Struggling with little space

[KittyxPaw]

I was wondering if anyone could help me since I'm relatively new to being a little and I'm finding it hard to get into little space. I'm not sure how to describe it but sometimes I feel like I can't get into little space. Does anyone else have any struggles with this? If anyone has any suggestions as to more easily get into little space that'd be super helpful^^ also anyone have any suggestions on little space activities? Thank you in advance my fellow littlies^^

[Guest buddhagirl]

Well, I'll give you my perspective, though it seems it's not the norm on this forum. There is a lot of talk about being in and out of little space, being a little, getting into little space, etc. I don't really experience these things to a high degree, but have a more integrated part of me that is a little girl. At times, I need or am able to express this part of myself more than other times. Sometimes I feel like a little girl, but I don't just say, "I'm going to be little right now". I also don't identify with a certain age and act that way--it's more fluid. I often feel like I'm about 4 or 5, but I don't then want to watch cartoons and drink from a sippy cup--just not my thing. So, I don't know if what you're experiencing is similar to how I am, but I will say, that there is no RIGHT or CORRECT  way to be in a DDlg relationship. I'm just me. Daddy is just Daddy. I can't make myself like cartoons or Disney movies (my kids ruined them for me), nor would it be fun. For me, DDlg allows me to express some of the deepest parts of me that are not acceptable to express in any other way. It allows me to have my Daddy/husband protect me and look out for me in a way I need and crave. It allows me to feel safe and loved and cared for. I'm having surgery in two days and have been scared about it. Yesterday, after the kids went to sleep, I told Daddy I was feeling scared and he did things to me that he knows helps me release tension and feel submissive and safe. I felt myself letting go of all the grownup worry and weight and hand it over to Daddy to take care of. Afterwards, we were curled up together and I just cried from my little girl heart and said that it's so hard having to act like a grownup sometimes and make so many grownup decisions. He said, "I know, baby girl, but I'm right here and you don't have to make any more decisions or worry any more. You're mine and I will take care of you. Daddy's right here." And he's right, he really is my daddy and will take care of me and everything else. I give this example because, for us, this kind of submission and care are what DDlg is about. It's fluid. It's evolving. It's nuanced and complicated. It isn't role play and there isn't a rule book (other than the rules Daddy creates for me). 

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

It really depends on your interests. Sit down and write down ideas of what makes you feel little. It can be a variety of things like: colouring, watching cartoons, cuddling with your stuffies, playing games, playing with Legos, etc. If you're an arts and crafts kind of person, there's tons of little activites you could do like making a glitter jar! Explore your little side and have fun

[SleepyLittleDoe]

I honestly have a hard time getting into little space too. I'm fairly new to being a little(since I just found out about it not too long ago and found it described me pretty well!) and I get embarrassed to try and get into my space. I just don't think I have the support when I want to go into little space. :c If that makes any sense. x-x

[KittyxPaw]

I honestly have a hard time getting into little space too. I'm fairly new to being a little(since I just found out about it not too long ago and found it described me pretty well!) and I get embarrassed to try and get into my space. I just don't think I have the support when I want to go into little space. :c If that makes any sense. x-x

Same here, although I have my daddy its still hard><

[kittenminx]

I know this topic crops up a great deal, not just in the forums but a lot of little's go through the faze of not being able to get into little space. Unfortunately, I am now going through that stage. I have a lot of stress at the moment with things all piling on top of me all at once, but it's now effecting my little space life too. It's not as though I don't have the time to become little, because I do. But it's because I have that constant pounding of stress it's incredibly difficult to reach the little space usually it's so easy to get to.

 

Any advice? If not, has anyone ever gone through this?

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

I just merged these two topics since they are very similar in nature. Hope this helps!

[Guest SandyBaby]

Sometimes it's hard for me to get into little space too, like if I feel defensive or I don't trust who I am around. I also have a hard time with little space if I'm doing grown-up things...so I have to let all my walls and barriers down to get into little space and let myself feel vulnerable. This includes processing the emotions I went through during the day and expressing them to daddy emotionally, I may trace his tattoes or color while I share my feelings to help even more, and before I know it I'm his sweet little baby that need his time and attention. However, I don't always talk or act like a baby when i'm in little space, little space to me, is essentially feeling my most vulnerable, and being as young as those emotions bring me to. But it was much harder in the beginning.

[daddysfuckhole]

I can throw myself into little space by playing with my bunny (my best friend), listening to music from Bratz, playing with my webkinz, diapering, dressing cute, Daddy (of course), colouring, dancing, going outside...

 

Hell, I am little so much that it's like I need to get back into my normal space.

 

I do have trouble under stress though but that is when Daddy and I need to take time to sit down, watch a cartoon or movie, eat junk food, cuddle, have my sippy, have my Rico (my webkinz sloth) and just feel Daddy around me. If it's hard because of mental illness, medication and therapy is the best thing for it.

[bunnny]

I honestly just found out that I can have this separate space for me and that others have it...especially being an asexual little it gets tough with other things and stuff....

 

I wonder if any of that made sense...

 

I mean that up until just recently I found out that there's a name for it and other people do it. I take time away from things that stress me or seem overwhelming and just enjoy what I really enjoy. It can be a cup of milk or juice and cartoons or happy music and cute online games.

 

I just recently tried logging back into my other tumblr where I post aesthetic things and have a more dark side and found all of it bothersome cos I wasn't done taking care of myself and my space. I'm still working on building exactly what my space is and it's fun doing so. I think my difficulty is reaching out to my Oniisan, Daddy & Sir and just saying "hey, I need some care...can we watch a cartoon or play katamari?"