Rules? An explainion, maybe...

[Guest littlemissragamuffin]

HI GUYS! *waves* I've got something to ask, about your thoughts. How would you best explain a want for rules? I brought up rules to my boyfriend, but only completely confused him. I got to embarrassed to try talking again. So I thought maybe,I should frist figure out how to explain it before I try the topic again. I suck at explainions... What about you guys?

[Sophie]

Maybe you could explain to him that you need the structure? Explain that by having rules, you will know more clearly when you've been 'bad' or 'good'. If you incorporate punishments into your DDlg, then having rules will give you a solid reason for why a punishment is happening, and you wouldn't have to rely on fuzzy justifications. You could also show him some examples of rules so he knows what to expect.

 

He should know that he isn't expected to come up with the rules on his own. You could work together to come up with rules that work for both of you.

[DeathMetalDaddy]

Sophie seemed to sum it up rather well: make sure that he's aware of the importance of rules and how they will benefit the relationship hope it goes well.

[Guest littlemissragamuffin]

Thank you, both, your advice was really helpful for me to explain what I meant and my feelings about it ♥ We talked things over and came up with a few :3 I think I'll take what we talked about and make a full rule list for him to look over and review. We didn't get to talk very long about this, I hope that it's a good idea.