Insecure Little Problems?

[Little.Pet.Kate]

So.. I have a little bit of a problem with myself as a person. I am very insecure and alone and I don't know how to feel good about myself. I try to do the "find 2 positives when you list a negative" thing but.. it doesn't help much. 

 

There are things I do love about myself but they are small things.. I wanna love all of me but I can't seem to do it. I get really depressed because I think I'm not good enough for anyone, friendship or relationship wise. Like I don't deserve to have friends because I'm not normal or skinny or pretty.

 

I also have a LOT of guilt. I'm somewhat ashamed of myself for being a little, even though I love being little. I have this friend, and she is an amazing, understanding, and cooperative person, but I try and ask her advice for my DDLG problems because me and her are extremely open with one another, but I get shy and embarrassed. Is that normal?

 

Also people say that I don't need a CG to be little, and of course I know this, but I don't have irl friends that I can openly talk to about DDLG because I get uncomfortable, even though one of those friends is a Daddy, I still get very uncomfortable. But in my mind I need a CG to take care of me.. I don't feel complete.. Is that normal too? 

 

 

[Leia the Butterfly]

First, I’d like to say that there is no shame in being a little. I think most of not all people have felt insecure about being a little, and especially when we see negative things about being a little. Secondly, insecurity is a tough thing to deal with, sometimes even moreso when you are a little. You just have to try, and never give up no matter how bad things get. I know this sounds cliché and all but it’s true.

 

As for feeling incomplete without a daddy, I say to you as a little without a daddy, you do not need a daddy to be validated as a little. Take time to find out who YOU are as a little and as a person, and when you feel confident in who you are, then seek a daddy, and set your standards high, and accept nothing less than the best.

 

Leia

[Little.Pet.Kate]

First, I’d like to say that there is no shame in being a little. I think most of not all people have felt insecure about being a little, and especially when we see negative things about being a little. Secondly, insecurity is a tough thing to deal with, sometimes even moreso when you are a little. You just have to try, and never give up no matter how bad things get. I know this sounds cliché and all but it’s true.

 

As for feeling incomplete without a daddy, I say to you as a little without a daddy, you do not need a daddy to be validated as a little. Take time to find out who YOU are as a little and as a person, and when you feel confident in who you are, then seek a daddy, and set your standards high, and accept nothing less than the best.

 

Leia

 

Thank you so much.. But I understand that I don't need a daddy to be validated as a little but I get very lonely when in little space.. a lonely friends can't cure..

[LittleCelticLass]

Thank you so much.. But I understand that I don't need a daddy to be validated as a little but I get very lonely when in little space.. a lonely friends can't cure..

Having a Daddy won't "cure" you. You'll never be able to truly be happy in a relationship, if you can't figure out how to be happy alone. It's entirely unfair to expect someone else, even a DD/CG to be responsible for your happiness and ability to survive on your own.

Leia is right. Now is the time to focus on yourself, and learning who you are and what you need as a little.

Best of luck.

[Little.Pet.Kate]

Having a Daddy won't "cure" you. You'll never be able to truly be happy in a relationship, if you can't figure out how to be happy alone. It's entirely unfair to expect someone else, even a DD/CG to be responsible for your happiness and ability to survive on your own.

Leia is right. Now is the time to focus on yourself, and learning who you are and what you need as a little.

Best of luck.

 

Alrighty.. Thank you guys.

[DustBunny93]

So first off, I also am an insecure person just as a general whole, not even as a little.

I too feel insecure about myself as in looks and also my personality. Some days I feel like why would anyone want to be my friend? Like who would willingly want to hangout with me? But then I just stop and think of how others see me, not how I view myself.

To my good friends who know me, I am a silly, goofy girl who likes to joke around. I'm also a good friend and a good listener. I'm there for the people I care about. The list goes on.

Try thinking about it that way. I know it might be hard sometimes but it can help if you look at things in a different "light". I actually learned that from going to therapy.

 

I think those above made some good points, but I just wanted to add that in

[Guest QueenJellybean]

i don't want to repeat what was said by the lovely folks above me, but i want to add something.

you said that you like small things about yourself.

don't discount those small things.

write them down. put them up. save them. make them pretty, and post them on your mirror.

because there will be days you forget even those small things, and they are still to be celebrating, no matter how small.

 

the first steps to loving more about yourself is accepting that there are things to love.

no matter how small.

[SamL]

But I understand that I don't need a daddy to be validated as a little but I get very lonely when in little space.. a lonely friends can't cure..

 

Does little you know how to pretend?  Imaginary friends rock.  

[DustBunny93]

 

i don't want to repeat what was said by the lovely folks above me, but i want to add something.

you said that you like small things about yourself.

don't discount those small things.

write them down. put them up. save them. make them pretty, and post them on your mirror.

because there will be days you forget even those small things, and they are still to be celebrating, no matter how small.

 

the first steps to loving more about yourself is accepting that there are things to love.

no matter how small.

I think I'm going to do this, the putting the good things about me up on my mirror. That's a good idea, thank you. :3

[MarshmallowPeep]

Remember you are not alone going down this road and it is good you have decided to reach out to others about it.

I also struggle with many of the things that were mentioned in this feed and through the years have had many methods of coping and working through these problems. One of the first things I could recommend is to try shutting out bad thoughts, almost like giving yourself a rule similar to "Don't curse". When you think bad of yourself in any way stop and say to yourself "No, those are bad words. I should not say/think so meanly of myself".
You can also treat yourself and do self-care days to teach yourself that you matter and you deserve to feel good, happy, and healthy!

 

In recent months I have also realized that little space can actually help my confidence, and my confidence helps my little space. 

 

Just remember you are not alone, and you are most certainly deserve a cg and friends. Your past, personality, or appearance do not determine your worth or what you deserve in life.

[Llombsty]

Little.Princess.Kate

My perspective on loneliness, insecurity, shame:

My live in little girl deals with much the same. Some times I can help, and mostly it is patience on my part. At different times through life ppl struggle with these things. Who wants to go that path alone. So while (one can't be happy in a relationship unless they are happy out) can seem to make sense, how factual is it? I'm not saying anyone must be in a relationship to be happy. It is very evident we are by and large social creatures. Just don't think you have to go it alone. Finding happiness in yourself, within a social group small or large is always an option. The silliness of forcing yourself to be a cast away on an island until you buck up and find happiness is troubling.

All good relationships should be/have paths twords personal growth, inner happiness, learning...ECT,ECT...

A wise person said we are all half crazy and as two people group together you get at least one sane person. Affirmation or just the truth can be huge, my little girl -for several reasons- has a inner voice that says she's no good, not pretty, and so many more lies. When your inner voice yells lies so loud so often sometimes it takes an outer voice to counter and speak truth.

Just my thoughts