Finding your little self again

[Pupperoo]

Hewwo.

 

I am not gonna bore you all with boring and irrelevant details, but essentially I've slipped out of being little because I've had to deal with so much RL adult stuff the past year. In truth I think I've forgotten how to properly be in that headspace and let my bubbly little self out. I guess I've also been forced to mature a lot of the past year, which I am not too thrilled about. Since I am 27 now not a lot of friends of mine are still as playful anymore, and I am surrounded by the whole ''adult and responsibility good, everything else bad'' kind of attitude.

 

Do you guys have any tips how to find myself again? Just forcing myself to sit through cartoons and color with crayons isn't gonna help if the headspace isn't there.

 

Any suggestions is appreciated ♥

[SamL]

Whenever I lose something, first place I check is under the couch cushions...

 

No serious advice to offer but hoping you cracked a smile.

[Pupperoo]

It was pretty funny

[softlilstuffie]

oh I feel the same! I'm in uni and the stress level is unbelievable but I do sometimes get in little space but I have to stop it and be big because I spend my whole day at uni and as you said people are all grown up and serious now and they find it weird when I'm being all bubbly and childish.

But here's some tips for you to be in the headspace again, it works for me so I hope it will for you.

 

-the first thing I do when I'm stressed is to talk to my daddy which helps a lot so do that if you have one .

-talking to other littles helps too I think it will help you get in the head space.

-listen to Disney songs.

-eat your favorite little meal or snack.

-cuddle with stuffies.

-drink something warm like hot chocolate while watching cartoons and cuddling with stuffies.

 

I hope these help❤

Edited May 17, 2019 by softlilstuffie

[Maeve]

For me, the biggest thing is just letting myself relax. As I relax, I feel more comfortable that comes with the vulnerability of being in little space. How you relax may be different, but for me I'll usually take a bubble bath and watch a movie or read in the tub, slip into something cozy, then maybe watch a movie or game or something that's not super serious (usually with stuffies around me). Journaling helps sometimes, too. Then just kinda go with what feels good to you. Lots of good suggestions from softlilstuffie!

 

One thing that hasn't been mentioned that you might consider is having some special outfits for when you're in little space. Then, when you want to slip into that space but can't quite get there, your brain can associate wearing those outfits with it being time to feel little. For me, I have onesies I wear when I'm feeling especially little, but you could also do some fun shirts or something too. I hope you're able to find your little self again soon!

[Pupperoo]

oh I feel the same! I'm in uni and the stress level is unbelievable but I do sometimes get in little space but I have to stop it and be big because I spend my whole day at uni and as you said people are all grown up and serious now and they find it weird when I'm being all bubbly and childish.

But here's some tips for you to be in the headspace again, it works for me so I hope it will for you.

 

-the first thing I do when I'm stressed is to talk to my daddy which helps a lot so do that if you have one .

-talking to other littles helps too I think it will help you get in the head space.

-listen to Disney songs.

-eat your favorite little meal or snack.

-cuddle with stuffies.

-drink something warm like hot chocolate while watching cartoons and cuddling with stuffies.

 

I hope these help❤

 

Thank you! I will keep those tips in mind ♥

 

For me, the biggest thing is just letting myself relax. As I relax, I feel more comfortable that comes with the vulnerability of being in little space. How you relax may be different, but for me I'll usually take a bubble bath and watch a movie or read in the tub, slip into something cozy, then maybe watch a movie or game or something that's not super serious (usually with stuffies around me). Journaling helps sometimes, too. Then just kinda go with what feels good to you. Lots of good suggestions from softlilstuffie!

 

One thing that hasn't been mentioned that you might consider is having some special outfits for when you're in little space. Then, when you want to slip into that space but can't quite get there, your brain can associate wearing those outfits with it being time to feel little. For me, I have onesies I wear when I'm feeling especially little, but you could also do some fun shirts or something too. I hope you're able to find your little self again soon!

 

I will give journaling a try! Never really did that stuff

[seasparrow]

Everyone's given such good advice! Honestly I don't think I can really help in a way that other people haven't mentioned. So I just wanted to drop in and wish you a lotta luck. I'm at the point where being a little is a really important part of my life. I'm fairly lucky in that I feel littler when I say, eat candy or get sleepy or get talked down to. Ultimately being a little is the essence of vulnerability and expression. So maybe try things that make you embarrassed/shy to do em but do them anyways?

 

It took a long time for me to get more comfy being littler. I really honestly hope you find it again.

[Maeve]

Thank you! I will keep those tips in mind ♥

 

 

I will give journaling a try! Never really did that stuff

I hope it helps! Good luck on your journey, and try to be patient with yourself.   

[Quirkygrl16]

I've been dealing with the same. I've found that blowing bubbles is such a good way to instantly relax and feel little..no lie

[daddyslyldollie]

i can entirely relate to how you feel. im in a vanilla relationship currently and the dude doesnt feel comfy trying to explore ddlg because of somethings that happened in our past. so it makes life difficult with him. littlespace is a massive part of me and i feel like im forced to supress it. which is why i hope putting myself out there on here that i can find little friends. i need more friends in general haha.

[Guest LittleSnowiii]

I relate so much to your situation, specially about the friends part :/

[Guest babysaurus]

Such a helpful thread! It's so difficult to have to be big ALLLLL the time, that it really exhausts you to the point that there's no energy left to be little. In my case anyways. I'm gonna try a few of these tips myself. Hope everyone struggling manages to reconnect with their little selves again. ♥️