Heart break

[Ducks]

I had been slightly into daddy dom stuff for a while but I never dove in very deep, just had partners that liked to call me daddy without me asking which eventually got me interested. A few months ago I started talking to a close friend that lives nearby and she started to tell me how she needed a new daddy. We had been inseparable for months now and she just started ghosting me basically.

She’ll text me once every 3 days or so sending nudes saying something like “sorry I haven’t been around, hope this makes up for it!” And I always respond trying to get any sort of conversation but I’m sick of chasing after a little who just now informed me that she’s still hung up on her ex and that if I want to be her daddy I have to deal with her dipping in and out of my life.

 

Any suggestions here?

[Guest crazycatdaddy]

Honestly, as one caregiver to another, you can do better.

 

If she's still looking to pursue her ex, that means in her mind, you're her second choice. Some people might be okay with waiting around, seeing if she'll get over him and be interested in you, and if you have time to kill and you really like her, that's your call. But it's not something I would do. If she prefers this other guy now, even after they broke up, it speaks volumes not just about her character, but about how she sees you. If you're her second choice now, what's to stop her choosing someone else over you next time? Or if her ex comes back on the market six months or a year from now, can you be sure she wouldn't go right back to him?

 

DD/LG isn't a giant community. But even so, there are other people out there, people who would treat you better and give you the kind of relationship you want. Don't make the mistake of clinging to the wrong person just for the sake of "being in a relationship". It isn't worth it, and it won't end well. I've made that mistake myself.

 

All that being said, I guess the point is this - do you love her? If you do, you'll regret it if you end things before you feel like you've tried absolutely everything. Write down how she's making you feel. Take your time, hit all the key points, and tell her straight - "I need this kind of relationship, and right now you're not giving me anywhere close to what I need." There's a chance she might change her mind I suppose, and even if she doesn't, if you feel strongly enough you'll feel better in the long run about walking away if you know you did everything you could.

[Siniwit]

Ask yourself this: Do you want to be strung along? Do you want to be led on and risk having your feelings stomped on without a care? Do you want to be someone's second choice or back-up plan?

If you're not okay with these things, then perhaps you're better off without her and would be happier with someone else down the line.

Personally, if a girl's not up for conversation and just sends nudes to "make up" for a lack of contact, then that tells me all I need to know about her. Nudes on their own aren't what make a girl sexy; effort and character are.

Why would you believe you'd be first choice even if she moved on from her ex? What reason do you have to believe that?

There's better fish in the sea who will treat you with some decency.

[Alaskan Daddy]

From where I am sitting the answer is pretty easy. I have been there. I am pretty sure her actions will not change. You are putting all the effort and energy into the relationship. I understand the emotional connection you have with her and it is hard to cut that, Remember your feelings matter also. If I was in your shoes I would just tell her that 'we are not a good match and I am going to leave you as your daddy'. If she asks why tell her how you feel about everything. Don't let her shame you. The answers are inside of you. I hope this helps.

[SamL]

Never make someone a priority in your life when you are but an option in theirs.

[sullenDaddybones]

Played the game on both sides plenty. People come for Validation, reassurance, boredom, desire, longing, you name it there is a reason people start and maintain all sorts of relationships. What you want of one has to be laid down in stone and then expressed to a person who is not just worthwhile but wants something along the same lines... Meet in the middle if you must but it isn't hard to realize beating yourself in the head(done this plenty of times) WHAT YOU WANT C: Is it?

[Guest DaddyDN]

I had been slightly into daddy dom stuff for a while but I never dove in very deep, just had partners that liked to call me daddy without me asking which eventually got me interested. A few months ago I started talking to a close friend that lives nearby and she started to tell me how she needed a new daddy. We had been inseparable for months now and she just started ghosting me basically.

She’ll text me once every 3 days or so sending nudes saying something like “sorry I haven’t been around, hope this makes up for it!” And I always respond trying to get any sort of conversation but I’m sick of chasing after a little who just now informed me that she’s still hung up on her ex and that if I want to be her daddy I have to deal with her dipping in and out of my life.

Any suggestions here?

She's preparing to leave you. The prolonged absence is her testing the waters. She may be seeing what kind of attention she gets from her male friends or online etc.

 

The nudes are her way of keeping you invested in case she isn't ready to leave you.

 

She's not that into you and you're setting yourself up for heartbreak

[Guest LittleSnowiii]

I had been slightly into daddy dom stuff for a while but I never dove in very deep, just had partners that liked to call me daddy without me asking which eventually got me interested. A few months ago I started talking to a close friend that lives nearby and she started to tell me how she needed a new daddy. We had been inseparable for months now and she just started ghosting me basically.

She’ll text me once every 3 days or so sending nudes saying something like “sorry I haven’t been around, hope this makes up for it!” And I always respond trying to get any sort of conversation but I’m sick of chasing after a little who just now informed me that she’s still hung up on her ex and that if I want to be her daddy I have to deal with her dipping in and out of my life.

 

Any suggestions here?

Like other's said, you deserve better.

Let's be honest, a little is someone that doesn't give you just the sexual side. Gives you the love, care, excitment, etc . A little is a dedicated and loving partner, which she doesn't seem to be right now.

My suggestion is to move on. There's many wonderful littles out there who will give you what you need. Don't stay for someone emotionally unavailable.

[Ducks]

Thank you everyone for the insight, and helping me feel more concrete in what I really already knew.

I didn’t know what I wanted when we started out, but I do know what I’ll want from future littles and I just hope I’d be able to find that someday.

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

That she thinks nudes make up for a lack of anything else is sad. Bro, you can see infinite naked girls almost anywhere you go on the internet. There's nothing special about that. Find the girl who gives you it all. And I do not mean sexually, I mean everything. Everything you want in a relationship. You're worth it. Edited May 11, 2019 by Daddy-Tom