cinnamon-puppy Posted June 17, 2019 Report Posted June 17, 2019 Hi, I'm fairly new to this forum but me and my Daddy have been in a CG/L relationship for a little over a year now. We have a set of rules and one of the main ones was my bedtime. However, a few months ago we got rid of it because I couldn't stick it it and it wasn't working but we reintroduced it shortly after, (I'm a sucker for structure!) Within the past few weeks, I've been having troubles sleeping and when me and Daddy discussed it, he thought it was best to get rid of bedtime as he feels cruel enforcing it when it's no use for me. Now I like this and I think it'll be better, but I miss that structure? Any advice?
Guest countlieberkuhn Posted June 17, 2019 Report Posted June 17, 2019 Do you have a particular time of night that you tend to be able to fall asleep at, and a time beyond which you really struggle at work or school the next day? If so, you could just re-negotiate the bed time to work around that, rather than arbitrarily setting one that is good for most people. Personally, I struggle to sleep at any time before 1am, but will quite often stay up til 2am at which point I really feel it at work the next day. If this was you, setting a bed time of 1am or maybe 12:30 would be ideal than something more standard like 11pm. If you're an insomnia sufferer like me though, I'm not sure what could be done, besides having him make you go to bed for a nap when you're tired and able to fall asleep.
Guest Looby-Lou Posted June 17, 2019 Report Posted June 17, 2019 I'm not sure what the actual problem is. Falling asleep? Or sleeping through the night? Or nightmares? or? Maybe if you want to give more info about your situation we might come up with some more ideas, but only if you wanted to. I also love to have structure, routines etc. So if having an actual bedtime doesn't work for you, how about having a chart to record your bedtime? So every night when you go to bed you could write what time it is. Or draw a picture of a clock with the time! And maybe your Daddy could give you a sticker the next morning if you fell asleep/slept well or whatever it is you're dealing with. Another idea is to maybe have a bedtime ROUTINE rather than a rule (if you haven't already). That's something you and your Daddy could create together and do together e.g. brushing your teeth, brushing your hair, putting on your night-clothes, choosing a teddy to sleep with, gosh there's lots of structure you could put into the pre-bed routine! Good luck...and sleep well Looby
Guest Looby-Lou Posted June 17, 2019 Report Posted June 17, 2019 Do you have a particular time of night that you tend to be able to fall asleep at, and a time beyond which you really struggle at work or school the next day? If so, you could just re-negotiate the bed time to work around that, rather than arbitrarily setting one that is good for most people. This is what works for me too. But my bedtime is a LOT earlier than yours LOL. 1:00AM?.... Looby
Guest countlieberkuhn Posted June 17, 2019 Report Posted June 17, 2019 This is what works for me too. But my bedtime is a LOT earlier than yours LOL. 1:00AM?.... Looby I've always been a night owl! If I have a week or more off work and I don't keep my sleep patterns in check, I'll naturally start going to sleep at around 7am and waking up in the early evening. When I was at university, I'd always be most productive between 7pm and midnight. Evening classes were a godsend!
Guest Looby-Lou Posted June 17, 2019 Report Posted June 17, 2019 (edited) ... I'll naturally start going to sleep at around 7am and waking up in the early evening. This is not a DaddyDom...this is a vampire *Looby runs & hides* I'm a morning person, by evening time I'm even more little than ever cos i'm so tired. That's why bedtime REALLY matters. Hey, just think - we'd be perfect together...we'd NEVER argue! Because we'd never be awake at the same time To the OP, are you a morning or evening person? That might make a difference to your sleep problem, could be worth considering? For example, i know if i'm tired i should go to bed earlier than usual. It's the only way I can catch up on sleep because I'm not able to "sleep in" the next day no matter how tired I am. Would you want to have a rule about not being able to get up too early / too late? Instead of the bedtime rule? Looby Edited June 17, 2019 by Looby-Lou
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