Trouble with my daddy

[death_cupcake]

H-hi guys... I'm feeling really upset right now... I think that I upset my daddy a lot. You see, little me doesn't talk a lot... Just a lot of whines, grunts, and other stuffs. Well I think he's mad because he said "when you learn to talk to me then come get me." And now he's back to playing his game and I'm crying...

[zanderandspike]

well 1) have you told him you're nonverbal in little space?

2) are y'all ld? cause if he's in the room with you then he should be doing something about you crying, but if it's ld then maybe y'all could facetime so he knows you're not ignoring him you're just not talkitive?

[death_cupcake]

No we're not ld... And I don't really know how to tell him... He's new to being a daddy... And I don't wanna scare him away or anything. And he can't see me crying because he isn't facing toward me anymore

[zanderandspike]

personally I think y'all need to have a chat outside of little space/daddy space and like list out what you want from him when you're in little space and describe what you act like so he knows what to expect

[Guest crazycatdaddy]

Hopefully it was just a misunderstanding. Some caregivers, especially when new to the dynamic, tend to err more on the side of punishment and assume things like you not talking much is a way of you "acting out" that means you're seeking punishment - though personally I don't feel like ignoring someone should be used as a punishment, it's not uncommon again especially among new caregivers.

 

As zanderandspike said, communication is key here. When you're not in littlespace, talk to him about it. If you're not sure what you want to say, take some time beforehand to write down the key points, and just make sure he knows that 1) you can be non-verbal when you're feeling little, and 2) you don't want to be punished for it. You might also want to set up a safeword so you can use that with him to end any scene or punishment that you don't want to take part in.

 

If he's completely new to being a caregiver, there are some great posts here on the forum and in other online CG/L communities specifically aimed at new caregivers. I'm assuming based on your post that introducing this dynamic to your relationship was your idea, not his, and if that's the case he would certainly benefit from doing a little reading in his own time.

[Guest LittleSnowiii]

H-hi guys... I'm feeling really upset right now... I think that I upset my daddy a lot. You see, little me doesn't talk a lot... Just a lot of whines, grunts, and other stuffs. Well I think he's mad because he said "when you learn to talk to me then come get me." And now he's back to playing his game and I'm crying...

One word: communication. 

Your partner can't understand simply by guessing. He doesn't read minds

You need to tell how your little works in little space! If you're non-verbal , tell him. Since he's a new daddy he needs as much information about you, and the lifestyle, as he can.

[Littlest_Bee]

Hi death_cupcake,

 

I hope by now you have calmed down and are in a better frame of mind to think everything through.

 

I agree with the people who commented before me, that you are going to have to have a grown-up talk about your wants and needs.

This was probably a much bigger problem in your mind at the time things happened but it comes from a lack of communication. Your boyfriend simply didn't have all the information he needed.

It's important to make sure the next time you try to play goes better because you want that time together to bring both of you something positive. Talk about expectations and what each of you needs to have a good time. If necessary experiment with your little space on your own before you try together.

 

I wish you all the best. Take care.

[LittlePapaPhoenix]

To the OP of this thread, I have to say there is nothing worse to a new Daddy than not knowing what to do. I'm sure he WANTS to be a good Daddy, but it's up to you to show him the ropes. My best friend's Daddy is also new, to the point that he refused to punish her when she's bratty for the longest time. Took him almost 2 years to spank her even ONCE. He WANTED to be her Daddy, still does, but he's not sure how a lot of the time. Finally, with my help, we sat him down and talked to him. He finally started punishing her properly. He and his little are closer now than they ever have been. If you want, I can help you word things so that hopefully you can talk to your Daddy to help him understand you in LS. PM me if you want some help, but I wish you the best of luck. If you ever need help, Me and Nixie, my LS personality, are here for you if you ever just want to talk. Okay? Best of luck to you!

 

Phoenix/Nixie The Little Daddy Bird.