Tinder, bumble etc..

[Soulmatesearch]

Has anyone used conventional dating apps/sites to try and find their Ddlg other half. Either subtly or just blatant personal ad?.

 

Stories, feedback etc.. Would be great

[Guest MommyWitch]

I wouldn't use bumble or tinder.. i mean it did not work out for me! Actually finding anyone on normal datings sites into cgl did not work for me!

 

Reddit or here has been a good place to find someone!

 

I mean everyone has different experiances but that was mine!

[Soulmatesearch]

I had a profile once but didn't use my pics. It was a Ddlg one.

 

I spoke to a girl who wanted it, but she had been seeing a married man. I don't really have time for that kind of thing. I understand the appeal but still I don't like it..

[Little_Butterfly]

I met my second husband on RSVP and we were together 16 years till he died. When I wanted to start dating again I went on Plenty of Fish and later Tinder. Both as good/bad as the people on them.

I recently tried Bumble and Zoosk but they seem like a sort with what they want you to pay for. I don't expect everything free but they're not very up front about it.

I've met 1 daddy here and 2 through Fetlife.

Honestly I don't know where I'll find my forever daddy.

[kawasaku]

I feel like I’ve tried everything at times.

 

Reddit, Fetlife, POF, Tinder, Whiplr, Hinge, Kinkoo, DDLGFriends, DateCGL... and of course here. I’ve browsed through IG, Kik groups, and Tumblr but didn’t do anything other than kind of window shop there.

 

On vanilla apps I don’t outwardly day I’m looking for a Daddy Dom as doing so has gotten so many bad messages (bad as in people who have no clue). Instead I say “looking for SSC individuals and D-Types.” And if they know what it means, they know what it means.

 

At some point, it makes me feel like, maybe it’s not them, maybe it’s me and my high standards. However I’ve never met such rude and vulgar people than on these apps. I’ve tried settling a few times and those are some of my most regretful dates.

 

First line from a Tinder match today: “My dick murdered the last pussy and I need a new place to hide it”

First message from a random person on Kinkoo today: “You’re new obedient little girl now understand!!! UNDERSTAND”

Don’t get me started on Fet messages.

9/10 times people ask about sex before my name. Beware of “tourists” in kink.

[Soulmatesearch]

From a guys perspective. Think I'd rather have girls send rude messages than nothing at all.

 

Think the algorithm on all of them is to set you up to fail to want to pay for the extra features.

 

And I feel ya, feeling like I've tried everything too.

Same old story everywhere. Soon as you talk to someone that feels like it could go somewhere. They dissappear without warning.

[Soulmatesearch]

Or we get catfished, and they are not who they say they are. Edited June 16, 2019 by GenuineUKGuy

[domthesub]

I go on multiple dating apps like Badoo saying that I’m a little & looking for a daddy, but I’d much rather interact with people on a kink-specific app/website because I know they’d actually be into the lifestyle instead of just meeting a bunch of vanilla sex-crazed pigs that claim they’ll be your daddy yet haven’t the slightest clue if what that even means.

(side note: KinkD is an awesome app to find local people into DDLG or other types of kink)

[Ebony Fruit Bat]

I've tried POF in the past. I stated in my profile that I'm a little looking for a DD. Also put my preference for being a princess and loving pink. Guys glossed over that total paragraph and messaged any way . When I asked if they knew what it meant they said no. They wanted to keep talking, but weren't interested in knowing more about ddlg. Edited July 19, 2019 by Ebony Fruit Bat

[DragonAllFather]

I've used many of these websites in the past: badoo, POF, Lovoo, Adoptauntio (Adopt-a-dude I think there is no English version of this one), Tinder... I only looked for girls, but it was a failure. I had the feeling that people there were extremely superficial, plus I'm so weird that I couldn't connect with anybody even if tried for years. Although I wasn't looking for a DDLG relationship since I didn't know about it. But now, I would rather spend the rest of my life alone than getting into those websites again, haha, and I bet I wouldn't find a little there. I prefer to be patient and explore specific websites/apps.  

Edited July 19, 2019 by DragonAllFather

[BakedPotato]

I personally loved OK Cupid. It was my fave for finding a meaningful relationship. I havent used it in a couple of years, but it was the best with actualy humanizing people and making it about comparability. <3

[volfDd]

i don't use anything anymore... i just give up...

[MissNMTX]

I haven't online dated in years. Some of the aforementioned sites I've used before, some I've never heard of. They were such an absolute waste of time. That said, I started on hinge a few days ago, with the help of a friendly Dom I know. We shall see, but I don't have much hope honestly.

[LunaLilac]

I've been on a few of them, but unless you're willing to pay for something the odds of finding someone to talk to (or even another real person) are astronomically low. They're designed to have more or less zero functionality unless you pay, you can't see who likes you, or who wants to talk to you, or go and look at a previous profile you may have overlooked. And now apparently they're using AI to make fake profiles to get you to pay more just to talk to no one now.

 

I was on one very briefly that I'm convinced was a scam, it was a littlespace themed one, but you couldn't read messages you received only send them out? and you couldn't even see the messages you sent without paying.

Edited September 23, 2024 by LunaLilac

[Guest puppies4]

I’ve used more conventional dating apps and found that it’s definitely not the way to find partners into this lifestyle.

My last three partners I’ve met off of Fetlife or on here and I’m finding that there isn’t a lot of people in this lifestyle that want what I want outside of this lifestyle or kink (a relationship outside of kink, marriage, kids, etc.) Personally, if I wanted a Daddy/kinky partner I’d stick to these sites unless you’re okay with going on dating apps and expressing your interest in ddlg. I have only really used dating apps to find LTR “vanilla” partners that meet my life goals, and forcing myself to be okay with the fact that I may not find a partner into this lifestyle.

[Huggybear]

Im actually astonished on both A: How many there are! And B: How often theyre used :O. I tried tinder for less than a day once and felt so dumb swiping girls like theyre a product that I deleted it the same day and have been done with all the dating apps since. This was close to 10 years ago I think.

Ive been a fan of forums like this one. Its nice to see people's public side and kinky side and glimpses of their personality before engaging in conversation. And when you do, you already know if the more sensitive stuff is a match or not. Not knowing what someone looks like never bothered me, and I have always felt that anonymity creates openness and makes for better conversation. Physical attraction is important but if the emotions are there you tend to not even care about "how hot" someone is. And if you end up getting a cute one on top of it all it just feels like a lottery win ^^.

Also, its places like this that allows you to build friendships first because people arent here primarily to date. Dating apps feel like everyone expects you to instantly go out and try to hook up. Maybe im weird but thats too much too soon for me personally.

[Guest masterm]

i had mostly and bad experiences on most of the platform above. and met the most amazing partners in sex+ or kinky communities in reallife. 

but to share a few tips among colleagues: i set up up a tinder profile quite successful once, by adding a description that was clear to the community what type of relationship i’m looking for. as a guy it’s probably easier to find a good submissive or little and create a non toxic relationship than vice versa

 

edit: and i remember sending a few superlikes to people with the vibe i was going for

Edited September 28, 2024 by masterm

[Liamo]

Apps are a waste of time in my opinion. I like to meet organically.