Le Sigh

[MiAcushla]

So I just started exploring my little side and decided to try to find someone online to help. I knew enough to becareful, I wanted someone who wanted me and not just sexiness. So I was firm and holding out for someone with common interests, who talked to me a while before even bringing up anything.

 

I met a guy who was local, which was good cause eventually I wanted to move this into RL anyways. I talked to him online for a few days, hours of conversation. He was younger than my mental image of a Daddy, but he had experience and above all else seemed patient and had the same ideas as me on age play. I give him my Skype (something I have never done with anyone I met online before). Things continue to go well until 2 days later, he goes to bed early one night. It's been two days since then and he has said 2 sentences to me, ignored messages from me when it was clear he was online. I don't know what to think.

 

Should I give him the benefit of the doubt? I had been planning to ask him to meet my Master to see if things could start progressing, but now I just kinda feel like he isn't worth my time. Am I expecting too much?

[LB Chris]

I'd just send a simple message enquiring to his health and if he wish to maintain contact to you as he'd ignored previous messages.

If you get nothing back I'd say without a shadow of a doubt he's not worth your time as it's disrespectful. It's never too much to have standards.

Hugs, Jo.

[Rosetta]

Ahh, i'd keep it cool, otherwise he might think you're clingy. Maybe he was just busy, and in any case, even if he wasn't, you wouldn't want him to talk to you to "keep you up" instead of because he is really excited to do so.

His message will be clear enough, if you stop hearing from him, he obviously lost interest. Poking him won't help.
So if you do contact him, you can keep it light, no pressure, as if you didn't notice it either that he wasn't contacting you because you obviously have a lot more (important) other things to do than thinking about a guy you just recently met... He has to gain that position in your mind first!

If you show to him you respect yourself in this manner, he will respect you back, see you as someone that he should respect and give his full attention to if he wants to be with you.

FOllowing these guidelines, your message could be "Hey! I was out of town for a couple of days, I'm sorry if I missed anything you wrote me or something. How have you been?" Of course you shouldn't lie, so first off all, be out of town a couple days, or have something else going on that is more important than him. For instance, if you have a big project at work or school, you should respect your life first, before wasting time and brainspace on some guy you just met. Let that time and space grow and be justified. Your life and person are your first priority, if there is some time left (depending on how close/long you know him / how much attention/time/brainspace he allocates to you), you can be social with him.

He will sort of freak out if it's not justified. I know this feels wrong what i'm saying, because you feel really close to him, and you have fallen for him meanwhile. He might still need time doing so. And imagine how it would be for yourself, if a guy is suddenly convinced you are perfect for him while you don't immediately reciprocate these feelings.. And he starts to call and text you and wonder if you dislike him suddenly because you were online somewhere without texting him!!!
I'm sure if it's not a guy you have deep feelings for (yet), you'd feel not so inclined to get to know him more or hang out with him.

That's my thoughts.. Hope it helps

[Lisa]

It is best to decide on your own expectations for a Daddy; everybody is different. I would just plainly let him know that you don't think he is interested due to his lack of response. If nothing changes after that communication, let him go.

[MiAcushla]

I'd just send a simple message enquiring to his health and if he wish to maintain contact to you as he'd ignored previous messages.

If you get nothing back I'd say without a shadow of a doubt he's not worth your time as it's disrespectful. It's never too much to have standards.

Hugs, Jo.

I did message him, more than once asking how he was doing and got no replies. I also messaged and told him I got the impression he was no longer interested. He messaged me the next day and said that wasn't the case, that he was just busy. Yet over the next two days he has been online in the chat service I met him on for hours and again ignored my attempt to greet him.

[MiAcushla]

Ahh, i'd keep it cool, otherwise he might think you're clingy. Maybe he was just busy, and in any case, even if he wasn't, you wouldn't want him to talk to you to "keep you up" instead of because he is really excited to do so.

 

His message will be clear enough, if you stop hearing from him, he obviously lost interest. Poking him won't help.

So if you do contact him, you can keep it light, no pressure, as if you didn't notice it either that he wasn't contacting you because you obviously have a lot more (important) other things to do than thinking about a guy you just recently met... He has to gain that position in your mind first!

 

If you show to him you respect yourself in this manner, he will respect you back, see you as someone that he should respect and give his full attention to if he wants to be with you.

 

FOllowing these guidelines, your message could be "Hey! I was out of town for a couple of days, I'm sorry if I missed anything you wrote me or something. How have you been?" Of course you shouldn't lie, so first off all, be out of town a couple days, or have something else going on that is more important than him. For instance, if you have a big project at work or school, you should respect your life first, before wasting time and brainspace on some guy you just met. Let that time and space grow and be justified. Your life and person are your first priority, if there is some time left (depending on how close/long you know him / how much attention/time/brainspace he allocates to you), you can be social with him.

 

He will sort of freak out if it's not justified. I know this feels wrong what i'm saying, because you feel really close to him, and you have fallen for him meanwhile. He might still need time doing so. And imagine how it would be for yourself, if a guy is suddenly convinced you are perfect for him while you don't immediately reciprocate these feelings.. And he starts to call and text you and wonder if you dislike him suddenly because you were online somewhere without texting him!!!

I'm sure if it's not a guy you have deep feelings for (yet), you'd feel not so inclined to get to know him more or hang out with him.

 

That's my thoughts.. Hope it helps

I tried keeping it light, talking about an upcoming ren faire and asking about his gaming. Crickets. The only time he responded is when I said I got the feeling he wasn't interested anymore. I am kinda clingy, I don't hide that or pretend to be other than what I am. I have some abandonment issues.

 

I haven't fallen for him, he just seemed interesting. I told him at one point I thought we needed to slow things down cause anything more than friends was making me anxious cause it was too soon. My issues aren't due to deep feelings but because I don't really understand social interactions well and am worring I am doing something wrong.

[Rosetta]

Ahh, in that case, maybe ask him exactly that? Ask him if you did / are doing something wrong, and why he stopped talking to him?
To me it looks like he is actually doing what you wanted, if you asked him to slow things down then maybe this is why he is less involved with you? Maybe that sort of turned him down...

[MiAcushla]

Ahh, in that case, maybe ask him exactly that? Ask him if you did / are doing something wrong, and why he stopped talking to him?

To me it looks like he is actually doing what you wanted, if you asked him to slow things down then maybe this is why he is less involved with you? Maybe that sort of turned him down...

I asked him if we could get to know each other better, hang out a few times as friends before trying to see if the DD/lg thing would work.

 

I would ask him if I did anything wrong except he hasnt even responsed to "Hi?"

[Rosetta]

Well then, in my opinion, as i said before, no action or reaction from him is a clear message... Move on!

[MiAcushla]

Thank you, I wasn't sure. It's good to be able to run this by people and makes sure I am just not too close to the situation.