Imaginary Daddies / littles

[Guest Looby-Lou]

This is a question for anyone NOT in a relationship, or for how you felt when you weren't in a relationship.

 

Does anyone have an imaginary Daddy or little?

Not in a pyscho way LOL, more in a "this is what it would be like if I had a real Daddy/little".

 

This morning I was washing the dishes, but I felt a bit lazy. I was tempted to leave the cutlery for later, because I like to dry it carefully and put it away - not just leave it in the drainer. But I thought "well Daddy wouldn't like me to just leave the cutlery in the sink" so I washed & dried it. It was a bit like having an imaginary Daddy to help me be more diligent. So that felt nice.

 

And the other day i was having trouble choosing my clothes and i thought to myself, well a Daddy would be really helpful with this. So that felt a bit sad, having to make the decision on my own.

Or if i'm excited about something i'm wearing (like one of the pics in my gallery here) i really want to squeal "Daddeee!! come and look!" And then i feel really sad because i don't have a Daddy to share the excitement.

 

Do other littles do this?

Do Daddies do it too?

Do you like it or does it make you sad?

 

Looby 

Edited June 3, 2019 by Looby-Lou

[mintypowder]

I am sure most people do this. Because imagining your caregiver/caretaker is a therapic thing especially when you feel undecisive, vulnerable or in need for something your significant other would fulfill. Personally, I imagine someone sitting right next to me when I watch horror films, also I like imagining my significant other when I have a trouble falling asleep. Countless times I have imagined that the stuffie I hugged was my significant other. I like imagining my ''daddy'' when I do things that make me feel little. Coloring, doing vent art, etc. So yeah, I think imagining someone beside you has benefits in terms of mood and psychology. I agree that the mild sadness comes immediately after you realize that there is no one in reality, but it's the life.

[Guest Looby-Lou]

Yes, that's it exactly mintypowder.

 

Also it helps me notice my strengths & weaknesses, so it's useful for self growth.

And it helps me understand who i am, what i can offer, and what i need.

 

Thanks for sharing

 

and yes...i totally need an imaginary Daddy if i'm watching anything scary LOL!!

 

Looby 

[Guest babysaurus]

Oh, I've definitely done that before! Despite being married, my husband doesn't share any interest in ddlg, so I often have to use my "imaginary daddy" to motivate me into doing certain chores like dishes, and other boring grown up things.

[LittleTeacup]

I want my future caregiver to be so proud of me! It doesn't always help with my motivation, but I try to think of a big smile and a hug to help me do difficult things, or I imagine having my hand held.

 

And when I feel lonely I wrap myself in a blanket and squish pillows around me and imagine getting cuddled.

 

Visualization is important and healthy. It can help us open up to what we want.

[Littlest_Bee]

I think I have described something similar by saying that I've taken the role of my own caregiver before.

 

I know it's not for everyone but sometimes when I feel very rundown I think of what I'd do for a loved one if I thought they felt like that or what a caregiver might do for me to help in a moment like that and then I'm trying to do that for myself (e.g. running a bubble bath for myself, preparing a special snack, etc.)

 

I'm not single at the moment but my guardian and me are long distance (for the most part so far) and I've done that even before I discovered the joys of little space.

I sometimes have a hard time to notice my own needs and make sure they're met so trying to look at the situation as if it's not about me but someone else can be helpful.

[Guest shadyflowerbaby]

I also do this! 

 

Everybody has a different perspective for what it means to be little, and there are littles who feel like they might not even need a caregiver. But I feel like when I do this, I'm practicing to be the best baby I can be for my future daddy/mommy. It makes me wonder if there are any caregivers who do the same thing. Hmmmm...

[Guest Looby-Lou]

Yes I was hoping some DD/CGs would respond. I wonder if they imagine looking after a little, cutting up food, or what rules they might want, etc.

Or maybe they just like to imagine someone little on their lap snuggling up to them, i know i imagine that often.

 

Looby 

[Angel24]

Unfortunately procrastination hits me too hard to think of doing something for a Daddy if I had one, lol:p but I do imagine how things I do go if I did have a Daddy, but mostly as if it was one of my past Daddies.