Is my daddy slipping out of ddlg?

[jazzie]

My daddy seems to be slipping out of ddlg a little bit. He still likes to be called "daddy" or "dada", but when I call him by his real name, he doesn't correct me (even though it's a rule that we made where I call him daddy no matter what). I tried talking to him about it, but he says he's still into it. The only rule he follows is the "no swearing" rule even though he has an entire book filled with rules. He even stopped spanking me as a punishment (as well as every other punishment he came up with). He also isn't protective over me anymore (like he doesn't tell me no jumping on the bed or limit the amount of sweets I eat). He's even beginning to stop holding my hand when we cross the street. He barely fills my sippy for me anymore. I don't know what to do and I miss it when he was very daddy-like.

Ideas?

[Guest QueenJellybean]

talk to him.

 

i know, i know. 

it sounds simple, but it's the truth.

talk to him.

tell him everything you told us.

show him this post.

only he knows what's going on his head.

 

[jazzie]

 

talk to him.

 

i know, i know. 

it sounds simple, but it's the truth.

talk to him.

tell him everything you told us.

show him this post.

only he knows what's going on his head.

 

 

Thank you. I'll try to talk to him about it again when I see him tonight. What do I do if he still doesn't fix it? 

[Guest QueenJellybean]

then that might be a different conversation, but we aren't there yet!

if he is slipping out of that space/that space isn't as attractive to him anymore, that's valid!

but definitely hurts you in the process.

then you'd need to have a more difficult conversation with your partner. 

[Alaskan Daddy]

remember actions speak louder than words. If after talking with him and nothing changes than his actions tell you everything you need to know.

[Cherry-Lola]

Ask him why he’s stopped.

Are you defiant when he asks you not to do something? Maybe he thinks there’s no point in punishments because they’re not improving your behaviour even if you’re not very bratty.

Not holding hands and seeming distant makes it sound like it’s beyond just slipping out of ddlg.

It’s okay to want to take a break occasionally. But holding hands isn’t ddlg, that’s part of a relationship and intimacy.

Good luck with your talk with him.

[The RealDaddyCat]

I just want you to remember that as Daddy we sometimes have stress of the outside world. It may not be that he's falling out of being a daddy it may just be that there is some type of a stress or going on that has him worried. Not sure how long this has been going on but I do know one of my friends that is a daddy he never shares any of his stress with his baby girl. He internalizes all of it and maybe that is what is happening in your situation now.

[Guest Aetherr]

I just want you to remember that as Daddy we sometimes have stress of the outside world. It may not be that he's falling out of being a daddy it may just be that there is some type of a stress or going on that has him worried. Not sure how long this has been going on but I do know one of my friends that is a daddy he never shares any of his stress with his baby girl. He internalizes all of it and maybe that is what is happening in your situation now.

 

 

all of this, have you asked him what is going on in his life that is/may be causing these changes its very easy to go "me me me" but remember just because he is a dominant and the "man" doesn't mean he doesn't have his own struggles and pains so just keep that in mind if you want to approach him with the intent of improving the situation and not just calling him out for not looking after you when he may need looking after himself!

[jazzie]

 

then that might be a different conversation, but we aren't there yet!

if he is slipping out of that space/that space isn't as attractive to him anymore, that's valid!

but definitely hurts you in the process.

then you'd need to have a more difficult conversation with your partner. 

 

I talked to him and he said that he's gonna try to do his best to take care of me as often as he can! Thank you so muchhhh

[Inmylittlespace]

Just a little reminder!

Being a Daddy is hard work. 

Where other Doms may get to play and go away, Daddies don't. 

They're always worrying about us! 

Taking care of our needs! 

Punishing, making rules, doing this or that and it can get exhausting.

It is possible that he just needs some of his own time, own space to decompress. 

Maybe you can do some stuff for him like cook him dinner, wash his clothes etc. 

Take some of the smaller responsibilities off of him.

I hope he starts coming back!