Control Issues

[bunbun14]

I've been told by many people that I have control issues, which I have also noticed before. The problem is that I'm a little and I have been for years now. I'm just wondering how this has been working and if any other littles have issues with giving up control in their everyday life? Also my daddy is kinda new to this lifestyle. I can tell he likes it but he doesn't quite know how to go about it. Does anyone think that maybe my control issues might be confusing him?

[DaddyRaven]

I'm pretty sure it is. My last little and I were together for 7 years and she wanted me to control her yet she constantly dragged her feet whenever I told her to do something .  

[DaddyDom3238]

I will say this I have had littles in the past that had a problem with giving up control and it was more of a trust issue rather then anything else. Being in "little space" is an extremely vulnerable position to be in and it is understandable that you might have an issue giving up control initially. Have you been with your Daddy for long?

If he is new to the lifestyle he is probably just learning your specific dynamic as well as navigating his feelings so that he can nurture, guide, and protect as you to deserve. 

[The RealDaddyCat]

What was the fact that he's new to the lifestyle he may have a misunderstanding of what all is involved. Some people find it very easy to give up their control and rely on their daddy for everything but that's also a part of this submission has he shown you that he deserves it yet. That could be why you're keeping part of it to yourself and some people may never give up complete control.

 

This doesn't necessarily mean that you guys are not right for each other you actually just need to sit down and talk a little more about the control that you still want to have in the control that you're willing to give up. The longer you are together the more things you may trust him with to have control over. If he is new to the lifestyle he may not quite understand that part of you that does not want to give up some of the control and with time as you guys get to know each other better this will come much more easy for the both of you. Sitting down and talking is always the best thing to do especially if somebody is new in the lifestyle they may not have a quite a good understanding about certain things. One of the rules in any good relationship should always be that communication is important.

[bunbun14]

I'm pretty sure it is. My last little and I were together for 7 years and she wanted me to control her yet she constantly dragged her feet whenever I told her to do something .  

 

I drag my feet too but that's bc I'm a brat

[bunbun14]

I will say this I have had littles in the past that had a problem with giving up control and it was more of a trust issue rather then anything else. Being in "little space" is an extremely vulnerable position to be in and it is understandable that you might have an issue giving up control initially. Have you been with your Daddy for long?

If he is new to the lifestyle he is probably just learning your specific dynamic as well as navigating his feelings so that he can nurture, guide, and protect as you to deserve. 

 

 

What was the fact that he's new to the lifestyle he may have a misunderstanding of what all is involved. Some people find it very easy to give up their control and rely on their daddy for everything but that's also a part of this submission has he shown you that he deserves it yet. That could be why you're keeping part of it to yourself and some people may never give up complete control.

 

This doesn't necessarily mean that you guys are not right for each other you actually just need to sit down and talk a little more about the control that you still want to have in the control that you're willing to give up. The longer you are together the more things you may trust him with to have control over. If he is new to the lifestyle he may not quite understand that part of you that does not want to give up some of the control and with time as you guys get to know each other better this will come much more easy for the both of you. Sitting down and talking is always the best thing to do especially if somebody is new in the lifestyle they may not have a quite a good understanding about certain things. One of the rules in any good relationship should always be that communication is important.

 

I've been with him for 2 years and we've always done some ddlg things but I just recently asked him if we could start being more dedicated to the life style. I trust him more than anyone but I have bad trust issues from past problems.

 

Do you have any tips about what to tell him to make him more understanding of the lifestyle?

[DaddyRaven]

I drag my feet too but that's bc I'm a brat

Ja if he's new to this lifestyle, that'll frustrate him a bit at times; depends on how much and how long u drag the feet, so to speak  

[bunbun14]

Ja if he's new to this lifestyle, that'll frustrate him a bit at times; depends on how much and how long u drag the feet, so to speak

 

Oh he knows I'm a brat  

[DaddyRaven]

Oh he knows I'm a brat

haha ok that's good then.  

[LittlePupRune]

I've been told by many people that I have control issues, which I have also noticed before. The problem is that I'm a little and I have been for years now. I'm just wondering how this has been working and if any other littles have issues with giving up control in their everyday life? Also my daddy is kinda new to this lifestyle. I can tell he likes it but he doesn't quite know how to go about it. Does anyone think that maybe my control issues might be confusing him?

Being a little does not mean you are a sub, same with Daddy does not equal Dom. You can also try doing things slowly, negotiating one thing, seeing how that goes, then progressing from there.

[bunbun14]

Being a little does not mean you are a sub, same with Daddy does not equal Dom. You can also try doing things slowly, negotiating one thing, seeing how that goes, then progressing from there.

 

I think we want to be dom and sub along with daddy and little. But is there a way to be a dominate little? or a submissive daddy?

[LittlePupRune]

I think we want to be dom and sub along with daddy and little. But is there a way to be a dominate little? or a submissive daddy?

It is totally possible. I believe I've seen it described as like a "princess little" that is dominant. You can always sit down, discuss what you want/don't want, and figure out ways to make things work. The nice thing with bdsm is you can create your own variation off anything you want.