I need some advice please help me

[Redwolff1016]

So I have a problem. I've been with my little for about 4 years now, but something always felt off, I love my little girl, but I've started to have feelings of wanting to be little myself a bit but she says that she can't be with me if I'm little. I don't want to go around her and find a mommy and I don't want her to leave.I just don't know what to do. Someone please help me figure this out. If anyone has any ideas or something please message me. Thank you.

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

Have you asked her if she would be okay with you having a caregiver sometimes when you want to be little? Or could you possibly be little by yourself? If neither of these are possible, then I'm going to be blunt, as I'm probably already known for around here, because sugar coating won't be helpful. You need to do what you feel is right for you in your head and in your heart. None of us can make that decision for you. I will say though if this girl has been with you for 4 years and won't accept a part of you, that doesn't exactly speak well of her imho. You'll need to have a serious talk. [i'm assuming] you fulfill all her needs, she needs to step up and fulfill yours. Relationships are a two-way street.

[Redwolff1016]

You're right. Thank you. I guess I just needed someone to tell me what I was lying to myself about.

[NCdaddy13]

I have to agree. If you want to be little yourself, and you wither hide it or ignore it just for the sake of being with her, you are going to end up regretting it and resenting her for it. That will become toxic and break what you have. You have to do what is right by you. If she truly cares about you, she should be willing to accept you for all that you are. I know that is what i would personally want. I would neber pretend to be something i am not to please someone else. To me, that is living a lie. I couldn't do that. I am sorry if that is not what you want to hear, but sometimes we have to hear it anyway.

[LittleGirlEmilia]

Mod note: I have moved this to DDlg discussion and edited to the correct format.

[Guest BabyPeach]

You two have to find what works for both of you, if that's possible.

Edited May 19, 2019 by BabyPeach

[Little kaiya]

That's a complicated situation and I encourage you to think of the well being of yourself and your partner.

 

Her asking you to ignore your desire to be little isn't be fair to you and on the flip side if the coin you asking her to allow you to be little when she's clearly uncomfortable with it isnt fair to her either.

 

Personally, I'm a submissive person so would not be very comfortable being with someone who is a switch, there's a clear incompatibility there. That being said, my boyfriend/Daddy is 98% Dominant and about 2% submissive. We worked things out for that 2% because we love other first and foremost. I'm not with a Daddy or a switch or whatever other title, I'm with someone I love.

 

If your partner is clear she cannot abide you being little ever and you desire to be little at times, well, then your options become limited:

 

1) Deny who you are and lie to yourself, not something I'd encourage.

2) Both of you agree that you can be little on your own out of her sight, wouldn't work if you want the experience of having a caregiver,

3) Both of you agree that you can find a caregiver of your own, but it seems from your post you dont want to do that

4) Realize people and relationships evolve and you may have reached a point of incompatibility. Just because you started as Daddy/little doesn't mean that's how you both feel know. Change is ok.

 

Whatever you decide is a conversation between you and your partner. Just dont ignore who you are or let your partner guilt you into staying in a relationship that ignores what you've discovered about yourself. Communication. Communication. Communication. Then make whatever decision best respects the best interests of BOTH of you.

 

Little kaiya

[Guest LittleSnowiii]

So I have a problem. I've been with my little for about 4 years now, but something always felt off, I love my little girl, but I've started to have feelings of wanting to be little myself a bit but she says that she can't be with me if I'm little. I don't want to go around her and find a mommy and I don't want her to leave.I just don't know what to do. Someone please help me figure this out. If anyone has any ideas or something please message me. Thank you.

We're all different. She might not be attracted to switches, and that's ok.

What's not ok is you sacrificing your happiness totally for someone else. Relationships are about a common goal/ground. If such isn't possible, and someone is unhappy, is time to move on.

[Soulmatesearch]

mate   i feel your pain.
Ive just posted about my frustrations on the little forum..

To be quite honest.    If i had a babygirl.    i would do everything to keep my little side away.    but i know it just cant be done.

Hope things work out for you x