What to do when someone hears/sees you being little on accident?!?!

[littlebratcc]

[zanderandspike]

I mean, you could always lie and say you were talking to a baby? like say your daddy have a friend with a young kid and you had to talk to the kid for a sec?

 

on the flipside you could tell her that sometimes you baby talk to motivate(or something) yourself? 

 

fully 'coming out' as a little probably isn't the best, but like if you want to go for it

 

also if it's not the first time she's heard it maybe you could say you like baby videos? or that your daddy does?

[Guest PrincessSparkles35]

Those are tricky waters...maybe see how much she already knows before disclosing anything. I would definitely make ur room vanilla when ur not there...she may try to peek her head in. She has no right to judge but I feel you. Have u told ur daddy about this? I don't know if u and him video chat but if u do he could help field some of the questions for u.

[LittleTeacup]

This can be a difficult situation...

 

I know for me I don't really hide being little (and less and less the older I get) but I don't have a caregiver and I'm not into pacis or diapers or something somebody might really question. I do, however, talk in my little voice sometimes around my parents or friends like it's completely normal and they've all come to accept it. If my parents question my pigtails, I tell them "I felt like it" and leave it at that. Yeah, sometimes I've been caught skipping down a hill by strangers, but the embarrassment only lasts a moment. Or if I take the little speak too far and my mom tells me to stop talking like a baby I'll either glare at her or apologize and resume a big voice.

 

These are just a couple options:

Option 1: next time she says something to you, tell her it's none of her business. (Why is she eavesdropping on your private conversation?)

Option 2: say "yeah I like coloring. So what?" or "yeah that was me. Sometimes my boyfriend and I play this game...." and then laugh like it's no big deal

 

I generally don't advise lying if it's something that's bound to come up again. Your roommate suspects something and clearly isn't buying the "it's the tv" line. She might be imagining you're doing something really wild, so acting as if what you're doing is no big deal might calm her down. I've gotten away with all sorts of things (just to be clear, not illegal things) by just acting normal. Recently on a trip to a big city when I had to wait until midnight for the bus home, I spent the last few dark hours sitting in the lobby of some random hotel. Nobody asked if I belonged there. I simply walked in, sat on a chair reading on my phone for three hours, and then left for the nearby bus station. The lesson is (and it can sometimes be hard to learn) to not show nervousness like you think you're doing something wrong. You're not doing anything wrong.

 

You don't need to fully explain your relationship with your daddy or try to explain what being little means. Your roommate is just going to have to accept that you sometimes talk that way in your private conversations and that you won't talk like that to her. Tell her there's nothing wrong with it and remind her that you ARE a full grown adult and you're not harming anyone. Be more mature than her, who makes assumptions and judgements about things that are none of her business.

[Lollipox]

I think you should take advice from the Madagascar penguins.

 

[PapisBabygirl]

I do exactly what Pox ^ said. Just smile and wave and play it off.

[Guest PrincessSparkles35]

This can be a difficult situation...

 

I know for me I don't really hide being little (and less and less the older I get) but I don't have a caregiver and I'm not into pacis or diapers or something somebody might really question. I do, however, talk in my little voice sometimes around my parents or friends like it's completely normal and they've all come to accept it. If my parents question my pigtails, I tell them "I felt like it" and leave it at that. Yeah, sometimes I've been caught skipping down a hill by strangers, but the embarrassment only lasts a moment. Or if I take the little speak too far and my mom tells me to stop talking like a baby I'll either glare at her or apologize and resume a big voice.

 

These are just a couple options:

Option 1: next time she says something to you, tell her it's none of her business. (Why is she eavesdropping on your private conversation?)

Option 2: say "yeah I like coloring. So what?" or "yeah that was me. Sometimes my boyfriend and I play this game...." and then laugh like it's no big deal

 

I generally don't advise lying if it's something that's bound to come up again. Your roommate suspects something and clearly isn't buying the "it's the tv" line. She might be imagining you're doing something really wild, so acting as if what you're doing is no big deal might calm her down. I've gotten away with all sorts of things (just to be clear, not illegal things) by just acting normal. Recently on a trip to a big city when I had to wait until midnight for the bus home, I spent the last few dark hours sitting in the lobby of some random hotel. Nobody asked if I belonged there. I simply walked in, sat on a chair reading on my phone for three hours, and then left for the nearby bus station. The lesson is (and it can sometimes be hard to learn) to not show nervousness like you think you're doing something wrong. You're not doing anything wrong.

 

You don't need to fully explain your relationship with your daddy or try to explain what being little means. Your roommate is just going to have to accept that you sometimes talk that way in your private conversations and that you won't talk like that to her. Tell her there's nothing wrong with it and remind her that you ARE a full grown adult and you're not harming anyone. Be more mature than her, who makes assumptions and judgements about things that are none of her business.

This can be a difficult situation...

 

I know for me I don't really hide being little (and less and less the older I get) but I don't have a caregiver and I'm not into pacis or diapers or something somebody might really question. I do, however, talk in my little voice sometimes around my parents or friends like it's completely normal and they've all come to accept it. If my parents question my pigtails, I tell them "I felt like it" and leave it at that. Yeah, sometimes I've been caught skipping down a hill by strangers, but the embarrassment only lasts a moment. Or if I take the little speak too far and my mom tells me to stop talking like a baby I'll either glare at her or apologize and resume a big voice.

 

These are just a couple options:

Option 1: next time she says something to you, tell her it's none of her business. (Why is she eavesdropping on your private conversation?)

Option 2: say "yeah I like coloring. So what?" or "yeah that was me. Sometimes my boyfriend and I play this game...." and then laugh like it's no big deal

 

I generally don't advise lying if it's something that's bound to come up again. Your roommate suspects something and clearly isn't buying the "it's the tv" line. She might be imagining you're doing something really wild, so acting as if what you're doing is no big deal might calm her down. I've gotten away with all sorts of things (just to be clear, not illegal things) by just acting normal. Recently on a trip to a big city when I had to wait until midnight for the bus home, I spent the last few dark hours sitting in the lobby of some random hotel. Nobody asked if I belonged there. I simply walked in, sat on a chair reading on my phone for three hours, and then left for the nearby bus station. The lesson is (and it can sometimes be hard to learn) to not show nervousness like you think you're doing something wrong. You're not doing anything wrong.

 

You don't need to fully explain your relationship with your daddy or try to explain what being little means. Your roommate is just going to have to accept that you sometimes talk that way in your private conversations and that you won't talk like that to her. Tell her there's nothing wrong with it and remind her that you ARE a full grown adult and you're not harming anyone. Be more mature than her, who makes assumptions and judgements about things that are none of her business.

I really like the way you said Joe to handle that situation ....honestly, I feel like I need to take some of that advice as well

[LittleTeacup]

I really like the way you said Joe to handle that situation ....honestly, I feel like I need to take some of that advice as well

 

I'm glad it could help you too I actually was a bit nervous before posting because I thought maybe it sounded too harsh or indelicate, but decided to go ahead anyway. It took a while for me to learn, but having really accepting friends helps. And realizing that the people who make snide comments about me are the ones with the problem, not me. And, a big one, having some people smile because of my behavior makes it worth it. Like the couple of teachers who said I reminded them that "fairies do exist".

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

I'll give my usual advice which is to tell people to mind their own business. It doesn't affect them, nothing harmful is occurring, just butt out of things that don't concern you! Idk why many people have such a gigantic problem with this. Bonus points, your roommate will see you being a confident, assertive adult who commands respect and privacy. Edited June 13, 2019 by Daddy-Tom