Why do you like spanking?

[Guest Baby_Kitty9818]

Okay, so, to start with, I am a little/Kitten and one of my absolute favorite things ever is spanking. Some of the reasons why I like it is because I like the idea of laying over Daddy's lap (we're currently LDR) and feeling him slowly pulling my pants and panties down and then just feeling his hand on my butt...just basically letting him have control. So, what I'm curious about is, why do some of you guys like spanking? Either giving a spanking or being spanked?

 

[Guest Aetherr]

daddy/master here!!

 

i enjoy inflicting the pain (i am a bit of a sadist)

 

being with a partner who enjoys it encourages fun and cute games and banter that make the relationship feel very personal and close and enhances the dynamic

 

i like to control/dominate its excites me sexually and non sexually

[DaddyDom3238]

I enjoy causing pain for my little/sub, knowing she is enjoying the feeling of her butt burning and throbbing after a good spanking session is something I enjoy as well. Any form of punishment that causes her pain is something I enjoy and she does as well. Having her give herself over to me and submitting to me is a wonderful feeling as well because I know that she has given all of her trust to me. A good caning or figging session is very enjoyable as well!!

[Maids]

I  love being spanked because I am a masochist.

I love the feeling of his hand hitting my porcelain skin and feeling his unique hand print welt up on my skin.

Whenever I sit down I am reminded that I am his by the burning of my cheeks.

The mark can last for hours that stretch up to a day - in that 24 hour period I can look at myself from the mirror and see his mark as it gives me a sense of belonging. 

It gives me a sense of pride because I know that no one else has this mark except for me.

That mark is his that he painted on my skin, it is special for us and only us.

Following that, it creates a special bond between D/s to share something so intimate and unique.

The aftercare is remarkable; to know that he has so much control and power over me that he can inflict and soothe pain.

And sometimes... it ends with a much more lustful and pleasurable ending - though it doesn't have to be sexual all the time. It's diverse and able to applicable to all sorts of relationships.

Edited April 2, 2019 by Maids

[CherieBits]

For me, its definitely the feeling! I cant say for sure if i genuinely enjoy the pain portion of it too, but my bum is one of my weakpoints, so after being spanked, that tingling feeling afterwards drives me absolutely crazy! (In a good way, of course)

[Little.Pet.Kate]

For me, it's the act and the pain. I love it so much when it's non sexual because it shows that Daddy cares enough to teach me right from wrong and punish me when doing wrong. I feel love when he does that and it makes me grow closer to him.

 

When it is sexual or turns sexual, I enjoy the stinging pain and I just crave the pain.. I LOVE it. And then knowing that there are gonna be welts in the shape of his hand.. and bruises. I love knowing that Daddy marked me.

[Lollipox]

[Guest LittleSnowiii]

For me spanking is about being submissive, but also a nice way to starting the action. I have bad anxiety about sex, so is a nice way to be playful and slowly get things rolling.

[Guest crazycatdaddy]

Personally, physical punishment isn't my first choice (I have done it and will do it for littles that like it, but I'm happy to do non-physical punishment). But I wanted to share a perspective I hadn't seen here which is that for at least one person I've been with, it was about safety. Spanking meant that there was a limit, that she couldn't misbehave and do whatever she wanted to the point of being self-destructive. Knowing that someone was there and in charge, ready to use spanking as a way to enforce good behaviour and keep her safe, that's what mattered.

