How many posts can you make

[Disneyboy90]

Hello everyone I

I am curious how many posts can you make on here if your original post isn't getting activity on like nobody is replying to your original post. I just feel like my post isn't getting activity on it for as many times I have been bumping it and do y'all think its cause of my warnings on my posts or why do I not get anything happening on it? So overall really what I am asking is how many times can I make a post for the personals sections for a caregiver?

[LittleCelticLass]

I'm pretty sure only once.

You might think about editing your personal to be more...eye catching if you think you want more traffic.

[Little kaiya]

Pretty sure it says only one post per person for the personals forum. A few things to consider:

 

1. The DDlg community overall isnt really that large in the grand scheme of things.

 

2. There are a lot of personal ads that are posted on this site.

 

3. There are far more littles looking for caregivers than vice versa.

 

4. People are looking for certain things. If your ad didn't get any responses after the initial post and bumping it a few times it may be your ad needs some adjustments.

 

5. This website is certainly open to everyone but it seems, to me at least, most of the personal ads form the perspective of Caregivers are Daddys looking for little girls.

 

I'm not an expert in any way shape or form but most couples I know, DDlg or otherwise, found their partners by getting out in real life and meeting people AFTER taking care of themselves and being in a good place.

 

Are there people who meet online, sure, but why limit yourself to one method that obviously isn't working?

 

Lastly, one personal observation, you seem to have made this your focus and it can come across a bit one faceted. I wont say all but a lot of DDlg relationships arent 24/7. They are between two adults who have a DDlg dynamic woven into their relationship. Your personal ad seems to sound like you want someone looking after you 24/7 without allowing for the adult part of the relationship dynamic. Again, I'm not saying change who you are but that could possibly turn potential Caregivers away.

 

Good luck on your search.

 

Little kaiya

Edited April 8, 2019 by Little kaiya

[Lollipox]

You can only make ONE personal ad. And I think the rules say you can “bump” it once every 24hrs?

I think the Friend Zone is the same.

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

The exact rule says: "Multiple personal ads are not allowed; if changes are needed you can edit or bump your original ad. New ads will be considered duplicates and will be deleted."

 

If there is any confusion about this or any rule, you are welcome to message a staff member. The full set of rules is available here: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/33419-community-rules-and-guidelines/

 

Something you may want to consider is that mommys are extremely rare, even on this site.

[Disneyboy90]

Pretty sure it says only one post per person for the personals forum. A few things to consider:

 

1. The DDlg community overall isnt really that large in the grand scheme of things.

 

2. There are a lot of personal ads that are posted on this site.

 

3. There are far more littles looking for caregivers than vice versa.

 

4. People are looking for certain things. If your ad didn't get any responses after the initial post and bumping it a few times it may be your ad needs some adjustments.

 

5. This website is certainly open to everyone but it seems, to me at least, most of the personal ads form the perspective of Caregivers are Daddys looking for little girls.

 

I'm not an expert in any way shape or form but most couples I know, DDlg or otherwise, found their partners by getting out in real life and meeting people AFTER taking care of themselves and being in a good place.

 

Are there people who meet online, sure, but why limit yourself to one method that obviously isn't working?

 

Lastly, one personal observation, you seem to have made this your focus and it can come across a bit one faceted. I wont say all but a lot of DDlg relationships arent 24/7. They are between two adults who have a DDlg dynamic woven into their relationship. Your personal ad seems to sound like you want someone looking after you 24/7 without allowing for the adult part of the relationship dynamic. Again, I'm not saying change who you are but that could possibly turn potential Caregivers away.

 

Good luck on your search.

 

Little kaiya

Hello Kaiya 

could you please take a look at my personal ad see what all I need to add and what I don't need so i can edit my post and what should I say for my header for my post?

[Disneyboy90]

The exact rule says: "Multiple personal ads are not allowed; if changes are needed you can edit or bump your original ad. New ads will be considered duplicates and will be deleted."

 

If there is any confusion about this or any rule, you are welcome to message a staff member. The full set of rules is available here: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/33419-community-rules-and-guidelines/

 

Something you may want to consider is that mommys are extremely rare, even on this site.

Is their any other good free sites to find caregivers besides here and fetlife cause I am having trouble trying to find either one on those 2 sites:(

[Lollipox]

Is their any other good free sites to find caregivers besides here and fetlife cause I am having trouble trying to find either one on those 2 sites:(

I don’t think the forum counts as a dating site. It looks like they just have the option due to popular demand.

 

You could try DateCGL.com?

[Little kaiya]

Hello Kaiya

could you please take a look at my personal ad see what all I need to add and what I don't need so i can edit my post and what should I say for my header for my post?

