Very new little looking for reassurance?

[Guest Lulu1223344555]

So I turned 18 a couple weeks back. But I’ve known I’ve been a little for years. I’ve never explored it with someone else. But I am worried about joining communities and stuff to look for someone to explore it with as I don’t want people I know to find out about this as I’m too nervous and wouldn’t know how to explain it to anyone. I nearly told my best friend but backed out at the last minute worried about how she would react. I want to join a community to be able to explore ddlg with someone and hopefully find a relationship. But at the moment I am extremely nervous to do it

[Guest crazycatdaddy]

The community isn't going anywhere, so if now isn't the right time for you to join in that's absolutely okay. You can always get back online in six months or a year if you're feeling more confident about it at that point. There's no rush, and rushing into something you're not ready for is likely to backfire. That's how people end up in relationships that aren't right for them, so take all the time you need.

 

I also become anxious about being "outed" as a member of the community. It's for that reason that I don't show my face in public online communities and I keep my name and contact details private until I know someone well enough. There are ways to engage with the community while remaining anonymous, and if that's something you wanted to do you definitely could.

 

Perhaps you might want to take a look at some of the posts here and in similar online communities about enjoying littlespace without a partner. A lot of people have contributed and there's plenty of great advice about how to enjoy this side of yourself without having to interact with other people.

 

Good luck with everything!

[Guest QueenJellybean]

just because you join a site, or decide to call yourself a little doesn't mean you have to identify as a community member.

you can change your mind at anytime, too.

take your time, ease in, and don't feel like you have to rush.

i understand the desire to label yourself for that sense of comfort, but there are a lot of folks on here (myself included) who don't identify as a little,

but are still exploring the site and feel at home here.

 

[Guest Urthurs]

You joined the forum and made this post so far. See, it wasn't so bad right? It does not have to get worse than this. You can continue to learn and talk to people while staying completely anonymous.