How it all ties together.

[Fatherofroses]

masterSo I made a post not that long ago asking about how Primal play fits into a ddlg relationship and discovered that they have more similarities than I first realized.

So now I'm curious as to how other BDSM styles translate to or even support the ddlg dynamic.

 

For example being a primal I have a strong instinct to protect and provide for that "pack" which I feel supports the daddy role in which you make someone feel safe and supported.

 

So guys and gals, how do you all feel your other Kinks support and/or enhance your ddlg Dynamics?

Edited April 12, 2019 by Fatherofroses

[LittleTeacup]

I think every other BDSM style can work with ddlg (and all gender variations) if both partners are into it. DDLG is a form of d/s and can be as mild or as extreme as wished for. It can be sexual or nonsexual. Some couples are almost vanilla except one feels little and the other cares for them and gives them guidance. And others incorporate every kinky thing they can come up with.

 

I'm probably closer to the vanilla side of the scale, but there are some things I like a bit. I'd be cool with light bondage with pretty ribbons for example, but I don't think I'd like handcuffs. Because to me handcuffs are for arresting people and seem kind of negative. Pretty ribbons on the other hand are positive. I'm not particularly bratty and like being a good girl. I wanna be reassured everything I'm doing is good and full of love. Honestly, if I'm praised enough I'd probably be willing to do all sorts of things. It's all in the words used. Spanking? Say "you're so good, taking this so well. I'm proud of you. Can you take a little more for me?" and I'd be willing to do it. Say "you're such a naughty girl you deserve to be punished" and I won't.

 

Uh, I think the biggest kink I have is a praise kink. I also really like cuddles. If I'm with the right person I'd be willing to do so much if praising and cuddling is involved. Just tell me I'm doing it for Love.

 

I don't know if I adequately answered your question, but that was my two cents.

[baby_k]

I think anything can enhance or support the dynamic because the dynamic is whatever the two peole have between them. As long as things are tailored for the specific people's needs, it works. Just like @LittleTeacup described, you can make things fit excatly her and it can mean just having cute ribons over some cold looking cuffs.

 

People often ask what sort of little I am and even what sort of dynamic I would want. Imo those are important questions of course but also incredibly vague when not talked of some specific rel with person I know already well and have established rel.

 

Example: I had little "fling" once with this dude who was superduper respectable towards me, like real life old fashioned gentleman. He wanted to even control my clothing and what I eat in restaurant in which cases I normally would just tell the dude to f*ck off but with him it was pleasant and nice. Somehow natural. Would I look for rel that has those elements as in that specific rel I enjoyed them? No, but with right person it could feel right, so there is no specific hard limit for me ( anymore ).

 

Then, often a little is seen as just as some cute submissive. Well, I'm not that, quite the opposite: I can be bossy and even demanding, and mostly I know what I want and I make sure I get it. How that goes with ddlg? All daddies I've been with have liked my drive and for them it has always been "well, you are a princess, so go get what should be yours" or something along those lines. Different people of course have slightly different style there: one can be more of a dom and telling me to go and make him proud, or someone can be more daddy like telling how they support me and I will do well. Dynamic is slightly different in those cases but both fit ME and what I try to achieve in life, the dynamic just shapes between me and the other person. Neither one of those is better than the other, not to me.

 

As they say: there are no problems, only possibilities. So, you can imo shape ( almost? ) anything to be part of your dynamic. Specially as ddlg doesn't define how one needs to be, it doesn't say that you need to have this and that personality, you need to look this or that, behave like xyz and so on. There is no real mold. So, be free to be ( almost ) whatever you are and embrace it