Little has a question for experienced Daddies.

[lovebites30019]

I am a little who loves praise. I will do the right thing every time just to make daddy happy. I can't even express how much his praise lifts me up.

But......

I discovered quite by accident... that I also really really likes being spanked. 

So now... I'm not sure how to earn a spanking without making Daddy mad. I'm never bratty and wouldn't even know where to start with that. My daddy isn't super strict. We don't even have rules because I don't need to be told what would make him happy.

I talked to daddy about how I was feeling and his response was that I would have to figure out how to earn a spanking without really making him mad. Huh? I need a daddy to tell me what to do!!!!!! How do I figure it out??? Break the rules when there aren't any????  Do I start trying to be bratty? Or is he going to take care of it but doesn't want to tell me????

 

Any advice from daddies or even littles?

[Alaskan Daddy]

You have posed a great question. I had the same problem with a little. We solved the problem by using spanking as a role play during sexy time.

The role-play involved her telling me that she had been bad  and that got the ball rolling. I would just have to get myself in a frame of mind that I was upset during the role play and give her the experience she wanted. It turned out to be so hot and loving at the same time.

I hope this helps.

[lovebites30019]

Thank you! I think that might work.

[Aston]

create rules which are either impossible to keep, or intentionally meant to be broken.

IE: you van have no more than 2 cookies a day.

by intentionally breaking this rule you can signal your dom you'd be up for a spanking, while still deciding when and if.

 

if you'd like for your Dom to be in charge about if and when you'll be "punished" you could go so far create rules which are in conflict with one another so they can be used to punish you completely arbitrarily.

Edited June 17, 2019 by Aston

[LittleGirlEmilia]

Ask him. You don't have to act up to get spanked. Maybe even add in a weekly maintenance session.

[Guest Looby-Lou]

create rules which are either impossible to keep, or intentionally meant to be broken.

IE: you van have no more than 2 cookies a day.

by intentionally breaking this rule you can signal your dom you'd be up for a spanking, while still deciding when and if.

 

 

oh gosh i LOVE this idea! 

Kind of a rule that isn't really a rule and would lead to a funishment.

AND you get to eat extra cookies 

 

Like the OP i respond best to praise. i couldn't cope with (or need) harsh punishments. But i would love some smacks 

i shall tuck this idea away in my back pocket for if i ever find myself a Daddy!

Looby   

[lovebites30019]

create rules which are either impossible to keep, or intentionally meant to be broken.

IE: you van have no more than 2 cookies a day.

by intentionally breaking this rule you can signal your dom you'd be up for a spanking, while still deciding when and if.

 

if you'd like for your Dom to be in charge about if and when you'll be "punished" you could go so far create rules which are in conflict with one another so far as to create rules that are in conflict with one another so they can be used to punish you completely arbitrarily.

 

I like this idea too! 

[Littlegirly24]

If you enjoy it it's not really a punishment but a funishment. It's best to have two separate sets of rules, ones that are real and which you receive an unpleasant punishment for if you break and ones that are fun and either designed to be broken when you want funishment as others have said. Or special rules that only apply during sexy time and are difficult to follow.

[MadelynVictoria]

You can ask your daddy to give you regular maintenance spankings. That's something my daddy and I established because I also enjoy spankings

[Guest Looby-Lou]

You can ask your daddy to give you regular maintenance spankings. That's something my daddy and I established because I also enjoy spankings

 

Why is it called a maintenance spanking please?

[Little kaiya]

For some people spanking let's them release stress, emotions, worry, etc. They find spankings help keep them calm, centered and grounded. As a result routine spankings help them maintain a desired state or equilibrium in their life. It can also help reinforce or maintain certain dynamics like power exchanges. Hence, the term maintenance spanking.

 

Little kaiya

Edited June 17, 2019 by Little kaiya

[Guest Looby-Lou]

Oh, ok. That's interesting.

 

I can relate to the last part, about maintaining the power exchange.

 

Thanks!

 

Looby 

[LittleTeacup]

Since you like spankings, it could be a reward! So if you do really good on something, it could earn you some spanks.

 

Or, the spanks could be a "punishment" for things like you being "too attractive to resist" or "so good you're in trouble for not breaking the rules enough".

[lovebites30019]

Since you like spankings, it could be a reward! So if you do really good on something, it could earn you some spanks.

 

Or, the spanks could be a "punishment" for things like you being "too attractive to resist" or "so good you're in trouble for not breaking the rules enough".

Hehehe that I can do! That way there is no anxiety about upsetting him!

[MadelynVictoria]

Why is it called a maintenance spanking please?

I'm a hugeee brat to my daddy, so he will give me weekly spankings to remind me to be a good girl for him