There is no one right way to find someone. There is also no one right way to write a personal add or header for a post. That said, I can't tell you what to add or take away from your personal add to make it more successful.

 

Honestly, I've never made a personal add because I find meeting people in person is much more likely to lead to a relationship than a personal ad but that's my experience.

 

I did read your add and what I may offer for you to consider is the following few things.

 

1. In a lot of DDlg relationships people are looking not just for a Caregiver / little connection but also an adult relationship. Since you state you are straight it may be one reason you don't get Daddys replying as they may not be interested without that connection.

 

2. There are less female caregivers so you're already fishing in a small pond as it were.

 

3. Not all Caregivers are into ABDL play. Of that limited group you want one ok with changing dirty diapers which further narrows down the field. Then you want one that will buy you baby gear. Then to narrow down an already small field you want one that will do everything for you and do it in public none the less. Being honest is good but you're asking for a lot. I'm not saying give up or change but ask yourself, what incentive would a woman have to take on what you're asking?

 

4. When you do finally get to what you have to offer a potential caregiver it basically is (1) love them, which is what a relationship is based on, (2) listen, which is what a DDlg relationship is, and (3) do chores or colour.

 

This may sound a bit harsh but your ad comes across 90% what you want and 10% what a potential caregiver would get and that 10% is what they would expect from any potential partner / little.

 

Honestly hun, it comes across as desperate for ANY caregiver rather than a desire to find your special partner. Maybe try reflecting on what you want and why versus just trying to find anyone. Happiness starts inside, it's not something that someone else can give you.

 

Little kaiya

[LittlePupRune]

Is their any other good free sites to find caregivers besides here and fetlife cause I am having trouble trying to find either one on those 2 sites:(

 

Unfortunately neither the forum nor fetlife are designed to be easy to use as dating sites. I have to echo Little kaiya and say getting out in your local community is probably your best bet.

[Disneyboy90]

I don’t think the forum counts as a dating site. It looks like they just have the option due to popular demand.

 

You could try DateCGL.com?

I have tried that site but for some odd reasons it didn't work out for me cause of someone on their end was not being nice to me

[Disneyboy90]

There is no one right way to find someone. There is also no one right way to write a personal add or header for a post. That said, I can't tell you what to add or take away from your personal add to make it more successful.

 

Honestly, I've never made a personal add because I find meeting people in person is much more likely to lead to a relationship than a personal ad but that's my experience.

 

I did read your add and what I may offer for you to consider is the following few things.

 

1. In a lot of DDlg relationships people are looking not just for a Caregiver / little connection but also an adult relationship. Since you state you are straight it may be one reason you don't get Daddys replying as they may not be interested without that connection.

 

2. There are less female caregivers so you're already fishing in a small pond as it were.

 

3. Not all Caregivers are into ABDL play. Of that limited group you want one ok with changing dirty diapers which further narrows down the field. Then you want one that will buy you baby gear. Then to narrow down an already small field you want one that will do everything for you and do it in public none the less. Being honest is good but you're asking for a lot. I'm not saying give up or change but ask yourself, what incentive would a woman have to take on what you're asking?

 

4. When you do finally get to what you have to offer a potential caregiver it basically is (1) love them, which is what a relationship is based on, (2) listen, which is what a DDlg relationship is, and (3) do chores or colour.

 

This may sound a bit harsh but your ad comes across 90% what you want and 10% what a potential caregiver would get and that 10% is what they would expect from any potential partner / little.

 

Honestly hun, it comes across as desperate for ANY caregiver rather than a desire to find your special partner. Maybe try reflecting on what you want and why versus just trying to find anyone. Happiness starts inside, it's not something that someone else can give you.

 

Little kaiya

What do you mean by give the incentive for what a caregiver I am asking? What do u mean by try reflecting on what I want versus trying to find anyone?

[Disneyboy90]

Unfortunately neither the forum nor fetlife are designed to be easy to use as dating sites. I have to echo Little kaiya and say getting out in your local community is probably your best bet.

oh I see

[Guest Kaori]

Is their any other good free sites to find caregivers besides here and fetlife cause I am having trouble trying to find either one on those 2 sites:(

Our forum isn't a dating site nor do we advertise the site as such. It just so happens we have a personals section for our members to utilize. Ultimately this is a place of learning and a place to meet like minded people and if those relations happen to build into something more then that's awesome. My best advice would be to try making friends with people, littles and caregivers alike and see if something blossoms naturally. You should never be in a rush to be in a relationship and let it happen in it's own time. When we're so focused on being in a relationship to the point that it's all we can see things tend to go poorly because of various reasons. It'll happen whenit's right. It may not be the answer you want to hear but its honest.

