Looking for other opinions

[Guest Princess_bun]

Recently my daddy sent me a text saying he needed to take a break from using his phone and from society altogether because he's been having headaches and pain in his eyes and experiencing sleep paralysis some nights, and being that we're long distance we can't talk without using phones or technology.

I want him to get better and I'm glad he's taking the time he needs to do so but I also can't help but feel a little hurt and like it's a little unfair to me to just leave so suddenly. I would like to hear what others think about the situation and if me feeling like this is selfish?

[Guest teddynesy_16]

You arent selfish and its normal to feel that way but keep in mind that is a health issue he is having and he needs time to get himself better, the best u could do is talk to him about how u feeling and make sure you are making him feel supported through all the way.

 

Hope it helped u a little  and my best wishes for u two

[Little kaiya]

People can only live one life, their own. If he is being honest and that's what he needs to do in order to get his health and life in the right place then that is what he needs to do. I wouldn't say his decision is selfish, no. Does it suck for you, certainly. Hopefully he has tried other things to address his issues and this is a last resort versus his first go to decision.

 

On the other hand if he's saying and doing this to avoid having a difficult conversation then yes I would say it's selfish.

 

Sadly life isnt fair, in fact it often can feel unfair but even in a relationship people still need to take care of themselves. Tgat doesn't mean you shouldnt feel upset or hurt or whatever emotion you are feeling. You are entitled to feeling how you feel just as your partner is entitled to making their own decisions about their life.

 

What I might suggest is communicating your feelings to him if you havent. Whether people online feel his decision is or isnt selfish or your feelings are or aren't selfish really doesnt change anything. Talking to him and trying to find possible other solutions may be more productive if you BOTH want the relationship to work and continue.

 

Little kaiya

Edited April 29, 2019 by Little kaiya

[Guest Princess_bun]

Thank you both for replying I do feel better about the situation now and like I understand where he may be coming from. I would normally talk to him about how I'm feeling but as he's taking a break we haven't been talking so I don't really have a way of communicating with him at the moment but it's been on my mind and I felt like I needed to talk to someone about it

[Little kaiya]

It would take longer but you can always send a letter by post.

 

Little kaiya

[LittleTeacup]

It would take longer but you can always send a letter by post.

 

Little kaiya

 

Yeah I agree. Send him a long love letter. You can even draw pictures on it. And ask him to send you one back. The art of writing love letters is severely underrated.

[Guest Princess_bun]

I agree that love letters or just letters in general are underrated but we hadn't gotten to a point of exchanging addresses yet

[CherieBits]

I actually had something very similar happen with my daddy a couple months ago. One day, he brought up that he was going to have a little “phonecation” basically, a couple days without using any electronics. Which of course meant no communication with me.

 

I felt the same as you; sad and maybe even a little bit confused. But ultimately, i knew why he had to do it. He had a lot of stresses going on in his life at the time, and i knew he needed a couple days to just recharge.

 

It helps to remember that; its not you, he just needs a little time to help himself get back to 100%. The best thing you can do is be there for him and support him, and while hes away, you can also use that time for your own “me time” aswell