My daddy broke up with me

[EeyorePrincess]

Um hi,

So my daddy and I were together for 4 years and I’m really clingy and I usually rely on my daddy for a lot of things. So he came over and wouldn’t even leave his truck to come inside. he started crying and said that he was done with me and that it was over. For me this came out of nowhere but apparently he had been thinking about it for a while. Sometimes when I’m really deep in little space I forget he left me and I call him on the phone and text as if he was still my daddy. I have really bad anxiety, social anxiety, depression and I have an eating disorder and a personality disorder. I have some other mental conditions but I think they are irrelevant. Anyways I don’t know what to do we have been broken up for almost three months now and every time I see him I either want to start crying or just run into his arms and have him be my daddy again. He was an amazing daddy dom he never made me uncomfortable and he was always trying to spoil me and make sure I was happy about a month before he left me and he started being sad more. I did everything I could think of to try and help him and be there for him. I have asked on multiple occasions if he would ever consider being my daddy again, every time he says no he told me that he doesn’t love me anymore and never ever ever will love me again. (As I’m writing this I’m balling my eyes out) I don’t know how to cope with this. Please help.

[ForeverFluffy]

First and foremost, get help from a mental health professional. We are not professionals and can only offer advjse.

You seem like you're really on the edge right now. Remember that no one is worth you hurting yourself in any way. Please contact a local crisis line or a suicide prevention hotline if you feel you are overwhelmed and might hurt yourself. They will listen and help. If you feel like you are a danger to yourself or others, please contact your local police or go to the nearest hospital.

 

Now. To address your question of moving on. First, take some time to heal. You need to move on. Take it one day at a time. Show yourself the love you wish to have shown to you. Take care of yourself, eat, take your meds, and be patient and kind to yourself. Remind yourself that you are okay and that you can and will feel better. Small affirmations like these do a world of good. Second, you might benefit from some therapy to gain see perspective and learn how to deal with your issues. You can't run from them. Third, learn healthy coping mechanisms. I think we can all agree that hurting yourself and not eating aren't healthy, productive or okay. There are better ways you can deal with stress. A therapist can explain it better, but to simplify, you have the power here to change your situation and how you react to things. And it starts with learning why you do what you do and replacing bad habits with good ones.

[Guest LittleSnowiii]

Um hi,

So my daddy and I were together for 4 years and I’m really clingy and I usually rely on my daddy for a lot of things. So he came over and wouldn’t even leave his truck to come inside. he started crying and said that he was done with me and that it was over. For me this came out of nowhere but apparently he had been thinking about it for a while. Sometimes when I’m really deep in little space I forget he left me and I call him on the phone and text as if he was still my daddy. I have really bad anxiety, social anxiety, depression and I have an eating disorder and a personality disorder. I have some other mental conditions but I think they are irrelevant. Anyways I don’t know what to do we have been broken up for almost three months now and every time I see him I either want to start crying or just run into his arms and have him be my daddy again. He was an amazing daddy dom he never made me uncomfortable and he was always trying to spoil me and make sure I was happy about a month before he left me and he started being sad more. I did everything I could think of to try and help him and be there for him. I have asked on multiple occasions if he would ever consider being my daddy again, every time he says no he told me that he doesn’t love me anymore and never ever ever will love me again. (As I’m writing this I’m balling my eyes out) I don’t know how to cope with this. Please help.

If he broke up with you it means something wasn't right for him. Not saying is exactly your fault, but sometimes people need to move on and take care of themselves.

Which is what you need to do aswell. Love yourself, spoil yourself, eat healthy, shower everyday, etc. You can't let your world crumble over a single person (sounds harsh but being realistic).

[Guest BabyPeach]

It can take awhile to get over a breakup. Give yourself time and be gentle with yourself. My prior Daddy left me because he has severe depression and couldn't be a Daddy anymore at that point in his life. It really, really hurt and was hard, but it was necessary for him to go so that he could take care of himself. It sounds the same for your Daddy. As hard as it is, respect that he can't come back. 

 

Is there any way you could avoid seeing your ex-Daddy? At least for a little while until you feel stronger? Keep in mind that you will feel stronger as time passes. Ultimately, you are an adult woman. You can handle this and everything else life throws at you, remember that. As littles, we feel vulnerable but at the same time we ARE adults who can deal with life as necessary.

 

Like someone said above, seek counseling if at all possible. If you can't really afford it and have no insurance, do online searches and you might find discount or free counseling available on a sliding scale based on income. You will get through this as big girl you and little you. I wish you the best.

[Lil me]

I know this feeling n it bites! Now is the time to care for u. See a counselor or call a chrisis (sorry bout the spelling) if u need too. Make time for u. Journal, do fun things, take long baths and soft urself out.

[MasterPhotog]

Um hi,

So my daddy and I were together for 4 years and I’m really clingy and I usually rely on my daddy for a lot of things. So he came over and wouldn’t even leave his truck to come inside. he started crying and said that he was done with me and that it was over. For me this came out of nowhere but apparently he had been thinking about it for a while. Sometimes when I’m really deep in little space I forget he left me and I call him on the phone and text as if he was still my daddy. I have really bad anxiety, social anxiety, depression and I have an eating disorder and a personality disorder. I have some other mental conditions but I think they are irrelevant. Anyways I don’t know what to do we have been broken up for almost three months now and every time I see him I either want to start crying or just run into his arms and have him be my daddy again. He was an amazing daddy dom he never made me uncomfortable and he was always trying to spoil me and make sure I was happy about a month before he left me and he started being sad more. I did everything I could think of to try and help him and be there for him. I have asked on multiple occasions if he would ever consider being my daddy again, every time he says no he told me that he doesn’t love me anymore and never ever ever will love me again. (As I’m writing this I’m balling my eyes out) I don’t know how to cope with this. Please help.

In addition to great advice others have given you, do your best to keep yourself busy with things that make you feel happy and important, especially talk to friends and family who are supportive and positive, be strong and positive. Good luck! Feel free to let me know if I can be of any help. 

[EeyorePrincess]

Thank you to everyone who has replied, you guys have such great advice thank you so much!