometimes I am very drawn to a profile/member but in my heart I can see there's something they want that I can't give (for example) Looby Edited June 19, 2019 by Looby-Lou
LittleTeacup Posted June 19, 2019 Report Posted June 19, 2019 Hmmm, preliminary results show promise. Further study with a larger sample size is warranted. This type of behavior isn't just limited to personal ads though. It happens in job ads too. So many people just send the same generic cover letter to every job opening they see, even ones they're clearly not qualified for, and often show no indication they know what the job they're applying for entails and fail to provide basic requested information. Some people's strategy is quantity over quality I guess. 1
Guest countlieberkuhn Posted June 19, 2019 Report Posted June 19, 2019 If someone reads my profile and filters themselves out because they can see we wouldn't be compatible, I think it's great (and I wish them luck with someone else). I appreciate that they took the time to read my profile and had the strength of character to decide I'm not for them, even if there's let's say 50% of me that they like. I hope that makes sense! I know sometimes I am very drawn to a profile/member but in my heart I can see there's something they want that I can't give (for example) Looby Yeah, I definitely didn't intend that as a bad thing (if that's how it came across). They're the unsung heroes, as nobody will ever know they took the time to read someone's personal and decided to opt out. I can understand some people just wanting a quick fix, but it's not for me.
Guest countlieberkuhn Posted June 19, 2019 Report Posted June 19, 2019 Hmmm, preliminary results show promise. Further study with a larger sample size is warranted. This type of behavior isn't just limited to personal ads though. It happens in job ads too. So many people just send the same generic cover letter to every job opening they see, even ones they're clearly not qualified for, and often show no indication they know what the job they're applying for entails and fail to provide basic requested information. Some people's strategy is quantity over quality I guess. You miss every shot you don't take I suppose.
Guest Looby-Lou Posted June 19, 2019 Report Posted June 19, 2019 Yeah, I definitely didn't intend that as a bad thing (if that's how it came across). Noooo, it didn't come across as a bad thing! I think we were saying the same thing. And of course not everyone who looks at profiles is wanting to find a partner. For example, I often look at a profile if I like the posts that person has written on the forum. But sometimes you kind of know someone has checked you out (or you check someone out) and almost reluctantly decide not to go for it. And that can take more integrity than sending a FR to someone and trying to start something when you know in your heart you wouldn't be right for them. Ok, i'm babbling, time to zip up my mouth. Looby
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