Questions for Mommies.

[Guest RoboDino]

I have a few questions for Mommies preferably MDLB

 

What do you get out of it?

 

What things do you enjoy?

 

What do you want from it?

 

Why did you want to be a mommy?

 

What do you expect from your little boy?

 

What got you in to it?

 

What things you dislike or hate?

 

What thing do you expect from your little boy?

 

 

Are MDLB rare or just not enough Mommies to go around or something else?

 

Don't have to answer all just hoping for a little more information.

 

If there anything else you want to say go for it, I'd like to know as much as i can.

 

I'm just want to know if this is something for me or not.

 

 

Thank you for your time.

[zanderandspike]

What do you get out of it?

love and joy, taking care of a little is a really nice thing, it's like something that just fills your heart up completly

 

What things do you enjoy?

not sure if this just means overall, but as a cg: cuddles, taking care of, hand holding, leading, helping people choose what to do, etc

 

What do you want from it?

useally the same things you want from a relationship, love trust, comfort

 

Why did you want to be a mommy?

hmmm, there's a couple of answers that I could give, but honestly I'm just a cg at heart 

 

What do you expect from your little boy?

this is gonna be diffrent for everyone, but mannors, rule following, nonsexual behavior

 

What got you in to it?

I kinda just always knew? it was almost just natural, in my first ddlg relationship I was more of a dom at first but it kinda progressed to ddlg

 

What things you dislike or hate?

disrespect, bad behavior, being rude

 

What thing do you expect from your little boy?

follow the rules, good behavior is important to me, I expect/really like when he's clingy and cuddly, and being able to guid him, I want him to have fun and not worry about anything

 

Are MDLB rare or just not enough Mommies to go around or something else?

there does seem to be a lack of mommies, but there seems to be a lack of woman doms in general, so I think it has more to do with that? I'm not sure the whole answer to be honest

 

Anything else?

every relationship is diffrent, just as every person is, a dmlb relationship won't be earth shattering(though it'll feel strange at first) but if you wanna try one you you should go for it, so long as your clearly state that you're not sure how you feel about it 100%, also reading about this kind of relationship is good for idea and to get a sort of idea for how you want it to be

 

~Momma Drea

[MysticSand]

Momma Drea

Is it a copout if I just say 'ditto' to what Momma Drea posted? XD Seriously, she put everything so elegantly and accurately.

 

Okay okay I'll give it a go.... I identify as a CG and have a platonic bond with my Little.

 

What do you get out of it?

Happiness and the fulfillment that maybe I'm making a measure of difference to someone.

 

What things do you enjoy?

Is this in relation to what I enjoy being a CG? I really enjoy the trust that we've built and have with each other. We're able to talk about pretty much anything, both as CG/L and just as people. I also really enjoy the constant communication and different ways that we express appreciation and affection towards each other. Hmm... there's a lot.

 

What do you want from it?

This overlaps with my first answer. I want a meaningful bond where I can help someone grow in all aspects, personally and professionally. And to be able to be that helpful guide/mentor/role model. This is what I want from it.

 

Why did you want to be a mommy CG?

Honestly, I didn't know I wanted to be a CG! This is likely because in reals life, I worked in youth development/education for a minute and so I suppose I just naturally gravitate to wanting to help young people (even if they're just young in mentality).

 

What do you expect from your little boy?

A lot. I have high expectations, for better or worse. But my Little does great in fulfilling expectations I sometimes didn't even realize I had.

For sure, I expect honesty, trust and respect. There are other things but I think boiled down, most other things stem from those. Oh, and love! 

 

What got you in to it?

See what I wrote for why I want to be a CG. As to how I got in to it.... uhh... I was exploring myself as a Mittle and was just talkin' talkin' to peeps on the forum as one does, and I found myself letting real life tendencies slip into chat, those tendencies being of CG nature. I discovered I really miss working with youth and having someone in my life that was okay with me wanting to baby and protect and help them with their goals. (Okay maybe the babying part applies more to CGL than youth work. XD Youths go hard at being faux independent.)

 

What things do you dislike or hate?

I hate that, and I this is true for all close bonds I have with someone, I internalize things and they affect me deeply. When I feel sadness, I feel sadness and it affects more aspects of my life than I'd like. I also hate that I can't protect my Little from external things or himself at times.

 

Are MDLB rare or just not enough Mommies to go around or something else?

Hmm. My only knowledge of this is from the forum so if going according to the forum, it does seem disproportionate in that most relationships are DD/lg or MD/lg. But I don't think MD/lb are unicorn bonds either. They exist! Just not in the high amount that the other categories do.

 

If there's anything else you want to say go for it, I'd like to know as much as i can.

Yes. Don't go in to things looking for something. Just talk to people to be friends. Starting conversations with the expectations that you'll be finding the CG/L for you will inevitably lead to disappointment. Make sure you can connect with someone on a personal level first before thinking about that official CG/L status.

[Guest MommyLuna]

I can't say much that hasn't already been mentioned in this thread, but I thought I'd add my own words too. 

 

What do you get out of it?

A relationship based on mutual trust.The knowledge that I am making someone else happy. 

 

 

What things do you enjoy?

Taking care of my little, the love that is given and returned. Out of a Cg/l context, I enjoy the ordinary relationship things - such as hand holding, the hugs, being able to talk openly to someone. 

 

 

What do you want from it?

The same things I would like from any relationship. 

 

 

Why did you want to be a mommy?

This is hard for me to answer completely. The short answer, I suppose, is that I can see myself most clearly being a Mommy in a Cg/l relationship. For example, when my mind would wander to thinking about Cg/l, I saw myself in a Mommy role taking care of a little. As much as I tried to deny wanting to be a Mommy, my mind kept bringing me back to it. The longer answer is that it took me a lot of soul searching - trying to figure if I'd even make a good Mommy.

 

Ultimately, my first answers here reflect why I finally decided I want to be a Mommy. Also, I've always been good at that motherly/teaching role. Teaching is something I'm drawn to, especially the caring aspects of it.

 

 

What do you expect from your little boy?

I like having rules for my little (though these rules would have to agreed upon by both of us) and I would have small punishments if they broke them, but mostly I like to shower praise. So I suppose I prefer good behavior overall. Honesty, communication, and trust are important too, of course. 

 

I usually have high expectations when it comes to relationships in general. 

 

 

What got you in to it?

A friend, by complete accident, introduced me to the term Cg/l. I don't think they were aware that I would get into it, but I did. In my romantic relationships in the past, I usually take the more dominant role.

 

 

What things you dislike or hate?

I don't hate anything, in particular. I think people generally have reasons for the things they do, even if you don't know those reasons. However, if someone was dishonest or outright rude with me, I'd take it hard. 

 

 

Are MDLB rare or just not enough Mommies to go around or something else?

I have a small theory that Mommies might seem rare because generally women are expected to take the more submissive role in a relationship. I still think there's plenty of Mommies out there in the ether, maybe they prefer to not be open about it. 

 

This is just all a theory on my part, though. 

 

 

 

[Guest RoboDino]

Thank you, all of you for replying.

 

The main reason I used mommy instead of caregiver is I wanted to see if any women wanted to be call mommy. 

I noticed some of my questions were not, I don't know not the best they could be I apologize. 

Normally I don't make post just a forum lurker.