[PrincessAurora]

didn't you already ask this exact same question a few weeks ago and got answers for it? you didn't really seem to like the ones you got in the other thread
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/39838-why-am-i-not-getting-any-replies-on-my-personal-post/

[Disneyboy90]

didn't you already ask this exact same question a few weeks ago and got answers for it? you didn't really seem to like the ones you got in the other thread

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/39838-why-am-i-not-getting-any-replies-on-my-personal-post/

why does it matter and I did like what I got and I fixed them 

[Guest crazycatdaddy]

I don't mean to pile on after everyone else has had their say, but I commented on your last post about this topic and I just wanted to add my two cents once again.

 

It's only been a couple of weeks since you edited your personal ad. Given that CG/L is a small community, and as others have said, you're looking for a very particular type of person within that very small community, you need to give it more time. Anyone looking for a partner online is unlikely to meet their soulmate in the first few days of looking, and if you're dead set on using sites like this one to find your partner, you need to be patient and give it time.

 

If you rush, you run the risk of jumping on the first person that comes along and they could be someone completely wrong for you, so I'd really suggest you take on board the feedback others have kindly provided, and use this time while you're waiting to think. Firstly think about the kind of partner you want to have - "a daddy or a mommy" is so incredibly broad, and beyond someone willing to diaper you and not be sexual, what exactly are you looking for? Because it sounds like maybe you don't know, and you have this idea in your head that "a caregiver" is magically going to be perfect for you when the reality is that every individual is different. Someone who, on paper, may seem to be everything we could ever want may not actually be someone we can even stand to be around. Secondly, think about yourself as a little. What littlespace things do you enjoy apart from diapers and colouring? If you can think about what you like best about littlespace and what you don't, not only will it help you tweak your personal ad to make it more tailored to the kind of person you might want to attract, but you might find ways to enjoy being little on your own and find that you can be happy without the desperate need to find a partner.

 

If you're absolutely sure that now is the time for a relationship, what other options do you have besides here, fetlife, and datecgl? There are a few ABDL matchmaking sites, and there are the ABDL and DDLG personals pages on reddit (assuming they're still around). Beyond those, there really aren't many other places within the CG/L community designed for matchmaking and dating. The ABDL matchmaking sites, at least in my recollection, tend to be overwhelmingly male and have far more littles than caregivers so again, if you go down that route you will need to be very patient and give it time. These things don't happen overnight. Otherwise why not try meeting people outside of CG/L? I won't say that anyone you meet will be willing to participate in your kink/lifestyle because that isn't true of everyone, and diapers especially can be a hard limit for some people. But I've known people in the community who met their partners locally and introduced them to CG/L later, and now include that in their relationships. It can happen, but you have to be prepared to compromise. If you don't put yourself out there to meet people you won't know who might or might not be compatible with you.

 

The problem any of us can have when we feel desperate, or when we try to rush things, is we end up with someone wrong for us. The desire to have "anyone" can overpower our common sense, and it can even be dangerous because we might end up with someone abusive, someone trying to scam or catfish us, and if you make it known to the community and the internet at large - as you have been doing with your posts - that you're in a mad rush to find someone, you put yourself at risk of someone like that trying to take advantage of your state of mind.

 

Finally, having looked briefly at your profile, all of your posts here on the forum have been either replies to personal ads - including some old personal ads and replies to replies on other people's personal ads, neither of which are likely to yield anything positive for you - or the two posts you've made complaining about the lack of replies and reaction to your own personal ad. You're not active in the community beyond looking for a partner. While there's nothing wrong with that in some ways, you're limiting yourself again because a lot of the communication on a forum like this one takes place outside of the personals section. It's a more organic way to meet people within the community, and if you limit yourself to looking at personals and replying to personals, you might miss someone who could be a great match simply because they aren't posting a personal ad or checking that section. And someone like that will certainly not see you if you aren't an active member of the community. I'm not saying reply to every post just for the sake of it or to boost your profile, because that's gonna annoy people and make people less likely to want to talk to you. But if you join in with the wider CG/L community, here or in other online communities, you never know who you might meet. If you make friends within the community, maybe they'll know someone they can introduce you to. The point is, if you don't join in and continue to restrict yourself to dating and personals pages, you won't know.

 

In short, be patient and be prepared to wait. Use the time you have to grow as a person, enjoy the things you can enjoy on your own, and let a relationship develop organically when it's the right time. Broaden your search, both by talking to people within the community from a non-dating angle, and by seeing who might be out there for you to meet in your own local area.

 

I genuinely believe that there is someone out there for everyone. You will find the right person for you, you just have to be patient and consider your options. Good luck with everything.