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[Guest littlehybrid1]

This is going to be long and it’s okay if you don’t want to read it. My Daddy is a switch and I’m okay with that it’s just for the past month and a half when I would slip into little space, he would ignore me, talk “big” to me (all the problems in the world), or talk about his Mommy. I want to tell him about it because it’s hurting me and my little space. Last night when I slipped because I’ve been feeling sick and stuff, he said “what?????” Now I don’t know how to react to that but I know it hurt. His last dom was also my part time babysitter because when he would slip I would slip. This one, he tells me about and when I asked about when she will be my babysitter, he shut down. I’ve also noticed that when I want to be little because things are getting to stressful he will tell me it’s not the time. I regress to help me with my depression and it doesn’t work. What do I do? Do I find a new Caregiver or do I stay?

[Guest LittleSnowiii]

Seem's things are being very one sided, just about him.

Be straight forward: tell him you're not feeling cared for, that you feel he's not paying attention to your true feelings and needs.  Afterall, a relationship is about that. Both people (or more) being happy and having their needs fulfilled. 

If he isn't able to care for you and understand like you do with him, move on. Many many maaaaany daddies out there who will love you like you deserve.

[Guest TokidokiHelloKitty]

Have you discussed this with him? Maybe it'd help.

[Guest littlehybrid1]

Thank you guys, I willdefentally try that!

[Guest Aetherr]

do what makes you happy and if you feel you need to talk to him then talk to him

[Guest littlehybrid1]

I tried talking to him today (alot was happening) and when i brought up i was feeling upset about how he treats me, he started ignoring me, and he hasnt talked tome since 1 today, its 9... I dont know guys, what do i do?I love him sure but my littlespace should be happy, not this...

[Guest littlehybrid1]

UPDATE 3: We talked and he said hes been under alot of stress with finals and stuff, he promised he loves me and will make it up

[Pupperoo]

I hope it works out for you guys! I guess it's easy to pull towards the insecure and drawn back side of yourself when under stress. Make sure to support him as well

[MasterPhotog]

UPDATE 3: We talked and he said hes been under alot of stress with finals and stuff, he promised he loves me and will make it up

 

Meaningful communication based on active listening is the key to solving many relationship issues. Hope it works for you, good luck. 

If for some reason this fails and while you continue to work on your current relationship, having a non-sexual mentor may help you continue to feel good about yourself. 

[Guest littlehybrid1]

we are non sexual, and might as well make another update. we were doing good until he got home. apperently that wasnt my Daddy it was just a front.

[Little kaiya]

Issues in relationships dont happen overnight and neither do the solutions. One conversation isn't going to solve an ongoing issue. It takes time to have the conversation, for both sides to listen and understand the other person's perspective and time for both partners to figure out the changes that need to be made.

 

You've posted three updates in basically one day, it's highly improbable that one day is enough to solve the situation you described, it's barely enough time to really talk the issues through let alone for any changes.

 

If you think he's just putting on fronts then you need to decide if that's what you want in a partner. I would suggest though that's that's a big difference between someone putting up a front and someone needing time to process an issue. It just seems to me that you are expecting a complete about face on his part without allowing for any time for him to process everything let alone change. Just one person's observation.

 

Little kaiya

[Guest littlehybrid1]

Little Kayla, I dont want a full change on his part. Its just he favors people over me, cares more for his friends than his little and his mommy (two separate people) and above all, he thinks im not good enough half the time. And no thats not what i think he thinks thats what i observe. He will flat out ask me if another littles on the market or “would you mind if so and so is my little” and no that doesnt seem like a big deal but, to me it is and ive pointed that out several times.

[Little kaiya]

Each person has to make their own decisions but honestly I would NEVER be with, let alone stay with anyone who thinks I'm not good enough. It wouldn't matter if that attitude was for half the time or 5% of the time. If you've had the conversations several times and nothing has changed it is highly unlikely to change in the future.

 

Your decision is up to you but a partner who thinks you aren't good enough and cares more other people than their own partner doesnt sound like much of a partner.

 

Relationships will never be perfect but if it's making you more unhappy than happy maybe the question to be asking is why are you staying with this person. What you've described really doesn't sound like a mutually loving relationship honestly.

 

Little kaiya

[Guest littlehybrid1]

Little Kayla

Thank you, you helped me make up my mind