I need advice

[Guest Littlemermaidprincess]

So I want to have a ddlg relationship and I've been talking with some daddies out there, do you think is okay to talk to more than one daddy, although you haven't officially started a relationship? Or even though you are just chit chatting with other daddies you are kind of cheating on? Tell me your thoughts

[Littlest_Bee]

I think it's probably a good idea to talk with more than one person at the same time during that phase.

It makes it easier for you to understand what you like about certain people compared to others. It makes it easier for you to be sure about your own boundaries. It makes it easier to keep things at a level you're comfortable with and you're less likely to be manipulated by someone who employs predatory practices. At least in my opinion.

 

But in the end it's important that you are comfortable with what you are doing and that you are open about where you stand.

[MasterPhotog]

By talking to more than one Daddies, you're NOT at all cheating. In fact you should talk to as many Daddies as you can or want to before making up your mind about who to have your Daddy. Once you have decided on your Daddy, you should have a talk to your Daddy and set clear boundaries. Keep in mind that you, being a little, are just as important as your Daddy. Hope it helps! 

[Little kaiya]

What's most important is how YOU feel about it not how random people on the Internet feel. Some people may be totally ok with it, others may view it as cheating but so what? Do you think it's ok? Do the people you are chatting with think it's ok? Are you ok if the people you're talking to are talking with others? So long as you and the people you're chatting with are honest about what's happening and everyone involved is ok then that's what is most important I would say.

 

My personal opinion, for what it's worth, is that i would never give the term Daddy to someone I'm just initially chatting with. Daddy for me is a very special term and i wouldnt use it for someone until such time as they and i had been dating for awhile, were committed and they had earned the title and i had earned the right to call them by them by that title.

 

As a result, even if I was dating, which I'm not, I wouldnt be in a situation where I was ever chatting with more than one Daddy. More than one person, sure. More than one Daddy, never. Just my personal feelings on the subject.

 

Little kaiya

Edited April 18, 2019 by Little kaiya

[Guest crazycatdaddy]

Most people who are engaged in any online dating scene realise that anyone they talk to could be talking to other people at the same time. Unless you've made a commitment to someone and you've agreed to be exclusive, it isn't a problem at all. In fact, if I were talking to someone and they were upset or angry that I was talking to other people I'd consider that a bad sign because it suggests a kind of jealousy and possessiveness that, in my opinion at least, doesn't seem healthy when considering a relationship with that person.

 

Some wannabe daddies may think that any little they talk to should talk to them and only them, but again that's a very possessive mindset. When you're just talking to someone, you have no idea how things might progress. They could end up being your one and only forever partner, but they could also be someone you talk to for a couple of hours and never message again. Or they could be someone you don't end up romantically involved with but turn out to be a great friend. When you're in that early, pre-dating stage, assume everyone you're talking to is a potential friend and if something more should happen, that's great. That's the point at which you need to say to anyone else you may have been talking to that you've found someone.

 

However, if you feel the need to be up front with people you meet and say to them "I'm talking to multiple people at the moment" that would be your call. If you find someone reacts negatively to that, I'd consider that person to be someone I wouldn't have wanted to date in the first place, so it's thinning the herd so to speak.

 

But to answer your question: no it definitely isn't cheating. And I would expect that most people would not only be fine with it, but are probably doing something similar themselves.