[Maxibon]

My girlfriend and I (we're switches) are LDR, so I can't say for sure just yet. But-

 

I like the concept of smacking her, because she likes the feeling, and I feel like I could make her feel really good ^-^ I also imagine that I would like the feeling of her jolting against me?? I also kind of like how it gives me a sense of control? And I can use that control to make her feel like I'm guiding her to be a better person (guidance is a big thing that makes me feel safe when I'm Little). I also like feeling like I'm guiding her, it makes me feel like I'm caring for her and making her feel safe as well  

 

I like the concept of being smacked (however, I don't actually know how well I'll go with it in person, because my pain tolerance is non-existent, but then again, the adrenaline makes it a pleasant thing, so I guess we'll see), because one of my biggest turn-ons, is the impact, that sudden, surprising and strong impact, like being pushed against a wall, or tossed onto the bed, or cuffed. Smacking is very strong in impact, so I feel like, if I'm okay with the pain, I would find it much of a sensual thing. I also like the cause and effect relationship it has- like, I act cheeky and break a rule, and that means she'll punish me. I'm not too sure how to explain it. I also like the dominance it implies, it makes me feel like I'm hers and only hers?

 

It's really interesting, because I actually have a great big phobia of being in trouble. Punishments, from anyone else (and if not gone about in certain ways, also from her), will make me feel like I've done something really wrong and I will feel like I'm disappointing everyone. So, I never thought that I would actually find an enjoyment in punishment, and it would just trigger me, but I actually very much so do, it just has to be treaded with care.

[Maxibon]

Personally, physical punishment isn't my first choice (I have done it and will do it for littles that like it, but I'm happy to do non-physical punishment). But I wanted to share a perspective I hadn't seen here which is that for at least one person I've been with, it was about safety. Spanking meant that there was a limit, that she couldn't misbehave and do whatever she wanted to the point of being self-destructive. Knowing that someone was there and in charge, ready to use spanking as a way to enforce good behaviour and keep her safe, that's what mattered.

 

Yes! This is what I meant about guidance (I was typing my reply as you posted this, and I didn't see it until I posted)!! Thanks for explaining it better

[Guest gakiusagi]

For me, the psychological part is important: the feeling of being helpless and submitting to someone else's desire. I love knowing I'm pleasing my dom and sometimes it can be a good way to help them unwind. Also, I'm a masochist and the pain feels great   I need some TLC afterward though.

[Guest LittleSlytherinMermaid]

[Little kaiya]

LittleSlytherinMermaid hit the nail on the head for me in saying it's about control. For me it isnt about the pain, it's all abou the control and trust. It's about laying across my Daddy's lap voluntarily and showing how much I trust him. It's about him taking that last bit of submission I struggle giving up even though I desperately want to give it up. Spanking for us is something grounded deeply in love and trust and is a display of that deep and abiding bond.

 

Little kaiya

[Guest Sugarsnap]

I like the mix of pain, submission, and release. And, like others have said, it's an exercise in trust. A lot of information is communicated through a good smack.

[Quirkygrl16]

Definitely agree with slytherin! I'm super independent and giving my daddy the trust and control.. just letting myself be vulnerable is amazing. It also is an huge stress relief for me

[WonderheartBear713]

For me, it depends on the situation. If I get in trouble and have a Daddy talk to me through the spanking about why I am being punished, I am focused more on him. In that case, the spanking is not enjoyable for me, but I know I need it for accountability. It's about someone caring enough about my choices to take the time to punish me. If it is a punishment but he doesn't keep me focused on my bad behavior, it stops being effective because I switch thoughts to seeing how much pain I can endure. I do love the marks too. I like the risk of being spanked in a public place like mall parking lot or similar place. Bedtime spankings help soothe me and help me sleep better. Can't explain that part, that's just how I feel.

[Aramis]

I enjoy causing pain for my little/sub, knowing she is enjoying the feeling of her butt burning and throbbing after a good spanking session is something I enjoy as well. Any form of punishment that causes her pain is something I enjoy and she does as well. Having her give herself over to me and submitting to me is a wonderful feeling as well because I know that she has given all of her trust to me. A good caning or figging session is very enjoyable as well!!

Yeah! 100% agree 

[Guest ~GlitterUnicorn~]

It just feels really good and I like the marks left behind by it

[Guest Littledreamer95]

The submissive part of it but also how it can be a playful way to start intimicy

[korilakkuma]

. Edited August 24, 2020 by lil.prinsesa